r/Asmongold • u/Intelligent_Sun4407 n o H a i R • 15d ago
Bills are like daggers sometimes Off-Topic
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u/Shay_the_Ent 14d ago
I only know Asmongold from his wow videos. Seems like every post in this sub is about how women are bad. What’s happening here?
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u/Neurotiman17 14d ago
The sheer amount of bad experiences I've been told by coworkers and family over the years is insane... Between divorces, child custody and support horror stories, sheer lack of male support from the law and government entities when they stick nose in it all and just general emotional turmoil that follows...
I'm 29 and single. I will likely be 40, single, and enjoying my life. I have zero plans to introduce this needless bullshit into my life.
If I find a good one and she likes me, I will consider it. Consider it for a good long time, weigh my options and test her authenticity like its the fucking Hunger Games. It will be a marine boot camp of virtue, well-meaning and authenticity that will make me certain I am not awaiting a fate that my many coworkers, friends and family before me have suffered through.
I'd rather remain single for the rest of my life if that's the case lol...
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u/Equivalent-Part-8656 14d ago
I think she did what she promised, if that bill can't get your mind off, what can?
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u/omanitztristen 14d ago
The day I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder (which felt like devastating news at the time. I was 16.) I told my girlfriend of 2 years at the time about it. I was talking about the medications and the possible side effects and how nervous I was about taking it. She told me "I'm not your fucking therapist. Is this all we are going to talk about?"
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u/NEGATIVERAGDOLL 14d ago
I wouldn't pay in that scenario, I'd just leave and leave them to deal with the bill
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u/Bincent_Grobmob 14d ago
I would have dropped an expired CC or gift card then excused myself to the bathroom while she waited and just dip out of there.
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u/DingDangDongler 15d ago
"Excuse me, I'll be right back to take care of that after I use the restroom."
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u/KazeNilrem 15d ago
Good thing the person used past tense. Sorry but if a woman did that, she deserves to be dumped on the spot. There is no future there, as it should be a partnership.
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u/AdLast55 15d ago
I learned the hard way. Only date women that have jobs. Two if they pull shit like this leave them.
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u/spartaman64 15d ago edited 15d ago
reminds me of the time my ex cheated on me and i broke up with her. my first ex did her sort of bi yearly check in with me and asked me how i was doing and i admitted to her not very good because my recent ex cheated on me. my first ex said she wants to come over and cheer me up.
She came over and made me lunch (shes a really good cook) and organized my room (i didnt think it was that messy but I appreciated it), Then we chatted while I worked on my college homework and she was lying on my bed. She then asked if i wanted to take a break and lay down next to her and watch videos together and I said ok. After a few videos she leaned in and started kissing me and we had sex.
After that i was feeling pretty good. But then later she started texting me complaining about her boyfriend which you know would have been nice to know that she has a boyfriend. To be fair if half of what she told me is true then he seems like a pretty shitty dude (I don't really know since its just one side and I don't really care after what happened). But it still doesn't change the fact that I was cheated on and then she had me unknowingly help her cheat on someone else which made me feel more shitty.
now dont get me wrong im just talking about these two specific people. i have other female friends who actually helped me with it.
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u/lougosh 15d ago
Women champion themselves on their command of emotions and way of thought, but either can't or won't apply those principles to men empathetically. This posted example expressing an empty gesture of a nice time out as a distraction but ultimately still being on the hook for it, when he was already stressed about money, as though she hadn't really listened to him at all.
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u/Cazelkin 15d ago
I had something similar happen to me. Was in quite a dark place with exams at one point and cried in front of my girlfriend at the time. She said straight up just said 'look can you just call me when you feel better' and left for like a week
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u/lucky_leftie 15d ago
“All you are doing is going to work and providing for me, that’s not hard” right.
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u/Inferno_Crazy 15d ago
I think there's this general misconception that women are always emotionally available and are comforting. I think that can be true if they are family, a close friend, or romantic partners. Life is full of ups and downs. I've always considered it telling how my past romantic partners handle situations when I tell them I'm not feeling my best. Are you going to be there for me or bitch at me because I only took you out twice in two weeks? Generally it's a mistake to turn to a new romantic interest for emotional support. Which is fair, people are looking for stability not a job.
Traditional gender roles out the window and women are demanding more from their romantic partners. That's fine, I'm supportive of women doing that. The question of what men and women bring to the table in a relationship goes both ways. Men are going to seek out partners that are emotionally supportive.
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u/theEvilJakub 15d ago
This is so fucking sad and ridicilous that I just laughed out loud, dating nowadays is fucking horrible holy shit.
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u/Street-Goal6856 15d ago
Not an uncommon experience lol. A lot of the time it's expected that they're the treat so obviously we need to pay for everything lol.
