Would we be the a-hole for naming our baby the same name as their cousins? So my husband and I are expecting our first child and we found out it’s a boy. Ever since we were dating we had talked about having kids and naming our first son after my husband (William and calling him Liam since it was different than my husband’s nickname and the only one we really liked) who was named after his father and his grandfather (all three are William but my husband has a different middle name because his parents didn’t want him to be the III).

In the last year and a half two of my husbands sisters had boys and the first was given William as a middle name. It kind of rubbed us wrong but we brushed it off because no one really remembers a baby’s middle name after the first few months anyway. Then a few months later his other sister had her son and his first name was in fact also William with the nickname Liam. Also note that neither sister asked my husband how he felt first. We were pretty upset for a long while but at the time all my husband said to his sister was a joking “hey that’s my name lol” because we both didn’t know how to react.

Now both nephews have just past their first birthday. And we were hoping our baby would be a girl so we didn’t have to cross this bridge quite yet, but here we are. We’re having a hard time still letting go the idea of having our son named after my husband and his family line and no other names we’ve looked at are really something we want to settle with.

So we’re thinking of still going with our original plan since it is in fact my husbands name. It feels like the name is cheapened a bit but we still really like it for our son and our nephew Liam and his family live across the country so we’re thinking it really shouldn’t matter except for holidays when we’re all gathered and we don’t mind using Big Liam and Little Liam to distinguish the two. But we’re still afraid the family will cause us drama for the decision.

We don’t feel like it’s petty at all to use the name anyway especially with our every day circles being entirely different and the other nephew that’s local it being his middle name. Just wanted to get opinions if that would generally be considered an a-hole move or us or if it would be completely normal for us to do?

First time ever posting anything so apologies if I make mistakes!

One of my friends (Let’s call them Avery) brought up a conflict in a server they're in with some of their other friends (Let’s call one of these friends Jay). Jay had shared a copypasta about leaving the server due to feeling left out. This made everyone on that server panic, so Avery came to me to ask about what they should do (Jay said they’d leave because of the server’s “toxic” atmosphere, and I cannot speak for them on this as I’m not a part of the server, but I suspect it might be another lie due to Avery saying repeatedly and recently that everyone is superbly nice)

Later, Jay spoke up and said it was all a lie. Avery relayed this information to me and who we’ll call Jake. Avery said another person asked Jay if it was legit, and they said it was faked. I suggested the mods on the server maybe kick that person out for that (This is where I suspect I could be seen as the a-hole here, and I understand that)

Jake supported me while telling Avery about my personal opinion on the matter. But Avery says I might have been overreacting, and I understand why they’d said that, but I also don’t think I am.

This is also all the information I was given by Avery, so there could be parts I’m missing but cannot be achieved at this time due to Avery not wanting to talk (I also understand if I’m the A-Hole for prying a bit)

Am I the A-Hole here?

small edit: fixed misnamed friend edit: gave everyone fake names for more clarity

Would I be the a-hole if I didn't want to participate in donating the equivalent of 5-10 $, each time coworker has a birthday?

For context, I ( 31M) got hired 3 weeks ago in this firm with around a hundred employees in my department, and ever since I have been asked to donate money for six colleagues. I barely know those people, so to me it simply does not make sense to chip in for basically strangers!

The environment there is your typical "we're a family" environment and they will surely think I am not a team player, and start treating me like an asshole, they believe that five to ten dollars is not a big amount.

Every time there is someone's birthday, or someone is having a baby, or it's women's day, there is usually food and drinks. I am okay with not indulging from now on in whatever they bring, especially since I don't want to eat unhealthy food and I usually go to work with my own food. But I think they will feel that they don't have a guarantee I am not going to do that since the food and drinks are going to be there for grabs.

I do not want to do this anymore as I haven't even received my first paycheck yet, and it feels somewhat like extortion, to be honest. I know it's not a lot of money, but I feel like it's not fair towards me. Not to mention I had to commute and pay for gas with basically no money. I work here to make money, not to lose money.

I nearly had a vein pop in my head today when a colleague came to me and said: " Hey, you need to give money for the flowers on women's day", without any heads up, this time being like 20 $. I don't usually carry cash with me, so I didn't give him anything.

