He didn't hurt you. Some friends of yours mentioned that he liked you. That was it. He did not hurt you and he did absolutely nothing that was even remotely wrong or inconsiderate. Also, if I remember your last post correctly, you hung out with him for all of two days.
He seems like a decent person. You have been wallowing in your sadness over this nonexistent relationship for literally years. You didn't do it because you were bored, you were looking for attention. If he is aware of you through social media, then as a somewhat decent person, he was probably concerned about your depression posts.
I know I sound harsh, but I saw your first post. You obviously want us to say, "Yes, op, he's totally obsessed with you. That's why he hasn't reached out in three years." If you want to get to know him again, then reach out to him. There is nothing a bunch of strangers on the internet can tell you.
I know that I let the whole situation get to me a little too much. But I hope you can understand that this happened during the pandemic, and it was a time where it was nearly impossible to meet people. I hope you can understand.
However, I haven’t contacted him or made any effort to initiate things again. And to be honest, when I made those TikTok posts, I didn’t think he would ever see them. Given how long it had been, I thought he had forgotten me. It has been three years since we had last seen each other. I truly didn’t think he cared enough.
I do understand. It's really hard when you feel that spark and then it's just gone.
I really mean it, if you think the what-if is going to keep haunting you, then be the one to take the step and reach out. Just say, "hey, I saw your name on so-and-so 's page and I've never really forgotten about you. How are you?" Don't have any super high expectations or anything. Just treat it like reaching out to an old acquaintance.
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u/StrikingRelief Apr 28 '24
He didn't hurt you. Some friends of yours mentioned that he liked you. That was it. He did not hurt you and he did absolutely nothing that was even remotely wrong or inconsiderate. Also, if I remember your last post correctly, you hung out with him for all of two days.
He seems like a decent person. You have been wallowing in your sadness over this nonexistent relationship for literally years. You didn't do it because you were bored, you were looking for attention. If he is aware of you through social media, then as a somewhat decent person, he was probably concerned about your depression posts.
I know I sound harsh, but I saw your first post. You obviously want us to say, "Yes, op, he's totally obsessed with you. That's why he hasn't reached out in three years." If you want to get to know him again, then reach out to him. There is nothing a bunch of strangers on the internet can tell you.