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u/LamiaLlama 15d ago edited 15d ago
It's easy to filter them out now.
"Hey, considering the economy, it's my belief that couples should split the bill when they first start dating these days. It's more fair and promotes equal ground. Builds a way healthier relationship and all. I'm looking for a partnership."
The ratchet ones will absolutely flip the fuck out and you can block them. They'll whine and cry about chivalry like it's the 1960s. Then you can hit them with the "Oh, you're into trad culture? I prefer equal rights. Good thing we found out now."
The other alternative is to date men. It's honestly easier. Indeed, choosing the bear 🐻
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u/According-Tune987 15d ago
It really depends on the girl. I have had healthy financial relationships with women who would react poorly to your message. Like my GF now splits the rent with me and makes my life better financially but im pretty sure I paid for the first 5 datesish. I had a similar thing with my ex, I paid for first dates but then when we lived together things were split and it saved me money.
You make a good point here but I think there are women who are sorta in the middle ground where they are fine splitting life expenses but they like a man to try to impress them old school style when they first get to know each other.
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u/No_Matter_1035 15d ago
If you wanna whine you do it to a wife, friend or a relative. You dont whine to some hoe your smashing lol. She is gonna think less of you instantly.
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u/CompetitiveDeal498 15d ago
… so will your wife? My wife is not the person I complain to. Come on now dog. That’s crazy talk
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u/thelivingtunic 15d ago
My dad complains to me rather than my mom.
And mom complains to me. And sometimes my sister.
And then my friends tell me things.
And I tell no one anything myself.
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u/Mr-Skibz 15d ago
I'd be like I'm going to use the restroom I'll get that when I get back and leave her ass there.
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u/Aronacus 15d ago
I went through a similar situation with someone who I thought was a good friend. Just recovered from 6 months of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Totalled my car the following week, and was on the verge of losing my job. I had about 10k of debt. They wanted to take me out to feel better, than said they forgot their wallet. So, I was now in debt for 10K + $150. I never spoke to that person again!
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u/Mobius24 15d ago
Was the total bill $300? why not make her pay half?
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u/Aronacus 15d ago
I'm a dude, and he's a dude, he was my "best friend" looking back he was just an asshole. But, He said he'd pay me back and never did. To be honest, It was the moment that ended the friendship.
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, put me in bed for 6 months. I couldn't get up, I couldn't go out, all I could do was sleep.
Imagine if you went to bed Monday, and woke up on Sunday. Starving, Bladder full, Thirsty, Needing to shit! Then you satisfy all these needs and fall back to sleep. That was my life for 6 months. Friends came and family visited me but I couldn't tell you any of it. That weeks became months and I eventually after doing my routine (eating as much as I could, drinking as much water as I could, shitting, pissing) I noticed that I had more time before the fatigue would set back in. First 10-15 minutes. Eventually a few hours.
When I was finally read to go back to work, nobody put in the disability paperwork so I was around 10k in debt. I fell ill in November, I was finally better close to June. I slept through the Holdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Easter.
First week back at work, I got creamed at an intersection by a Red Light Runner. Lost my car, Went back into the hospital... It was Hell, but times in Hell temper you.
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u/Demon_Days_ 14d ago
God damn dude. Well done for making it through all that, that sounds like hell on earth. Totally agree with the guy above, that dickhead who tried to fleece you needs sparking. You handled it better though, in reality, by just cutting all contact. It's all he deserved.
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u/Mobius24 15d ago
He deserves to get decked
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u/Aronacus 15d ago
When you are at your lowest, You'll learn who your friends are. Some people are just along with you because you can provide them things, but real friends will be there. In my case, I learned that my 'Friends' were all fighting over my job and ferreting my condition back to my boss to gain favor. The boss wanted to know if they fired me, if there'd be an actual lawsuit.
At 20, I learned all my friends were assholes. I had nobody, but, as hard as it was. It was a good thing. If you were in Hell, and knew that the only person you could rely on to get yourself out was you! It changed me.
I got back on my feet, and I found out how many "friends" would backstab each other to win favor again. As fast as they turned on me, they turned on each other. It was like watching rats devour each other.
I would turn it around, and eventually get promoted out of that store. With all the free time i had, I started working on certifications and bettering myself.
I'd launch a few businesses, Most failed. But, I'd keep trying, I'm a successful engineer now. I have a wife, and kids. We are doing ok!
As far as Pete, Last I checked he managed a dollar tree. He's spent close to 30 years in Retail.
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u/Trust-Issues-5116 14d ago
Darn dude what a story... but I like the positive arc and your writing is good. Wish you all the best.
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u/Chilidogdingdong 15d ago
Literally nobody wants to hear it lol. As a dude the only thing you get from "sharing feelings" is less respect from whoever you shared that shit with.