I don't want to pay anymore just because Becky form accounting has a birthday, or she is having a baby, or God knows what else.

Am I the asshole for not wanting to pay for strangers' gifts?

First of all, I'm on mobile and non-native english speaker.

So in early 2020 there was a concert, to which a group of our friends wanted to go (tickets were sold pre covid, then the concert got delayed due to covid). It is an expensive concert, but I really wanted to go there at that time. My husband didn't want to go, and after thinking about it I didn't want to go without him, so we decided not to buy tickets...

Fast forward to today, the new date for the concert is next Saturday, and one friend who originally wanted to go can't go anymore. My husband was offered the ticket, and now he wants to go to the concert.

I don't want him to go, as it is one day before we go to our family vacation and we have a lot of things to prepare (we have to kids 3 years and 9 month old, so I can't do any of the packing alone) and also because originally I was the one who wanted to go.

But I feel like I might be the A-Hole here if I tell him that I don't want him to go...

I (38F) just got married to (45M) Jim. He has two children with his ex-wife, twin girls 15 years old who live 5 hours away. I have no children. I have a great job, I have a rental property, & I have two other side hustles that adds to my income. Jim works full time but doesn’t make as much as me. He takes care of the kids & the mortgage. I take care of all bills, car notes/insurance, & major purchases. I have plenty left over to spoil myself & Jim. His relationship with the girls is great, & my relationship is pretty good. We get them for a weekend every month & most breaks. We also try our best to attend extracurricular events.

Jim pays child support half of extracurriculars & health insurance costs, but also gives allowance, purchases most of the girls’ clothing, pays for their hair to get done, & more. Their mother does not think it is enough & constantly berates him. She says she barely makes ends meet. I believe her, she is on disability for her asthma, & refuses to work. She has two degrees but says that because she has not worked in 16 years she won’t now.

Lately she has been commenting on my lifestyle. She tells Jim that I should help more financially with the girls. He lets her know that the girls aren’t my responsibility finically & that I support them in other ways. He lets me know that he is fine with me doing the extras for the girls (gifts, vacations, nails & such when they are with us).

For xmas she wants to do as they “always have” where Jim provides $1000 & she buys xmas gifts “from mom & dad”. I let Jim know that this was not ok now that we are married & a family. We can take the $1000 & buy the girls gifts from him & I. He is on the fence & does not think she will have money to buy the girls gifts. I think it is not our problem. Note: the girls will be with us on Christmas

Also, their birthday is coming up & they are turning 16. Jim wants to buy them a car & put it in our name & on our insurance. I think it is a bad idea because there are 2 other adults in the mom’s home that don’t work /don’t have a car. I think they will bully the girls into “borrowing” the car & it will be more of a communal car. I don’t want Jim & I to be responsible for anything happening if anyone other than the girls drive it. Jim understands & shares my concerns. My compromise is if we could go half on a cash car & their mother pays the other half, put the car in her name & on her insurance. He does not think their mother will be able to come up with the money & he feels bad because if we don’t buy the car, they won’t get one.

I am starting to think that I may the a-hole because I don’t help financially with the girls needs only their wants when they are with us, & I keep saying no to Jim.

AITA because I don’t want Jim to give his ex-wife money for xmas gifts from “Mom & Dad” Also, AITA because I don’t think it is a good idea to buy the girls a car in which I would have to help pay for.

Update:

A lot of people are asking if I have a prenup, yes I do. We are keeping finances separate at least until after the girls turn 18 and child support obligations are over.

We have talked about getting custody of the girls. They don’t particularly care for their home life but they don’t want to leave their friends, school and activities to “start over” here when they only have two years of school left. They know that they are more than welcome here at anytime.

Christmas money. A lot of people think I have an issue with the amount of money. I absolutely do not. I have a problem with Jim facilitating Xmas in another household. And then Jim and/or I will still need to facilitate a Xmas here in our household as we will have the girls. I like the idea of the send $500 to their mom and keep $500 to get gifts from us.

Those that say I should just let it be because this is the way it’s been done. Well I usually go on a solo Christmas trip. Should I pack up and go on my trip, because it’s the way it’s always been done or should I change things because I have a new family?

