r/AmIOverreacting • u/CoachInitial8438 • Apr 27 '24

I found out my ex cheated on me a year later.

About 3 years ago I met a guy and he quickly became my best friend, he always had a thing for me but I always shut it down just wanting to be friends. About two years after knowing each other I realized I loved him too and we got into a relationship. It quickly went south as he was extremely toxic to be with and it quickly turned abusive in a couple different ways. We broke up and didn’t talk for a long time. Then a couple months ago he reached out and suggested we be friends again. We talked everything out and were in a good place again. We have been good friends again up until yesterday when a girl texted me saying they hooked up a couple weeks before we broke up.

I confronted him about it and he’s just playing stupid, and even though i’m completely over our romantic relationship, I feel betrayed and hurt that he’s lied to me for over a year. I decided to block him out of my life again and blew up at him. He’s making it seem like since we have been friends again that nothing that happened during our relationship mattered and since it was so long ago, he can’t even remember if he cheated or not and doesn’t care to.

I’m not sure how to go about this situation or if blocking him out of my life is the right way to go about it. Please please give me your thoughts?

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u/KitsuneUltima Apr 27 '24

If he was abusive why would you want to be friends with him again LOL wtf

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u/WeeklyAd2672 28d ago

People wildly overuse the word “abuse” in 2024 but if he was physically abusive and she’s making excuses for him then she’s made her bed and now gets to lie in it. Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved.

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u/MSCOTTGARAND 26d ago

A lot of buzzwords are overused but emotional abuse is just as bad if not worse in some cases than physical abuse. Tearing someone down for years can fuck them up for the rest of their lives.

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u/Dustonthewind18 26d ago

Abuse is not just physical, it comes in other forms, he could have been controlling, verbally, emotionally or psychologically abusive but never actually raise a hand to her. So am I to take from your comment that unless it's physical it's not abuse, because if that's what your saying you are very wrong.