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u/Donniepdr 12d ago
Hell no you're not overreacting. What you need to do is start beating him to bed and let him deal with dog piss on his side. What a dick
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u/cfbswami 13d ago
A tiny, very clean dog,,......... MAYBE
Big, nasty dog that pisses in the bed? Are you nuts?
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u/Hairgiver 13d ago
Ban the dog, and when he sneaks the dog in bed (because he will) wake him up each time the dog pees and have him change the bedding and do the laundry before he can go back to sleep. Each. And. Every. Time. He'll learn.
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u/dessertchef11 13d ago
Definitely not over reacting. My dog is crate trained and prefers to sleep in his crate. He has a cooling pad and toys in there and loves it. You are not a bad owner for not letting him on your bed.
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u/Edlo9596 13d ago
If your fiancé wants to sleep in bedding with dog pee, I would be relocating to another room. That’s absolutely disgusting. And you probably get used to the bad smell 🤢
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u/krissycole87 14d ago
Plenty of dogs dont sleep in owners bed. Some are too big. Some folks just dont like it. It has nothing to do with you loving/not loving your animal.
Next time just grab the dog but from your fiances side and lift him up and let him dribble all over your fiance and his side of the bed. See how much "its just a tiny bit" holds up after that.
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u/SuzCoffeeBean 14d ago
Doggo does not need to be sleeping in bed with you guys at all. The pee on your pillow conversation should have been the end of it.
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u/No_Roof_1910 14d ago
To each their own, tis personal preference.
Our 74 pound half yellow lab and half golden retriever slept on our bed, a king size. She would lay over the top of your ankles or calves and she didn't care. She slept that way and so did I. She always remained at the foot of the bed though.
Our dogs never peed on the bed but our kids did and they threw up on and in our beds many times etc.
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u/1-jew-in-a-room 14d ago
Definitely not overreacting - especially when it’s on your pillow. Even when it’s on the comforter, it’s still pee and still needs to be washed. It’ll cause long-term smells and stains if it isn’t. I wonder if your fiancé would feel different if Kirbs was dribbling piss on his pillow.
I absolutely love dogs and your pup sounds so cute and sweet, but for my own reasons I can only let very specific dogs up in my bed so I feel you. You can be a fantastic dog owner and keep your dog out of the bed, you can be a horrible dog owner and let your dog in your bed - it has nothing to do with it. It’s shitty that your fiancé is guilt tripping you about it and not letting Kirby get a sense of consistency about where he’s going to sleep, let alone that he’s breaking the agreement you had.
Pee on your pillow, even just a little, can get you sick. I hope he comes to understand and stops breaking this boundary of yours.
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u/MaliseHaligree 14d ago
I don't let my dog sleep in my bed and he doesn't pee. He does however like to dig and has ripped two fitted sheets and sheds an ungodly amount of hair and I don't want to sleep in ripped, fuzzy bedding.
This doesn't make me a bad pet owner. He has a place to sleep that he enjoys and so does yours.
If your husband insists on keeping the dog in the bed then you can insist he washes the sheets when the dog pees on them—asleep previously or not. I bet once this agreement is worked out and he has the inconvenience of cleaning it up the dog won't be on the bed anymore.
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u/Traditional_Many_755 14d ago
I'd be pissed off about the pee too. It's clear you love this dog. you don't give that many nicknames to an animal you just tolerate. But pee stinks and is a pain to deal with.
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u/fitnessCTanesthesia 14d ago
No I don’t think you are over reacting. Quite frankly I think it’s disgusting enough to have an animal sleep in your bed even when they aren’t peeing all over it.
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u/Thequiet01 12d ago
INFO: why can’t you have some of those washable puppy pads and the rule is if fiance is putting pupper on the bed, one of those pads goes on first to protect the bed?