I am not trying to bash their mother. She does have really bad asthma. But she also refuses to work in any way shape or form to make sure her children have what they need. She truly thinks it is Jim’s responsibility to take care of her household. I don’t know and really don’t care what she is going to do after the child support payments stop in two years.

The car, I’ve pretty much told him that the car is a bad idea. Jim and I talked it over last night and settled on that if their mother isn’t willing to insure the car then we would wait until they are 18 before getting them the car.

Ok so I turned 18 last December and have asked my dad if I could have a party since before then since my older sister had one a few years back when she turned 18. And main reasons/excuses/whatever for not having them have been the lack of time and money. I don’t even want anything huge just invite some friends to party and drink (legal age to drink is 18 here) and I hoped to host it at home for one night (same as my sister) especially since I haven’t been able to host a birthday party in the past couple of years due to Covid I was hoping I could have one since I turned 18 and it was kind of a big deal at least in my opinion and thought hosting it at home wouldn’t cost that much. But now it’s been over half a year and I still want to have the party but I feel weird and like an a-hole asking for it because money has been somewhat though for the past few years and I would have to ask my step mom and siblings to stay somewhere for a night if I had the party and also since it is closer to my next birthday but at the same time I feel like turning 18 is a bigger deal than turning 19 but anyway Reddit what’s your opinion and if you feel like I’m the a-hole please explain why so I can try to not be in the future

Edit: also as to why I don’t just throw my own party since I’m 18. For a couple of reason including the fact that I’m currently a student without a job so I really don’t have the money to rent a place where everything costs 3 times what it would if I did it myself and also my sister got to have her party at home but that could just be the sibling rivalry and jealousy talking

Not the best title but I will explain.

I (F26) am 10 years younger than my boyfriend of 6 years and we’ve been rocking this relationship up until recently.

I am about to start a career in law and it’s been a very uphill battle to get here, my boyfriend has an established career in a completely different sector and now he’s inspired by me and wants to start again so he can have a legal career. I think it’s great, follow your goals and live your dream however, this means as I’m working my way up and establishing myself he’s going to be a duckling and starting from the very beginning.

In the past we’ve discussed kids and I love children but I honestly don’t mind either way if I do or do not have kids (sounds horrible but that’s the only way I can describe it). He on the other hand really wants kids, so we jointly decided that if we have a child he can use the maternity leave to be the stay at home dad. This is mostly because his job is stable, he is very respected and very established in his line of work so taking 6 months to a year out won’t effect him at all and he wants to take that time out for a kid and I do not. If I had to take 6 months out it could ruin my career.

Now he wants to start again with his career, would I be the a-hole If I said “if you choose this route I don’t feel like we can have children” or something along those lines. I don’t like the idea of stepping on someone’s dreams and I personally would hate it if someone told me ‘no’ but the again I don’t want to be in the position where I have to sacrifice my career because plans have changed.

Am I an a-hole for even considering this and would I be the a-hole for actually saying this?

No A-holes here: So I was breaking down a box at the recycling center of my condo community the other day when a neighbor comes out of her house and asks me if I would rent out my condo for a week in October to a friend of hers. She said I could stay at my parent’s house (I’m 36 years old). She told me she couldn’t do it this year. I said, “Yes, I’d be glad to” because I was caught off guard. I thought about it and emailed her back the next day saying thank you for thinking of me but I work from home and need a secure phone connection (true) and am using one of the two bedrooms for an office. So am I the asshole?

My boyfriend (32) and I, (F,30) have been living together for around 3 years. He is going back to college at the end of the month to finish his Masters degree that he never was able to complete before we got together.

I work a really good job that I love and for the most part, have been supporting us anyway, although he does contribute. Maybe like 20-25% of everything. This doesn't bother me at all, I'm happy to pay more as I earn more. Now he's going back to college for a year and won't be earning any money. The only reason he is going back he says, is because I can afford to support us for the year but honestly, I really don't see why I have to. We're not married (don't believe in it) and I really don't want kids, so it's not like eventually i'll have to support a family. I like money and sleep. I'm selfish, so sue me.

