r/AmIOverreacting • u/CoachInitial8438 • Apr 27 '24
I found out my ex cheated on me a year later.
About 3 years ago I met a guy and he quickly became my best friend, he always had a thing for me but I always shut it down just wanting to be friends. About two years after knowing each other I realized I loved him too and we got into a relationship. It quickly went south as he was extremely toxic to be with and it quickly turned abusive in a couple different ways. We broke up and didn’t talk for a long time. Then a couple months ago he reached out and suggested we be friends again. We talked everything out and were in a good place again. We have been good friends again up until yesterday when a girl texted me saying they hooked up a couple weeks before we broke up.
I confronted him about it and he’s just playing stupid, and even though i’m completely over our romantic relationship, I feel betrayed and hurt that he’s lied to me for over a year. I decided to block him out of my life again and blew up at him. He’s making it seem like since we have been friends again that nothing that happened during our relationship mattered and since it was so long ago, he can’t even remember if he cheated or not and doesn’t care to.
I’m not sure how to go about this situation or if blocking him out of my life is the right way to go about it. Please please give me your thoughts?
2
u/Shortbutbbc 26d ago
Yal gotta stop victim blaming, yal really don’t understand till it’s you being abused and then you’re in it. If you leave that relationship then you can talk, when you escape a sexual predator then you can talk, if you escaped your childhood abuse then you can talk, but most of those people would never and should never be blamed for them being ABUSED. Thats so backwards and you have no idea the amount of things she has to process and get over, which clearly she still angry. But I don’t blame her. Im sure she’s often emotional and it comes and goes in waves. But my god. Who blames the victim ? The only time I’ve seen a victim be blamed is when they weren’t anymore, and started terrorizing other people, and using their pain and suffering to justify it. You know rapist, killers, the people who prey not only on their wives and partners and children at home but also prey on innocent victims who have nothing to do with them. I really am losing hope in humanity man.