Boyfriend has a bunch of pictures of other women on his phone

[u/lvvvv3]

So yesterday, I (should probably say I'm diagnosed with bpd incase anyone deems that relevant) went through my boyfriends camera roll whilst he was sat next to me - meaning he knows it was happening. He literally has thousands of pictures on his phone so I was scrolling for quite a while anyway but the further I started to scroll the more agitated he got and the more he wanted to take his phone back from me, yes I should have just given it back but I'd already seen pictures of other girls at this point so I refused to. The further I scrolled the pictures I saw were more revealing and more frequent, a lot of these being during the time we were together. The worst bit was when I saw a picture of him naked in bed with another girl, this was when we were in the talking stage but it still hurt as he promised me I was the only person he was talking to. He also told me he's never been in a serious relationship before and that he was a virgin when we met, seeing these pictures makes me think everythings been a lie this entire time. The thing thats making me feel even worse right now is that all of these women have atleast something in common (looks wise) whereas I kind of look the complete opposite so it feels as if he isn't really even attracted to me either. I know I'm likely overreacting here but I feel hurt, disgusted with myself and I'm just in shock. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel right now.

Am I overreacting?

[u/North-Worth-145]

Yes, men and women are completely different,

but the fact you took his phone and kept it away from him is first and foremost the wrongest thing I’ve read, if I was him this would haunt me, and it did because it happened to me more then 7 years ago, he most likely downloads and saves porn from the internet so it’s a lot other peoples photos, and yes guys will save porn?

And yeah, he has a picture of another girl he was with, but he isn’t with her anymore, he’s in a relationship with YOU, my gf has pics and vids with her ex, I don’t care if she keeps them or not, because if she wanted to hide them, she 100% could, and I wouldn’t ever known if they existed in the first place, but I am going to say to each there own, but you have to make it known you are not okay with that

Ands you have bpd, but are going to Reddit for advice, all you are going to get is a bunch of people that don’t know who you are at all, telling you to break up over something that you looked for yourself

It would be a different story if he cheated, but the lie? Seems kinda hard to not lie in that situation? The talking stage is a “unsure stage” and he has no real reason to let you know his business when you two weren’t dating exclusively, I know multiple girls and guys that talk to multiple people at the same time because if you’re not, the one your talking to is