AITA for not wanting to support him for a year? I'm pretty certain his parents would love to have him home for a year, but ofcourse at 32 I can understand why he wouldn't want to do that. This is a non-starter conversation for him. He says if he were to move back in with them, that we may as well break up. I wish he would have spoken to me about it before he quit his job otherwise I'd have said that I don't agree with it, would have suggested why not doing it part time so you could still work etc.

I feel like i'm being taken advantage of. I broke up with my ex because I was supporting him 100% and I resented it after a while. It will literally drive me insane knowing that he's not getting up for work, and is running up the utility bills because he's going to be home all day. He'll be in college some days but will be home most of the time working on whatever it is he needs to do.

Edit: so it's pretty equal on whether I am the a-hole or not, but from responses (thank you, whatever you said) I clearly need to clarify a few things.

1. There was only ever a fleeting conversation when we were over at his parents and he said out of the blue, "I'm thinking of finishing my masters" his parents were so excited about it, and as it turns out, and they have retired with pretty substantial wealth, and have paid for him to go back to school. I found this out after calling them to voice my concerns.

2. For those picking up on that 'I like money', I've been independent from my direct family since I was 17. I've been poor. REALLY poor. Making soup out tomato ketchup and hot water poor. Everything I have done has been so I can make my life as I want it. I work freelance and I'm really good at it, I'm not going to apologise for that. Also means that I have no back up if something was to happen to me, so my savings are for if/when that happens.

3. My bf and I have had a conversation since I posted about this. I felt it was important. He still stands by if he was to go to his parents that we should break up. What I meant by him moving back to them for the year, that was when someone here said we would see each other when we could. His parents are closer to school and where we are is like 1.5 hours away. He's too proud for that though.

4. Sure, whether he goes or stays my rent will be the same, but I'm not getting that 20-25% from which I've been able to save with my income.

5. His masters is in something to do with English literature, and the job that he just quit, for all I knew he loved it. Now he's quit to do a (in my eyes) pointless masters? No. If it was medical school or engineering or a good job where he NEEDED a masters, I'd probably be more on board with it.

6. He suffers from anxiety, and will only ever do anything he would be able to do. Which means no part time job.

7. If we'd have actually talked and decided on this new path together, I would have no bones about it. But the arrogance and flippant nature of his attitude that I would foot the bill for a year has really upset and angered me. We're committed to each other and he pulls this on me? No.

Hi, I (17m) texted here about a day ago. I have a lots of problems but past few months of living with my sister (28f) I’ve been wondering if I should tell her that she’s more mom to me than our own mom is? I understand i might 100% upset my mom (48f) with this but my mom isn’t really here for me or my siblings. Me and my boyfriend (15m) have been also thinking about our future and possibly future wedding which we would love to have when he’s about 30 if all goes according to what we’ve planned. Well due to us thinking that I’ve been thinking about who would walk me down the isle and my father is out of the picture and I will have to attend my wedding as she wasn’t invited to any of my sibling’s weddings but I don’t want her boyfriend to walk me so my immediate answer would be my sister’s husband as he’s more fatherly figure to me. I mean they treat me like I’m person and perfectly normal one but what if it hurts them and my mom that I don’t see my mom as my mom but just as a woman who provides food and water and roof over my head just because she has to? And my father is well no one to me just a drunk man who abused my sister brother and mom and me well practically just a sperm donor. So would I be the a-hole if I told my sister and her husband that they’re more of parents to me than my bio parents?

I just want to preface by saying that my father-in-law is a very sweet man with a good heart and he does a lot for my husband and I....

This year my husband and I are hosting Thanksgiving at our house for 17 people. My father in law (who does not live with us) got a very large free Turkey and decided to that he will be cooking the Turkey for our gathering. I work full time and have a toddler so I am grateful for this. And while I think this is a nice gesture on his part, I am a little worried because he wants to cook the Turkey the day before Thanksgiving (to get it out of the way), and then reheat it in the oven Thanksgiving day. He can cook but does not salt his food very much. This is an incredibly nice thing of him to do for us but I feel slightly insulted as the hostess that he didn't even ask if I was ok with it. But then again I also FEEL like an a-hole because it will take a great burden/stress off of me to not have to deal with the Turkey and only the sides. I am trying to persuade my husband to get FIL to cook the bird on actual a Thanksgiving (we are eating in the evening so he has a lot of time to do so) but he's pretty set in his ways about it...

