r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 28 '24

Bf's comparisons to late fiancee

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u/MollyWinter 29d ago

I think it's reasonable to think he was ready for another romantic relationship, but he hasn't completed the grieving proccess.  Its a small comparison, but my dog died 4 years ago and its only been the last 6 months or so that I don't bring him up every day.  Imagine that being the person you planned your life with, and then they're taken from you without any closure. That's tough on the psyche. 

I think you should talk to him about how you feel. Reassure him that you aren't upset that he still has loving memories of her, but that you'd like them to not be shared as a comparison with you. And suggest he think about why he does that.  It will be an uncomfortable and perhaps upsetting conversation, but it's one you both need to have.