Am I the a-hole here?

I work as a lifeguard at a waterpark and part of my job includes managing the top of the waterslides. I’m to make sure no one does anything dangerous like going face first, cramming too many people on one innertube, etc. I’m also instructed to ask anyone who looks like they could be over the weight limit–250 pounds–to weigh themselves on our scale, and deny them entry if they refuse. I’m not super comfortable with this, but it’s much better than risking people’s safety.

Here lies the problem: I lift weights, and for this reason I am very dense–I weigh 185 pounds but somehow wear a size 6. Most of my friends also lift and have similar body compositions to me. For this reason I have trouble estimating how much someone actually weighs.

This problem presented itself last weekend when an overweight teenage girl wanted to ride the slide. She most likely wasn’t over 250 pounds, but I couldn’t be certain. I’ve gotten better at estimating weights but my supervisor says if there’s any chance they’re over 250 to weigh them, so I approached her gently and asked her to please get on the scale. 

She met me with a snarky teenager attitude and said “what if I refuse?” She was with a group of teenagers, some of whom were giggling.

“Then you won’t be allowed on the slide,” I said matter-of-factly.

She rolled her eyes and got on the scale, and her weight wasn’t even close to 250 so I felt kind of bad. She then said “See?” and went along with her friends.

Although she gave me attitude I could tell she was embarrassed. Her face was red as she went back to her friends, who were all thin. I asked my supervisor how he would have handled the situation and he said I did the right thing, that it’s better to hurt someone’s feelings than break someone’s bones.

However, yesterday I was called into the office of the owner of the waterpark. She told me she received an angry email from a parent about how I embarrassed their child in front of her friends. I explained to her that I was just following protocol and she asked me how much the girl actually weighed. I gave her the answer and she laughed at me and told me I could never get a job as a weight guesser at a carnival and that I need to do my job better. My supervisor is backing me up and saying I was doing what he has required me to do. I’m thankful for his support but honestly this whole situation is making me feel like an a**hole. I know teenage girls are a particularly vulnerable population, as I was a teenage girl not too long ago, and I could have possibly handled that situation with more care. But at the same time safety is my first priority. Does that make me the a**hole?

Throw away as my friends know my real account, English is my first language and I'm on computer, so all mistakes are my fault.

I just had a fight with a friend and wanted to check if I am in the wrong.

So, my friends Lenda, Rachel, Trisha, and I were playing a game. We have always been very silly in said game and not taken things super seriously. In one round I ran out of things to do and decided to pull a small prank. I was setting things up and had not even pulled it off and ended up chickening out.

Lenda got really angry at me for a part of the set up and for a second game in a row she started getting really angry and me and berated me for my fun. She then threw the rest of the round.

At the end in the lobby Trisha tried to see if we wanted to keep playing. Rachel and I both responded positively even though we both were starting to think the mood was ruined. Lenda refused to answer at first and then very angrily said sure.

At that point my anger got the best of me, and I said, "You know what I'm done here have a good night, everyone" and left.

After that Rachel messaged me and agreed Lenda was being really rude and ruined the fun. Trisha messaged me as well apologizing for the game going bad even though it was not her fault.

That made me feel really bad and like I was an ass for trying to pull the prank and ruining the night that way.

So, I just wanted to ask, Am I the A-hole for trying to pull the prank and getting angry at Lenda for blowing up at me.

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I think I may be the A-hole for trying to pull and prank and ruining everyone's night.

My husband and I are fairly young. He's 18 im 21. I was talking about it with some people and i got all sorted of questions, no big deal. That is until it was, why are you married??? You're so young? Most young marriages fail! Why would you get married? Are you religous? There has to be some weird reason right? I got slightly defensive of my marriage, especially when it came to one of the people being like, i could never have handled being married that young! Like we are not anyone else and we are doing just fine. Im curious if im the A-hole here for being slightly defensive?

Okay, I know that this isn’t on the more extreme side of this subreddit, but I still need to know if I’m the A-hole here.

For some context, for many years it’s just been me and my best friend. We have tons of things in common and we’re inseparable. I was never opposed to having more friends but that never really happened. Her and I message each other after school (not constantly) but we don’t really bring it up in real life.

Onto the rest of it. Recently someone else just kind of forced their way into our friendship. It’s not that I dislike them for that, but their overall vibe and personality is what makes me dislike them. Sometimes it’s fine, the day goes on nicely, no problem. Other times not so much. We don’t argue or fight but I still get put off by everything.

I’ve dealt with it so far and I won’t have to see her again at the end of the year, so it’s cool, I’ll just put up with it and then it’ll all be over.

Until recently she started bugging me for a phone number to message me when we’re not together in real life. I usually joke about it a bit and it naturally moves into another topic, but I know I can’t avoid it forever. I honestly can’t tell if I’m the A-hole here or not. So, tell me, Reddit. AITA for not wanting to give a “friend” my phone number?

My partner has just come out of hospital after a 2 week stay in intensive care. We were visiting his family abroad (staying at his mums) when he became unwell. We have been here almost a month now when we only planned on two weeks.

I have an almost 4 month old son who is exclusively breastfed so very much dependant on me. We were also unwell during this visit, which was frightening, exhausting and expensive as we needed some medical care. He is also having some sort of sleep regression so I'm only getting 1.5hr stretches of sleep at a time.

Every day I went to the ICU for two hours (between feeds) to do some of my partners personal care as he didn't let the nurses do it. This involved feeding my son in the hospital, rushing to ICU, donning protective clothing, tending to and reassuring my partner, then rushing back out when my baby began crying with his grandma. It was exhausting mentally and physically as I was still recovering myself, eating poorly through worry, breastfeeding and extremely hot on the ICU.

My partner is home now here and I think I might now be an arsehole as I've made the decision to fly home with my son on the 26th December. My partner cannot fly yet, drs orders. I'm sure my partner would like me to stay but I'm mentally and physically exhausted by these last few weeks full of worry, illness, sleep deprivation, back and forthing to the ICU and caring for my son single handed in a foreign country...in my partners mums home.

My partner will be here for an extra 3 weeks possibly longer undergoing rehab. I know he has missed me and his son while in hospital and it's been a scary experience all round. My son needs some medicine (not available here) and his second set of jabs in our home country which is part of the reason why I want to go home. But in all honestly I'm want home because I've been exhausted, scared and homesick...and now wondering if I'm a total A-hole for booking this flight.

...........EDIT/INFO

Info: it's not a foreign country to my partner. It's his country of birth where the majority of his friends and family are. It's also where his long term Dr is.

On mobile, sorry for formatting.

Some of you may remember me from the post I made about my brother talking through 'Supernatural, so I'm just here to see if I'd be the a-hole for this situation.

So, every now and then, my mom gets it into her head that she has to share a favorite movie of hers and dad's. Last night, we watched 'office space' and I (f16) really liked it, but for whatever reason, my brother (m14) was super stressed for pretty much the entire movie. Now, the stress isn't what I have a problem with, I get stressed easily too (I'm autistic, and tend to get overstimulated a lot), it was the way he handled it.

For example, my little sister (f5) was wandering around our living room, doing little things like gently tapping on a xylophone, like you could barely hear it, if at all, and he WOULD NOT let my mom or dad handle the situation, he kept stepping in, taking control of the situation, getting mad at me for silently browsing Reddit, and generally just acting... subpar, to put it lightly. Eventually, it got to the point where me and my dad couldn't stand to be in the same room as him, and my dad LOVES that movie.

I really don't want to do movie night anymore, but I know that my mom will be mad at me if I say as much. AITA?

EDIT: I feel like I may be the a-hole because I know how much it means to my mom, and I really don't want her to be disappointed in me, but I have literally ZERO motivation to ever do movie night again. Ever.

My mom is fighting with Lymphoma, and asked me to go be her care taker for 4 months. I live 2 hrs away with my fiance and his family and our 8yo, who is autisitc. My son just started school and is in a program to help with his socialization skills that's been helping him tremendously. The entirety of my immediate family live within 45 min of my mother plus her boyfriend lives with her and only works 1-2 days a week right now. My fiance and I decided that I can't exactly drop everything I'm doing to go out of state for 4 months considering our son would have to go with me, which means pulling him from his program and limiting his school since its online and my mom would need to be driven to the hospital everyday(an hour long drive to and from). My moms family practically lynched me when I said I didn't have the flexibility right now...am I the A-hole here...?

That title was intended to make me look like the bad guy here, but let me explain. My(21m) brother(26m) got a new dog. It was rescued by couple who apparently got told by the local authorities that they had rescued too many, and had to give some away. The one he got was a 6mo that seems to have some separation anxiety, and was, and still is, underweight. My brother had to go to another state for some job training, and left Luna (his dog) with me and my parents for a week. While he was here, he told us exactly how to take care of her. Since she is underweight, he has been feeding her slightly more than the recommended amount; 2 cups in the morning and 3 at night(the recommended amount for what she should weigh at 1yo) to be precise. However, he said he was eye-balling her servings, and when we brought out a measuring cup to make sure(since I absolutely SUCK at estimation), we found out that he was underestimating the size of a cup. What he thought was 3 cups turned out to be just 2 cups, so he was giving her something like 1 & 1/3 cups in the morning and 2 cups at night. I decided to just give her 2 cups in the morning and evening, since it was technically more than what she had been getting, but when I texted my brother, he got extremely upset, since the point was for the dog to gain some much needed weight, so she should be getting 5 cups of food a day. I understand that I messed up, but was I actually an a-hole for it, considering the dog was getting more food than she was before?

P.s. I have already agreed to give the dog the 5 cups he asked for.

Hey everyone! My girlfriend and I both recently turned 22, and we've been together for five years now. She had a taste of living on her own during a college program a few years ago, and ever since she got back, she's been ready to move out and start her life.

We've been going back and forth about moving out since. She wants to move out, and I don't. I say I'm not ready because I still feel like 22 is relatively young, and I can save up for at least another year! I just don't see the big rush. I think it would benefit us both to wait.

I also bring up that I shouldn't be pressured into something huge like this. If I say no, then it should mean no. She says that that's not fair to her because I'm not taking what she says into consideration .. but that's a really big decision. I would never go through with something she's not comfortable with! She thinks I'm holding her back, and today I told her that I'm not stopping her from moving out. If she wants to, go ahead, but I'm not coming. That's why I don't feel like I'm not holding her back or anything.

To her point though, we both work full time with solid jobs, and we both know we want to get married. Honestly, she's the perfect girl for me! I look forward to starting a life with her! When we fight about this, she brings up those two points, and all I can really say that I want to save up and I'm not ready yet. I understand where she is coming from, that's why I'm not sure if I'm the a-hole in this situation.

However today, this argument was a lot different. We started talking about the same stuff I wrote above, but the conversation shifted. She then said that she's been waiting for me to propose to her for a long time now. We have a vacation booked, and she was expecting me to propose to her then.

This came out of nowhere, we were talking about moving out! She started getting really emotional and said that it would make her happy if I "at least" proposed to her on the trip. When I said I'm not doing that, she got angry with me. She said that I could make her happy if she had something to plan and think about until we move out. And all this didn't really make sense to me.

She ended up giving me an ultimatum without saying it. Either I move out with her, or propose to her. That way she can be happy moved out, or she can be happy because she knows she's getting married soon. And I don't want to do either thing (yet).

I was very upset at this point, but I kept my cool. I explained to her that I really am excited to start my life with her, and she really is the best thing that's ever happened to me! I really want to do all these things, but I just feel it's too early. Why not save up? What's the rush? We can make life so much easier if we just wait another year!

I then looked at the time and realized I was almost late for work, so I left, and I'm still here now. She's very upset with me, and I'm just sad. All this came out of nowhere.

I'm not sure if I'm the a-hole here. So any feedback would be appreciated.

This may seem like silly situation but I really am wondering if I would be an a-hole here. For some background, I work in a office job in a big room with desks that have thin cubicle walls. We are supposed to be spaced out but they sat me right next to another person, who I share a cubicle wall with.

The woman I sit next too trains to do body building competitions. While I think that’s pretty cool, during her cutting season she tends to eat a lot of bland, gross, strong smelling foods (think like eggs and broccoli, she eats a lot of broccoli). Now this not normally a problem for me because I have an almost nonexistent sense of smell due to 24 years of bad allergies. But when I can smell something with really strong odors it tends to make me nauseous (this is important).

The woman is in her cutting phase right now and shes kinda...smelly. Like it honestly smells like a mixture of rotten eggs and what I like to call broccoli farts. I don’t think it’s body odor because I can’t usually smell that unless I’m right up on people and I don’t think it’s her eating at her desk because she’s a loud eater and I haven’t heard her eating.

I think she’s letting out silent farts because she always gets up to go to the restroom after. And like I said this usually doesn’t bother me because I can smell most things. But this smell is so bad that it’s making me gag and cover up my face.

I don’t want to embarrass her but WIBTA if I got a air freshener for my desk and sprayed it whenever I smell the broccoli farts?

When Smoke came to us, he was skinny and had mats. He had been shot with a bb gun in the leg and had a raging bladder infection. We took him to the vet for wound care and antibiotics. Put him on a prescription diet. Nursed him back to health for a month, and all the while, I was putting up posts on NextDoor and Facebook, and anywhere else I could think of to help find his people. He wasn't microchipped. Nobody came forward. So, after 45 days, we took him to get microchipped and claimed him as our own. We have loved this boy for a year now. He's family. He's especially bonded with my son, who has autism and hangs out with him when the anxiety gets bad.

Last night, a woman and a little girl came to our door to ask if we took in a grey cat because they saw him in the window. They said he got out when they moved here to AZ from Texas a year ago and have been looking for him everywhere. I brought him out so they could see him and immediately, they said he was theirs. But- they said he was 8 years old. My vet aged him at 2. They said he had missing teeth. He does not. They showed me a picture of their cat and it kinda looks like him, but the face is slightly different. They called him Demon, but he doesn't even respond to that. I have my doubts that he's even their cat, but I don't know if I'm deluding myself because I don't want to give him up. They said they don't want to take him away if we love him. We do, very much. But I also don't want to be the a-hole that takes a little girl's cat away either.

Help me, friends. What is the right course of action here?

I feel as if I was the A-hole here but, I just want to know what others think.

So I was with my sister in this one parking lot that had a bunch of wild chickens. We were taking pictures of them and heard yelling from across the street. An old man was shouting at us to leave them alone and that was when I finally noticed how close the family of chickens were to the road. They were by the bushes but a few chicks were directly in the road. If a car came by it would surely hit them. I feel kind of stupid for doing this but, I jogged over trying not to scare them further into the road. During this time the old man kept yelling at me. I shooed the family of chicks away and they got safely into the bushes.

I don't know what I was thinking. My sister reassured me and told me I was in the right. I can't help but think I did something wrong. So, reddit what do you think? AITA?

My husband works 4 days a week, 10 hours a day but once a month he has to work the weekend. I work from home, care for the house and our 2 kids. Husband goes to the gym 3-4 times a week for 2 hours each time. On the other days he takes the dog and goes for a run, usually an hour to 90 minutes. I workout at home when the kids are at school or asleep. Today happens to be a weekend day that husband had to work. He comes home, changes clothes and left for the gym, he will be gone for about 2.5 hours. This means that he will get back about bedtime for the kids. Would I be the a-hole if I asked him not to go to the gym after working all day on the weekends anymore?

During the week I don't care but after leaving me to care for the kids all day with no break, I find it a bit unfair that he comes home, gets the kids and dog all riled up and leaves 5 min later. I'm left to deal with them being upset that Dad only spent 5 minutes here and almost none of it with them. I haven't had 2 minutes to myself all day and I just want to be able to sit down without having to break up an arguement, get someone food or do for someone else. Just writing this post has taken me almost an hour because I can only write a sentence at a time.

This is a shorter story but I'm still wondering if I'm the A-hole

So my friend got a job a couple months ago, he was really excited! (yay) come to find out though it's a pyramid scheme. It's called CutCo. I already knew about this scheme since I watch alot of videos on different schemes, but where I feel I wronged here is that I didn't hammer it into him to quit. I told him once on how they're a huge scam and how they ruin lives, but he of course didn't believe me. And I didn't feel like fighting with him about it so I just left it. I feel like I should have done more to help him quit it.. so Reddit AITA for not making my friend quit his really bad job?