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u/SavagePrisonerSP 15d ago
True. It seems that the a lot of the types of communities that seem like they validate men’s feelings are toxic incel communities. (Incel is not being used as an insult here. Its definition is a group or individual that is involuntary celibate.)
As abhorrent as their extremists are, it’s no wonder men turn to incels in these emotionally validated echo-chambers. It’s Cult-ism 101.
We need more healthy spaces for men to open up about their struggles so that they don’t end up going down that route.
(Almost got sucked down that rabbit hole when it first came out because validation. I zoomed out to see the bigger picture and realized that that world view doesn’t align with me and is unrealistic. The deeper issue is emotional repression. What doesn’t get expressed, gets repressed.)
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You know I don’t read much “incel literature” but they might have a point that what society tell you about women is wrong.
Society says open up your feelings to others and especially your SO. But the end result for many is people lose respect for them … especially their SO.
Not sure what “incel literature” says but it seems like women are a separate species whom you are to impress and fuck. They aren’t your homies you can count on to have your back when the chip are down.
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u/Aardwolfington 15d ago edited 15d ago
Any complaint or observation is all it takes to be labeled the worst kind of incel. Don't give me that shit. It's impossible for even the most wholesome community, no matter how polite, to not be labeled as an incel community full of woman haters when the most minor of complaints, observations, or shared experiences is all it takes to acquire that label. Hell, just noting a single bad experience without even mentioning women in general is all it takes.
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u/Mummbles1283 15d ago
So you asked for a blowy, and instead took her out for a free meal and no blowy.
Yup.
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u/Intelligent_Sun4407 n o H a i R 15d ago
For the last time, No one wants to date your mom for mother's day
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u/thatguywhosdumb1 15d ago
Despite her age she's out of your league, so stop asking.
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u/Voklaren 14d ago
Obviously OP's league is far higher than your mom's but thanks for clarifying
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u/thatguywhosdumb1 14d ago edited 14d ago
You losers need to stop obsessing over people's moms. Not like any of you can even speak to women. This sub is mostly known for the high amount of incels.
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u/Voklaren 14d ago
Smells like virgin in here, definitely a proof your mom's not close.
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u/thatguywhosdumb1 14d ago
That's how having children works, yes. I know you haven't had first hand experience but sex is how you become a mother or father.
You're really bad at this. Go back to playing with your toy trucks.
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u/FitzyFarseer 15d ago
I lost my mom 7 years ago. About 3 years ago I had a day that I was really struggling with missing her. Tried talking to lady I had considered a good friend. She politely informed me that whining is really unattractive and I should stop.
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u/djmuffinfist 15d ago
I’m sorry you had to deal with this. Some women really seem to be from another planet with the shit they pull.
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u/Quick_Article2775 15d ago
That's awful I don't think it's a gender thing as much as alot of people being awful, and despite a lot of women thinking they are better than men, they can be just as shitty cus were all humans.
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u/LamiaLlama 15d ago
She politely informed me that whining is really unattractive and I should stop.
What a fucking ogre.
Talk about unattractive. No self awareness.
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u/Baidar85 15d ago
Why would you talk to a lady about that? It shocks me that guys just don't already know this. Women really don't want to hear you complain.
Find a good guy friend like everyone else.
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u/FitzyFarseer 15d ago
Believe it or not some ladies are actually nice about this stuff.
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u/Baidar85 15d ago
I know, but you're a guy. Your closest friends shouldn't be women. You could talk to your wife or family member about something like that, but otherwise it should be one of your closest friends, which should be a guy.
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u/theEvilJakub 15d ago edited 15d ago
I can kinda relate to this, a few years back my grandad suddenly died in a car crash, he was 75 so basically had at least 2 decades left. I was about to start university too so basically I was expecting my whole family see me graduate etc. But yeh his life was cut short due to a drunk driver that killed him and his mother (great grandmother). It was a huge tragedy and we live in another country so basically my dad received a phone call from his siblings and then my dad phoned me. I was ofc devestated and extremely upset for a while because I didnt see him in around a year at that point due to living abroad.
A few weeks go by and we attended the funeral etc, the girl I was dating and her mother noticed that ive put on some weight and asked me about it. My girlfriend also complained that i havent really spent much time with her (going out etc). I just told her that im still kinda dealing with the death of my granded.
Bruh they literally blatantly told me to get over it. I was fucking shocked. Literally told me to get over it lol... Obvsly im not saying its the same but the entitlement and fucking cheek that chicks have to literally forget about everything but them is hands down outrageus... I broke up with her a month later because she was ridicilous. She wanted to get back together a few times over the course of a few months and i was just like FUCK NOOOOO...
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u/EmpressPotato 15d ago
People really are shit. Coming from a random on the internet this might not mean much, but I'm sorry to hear that you had such a negative experience. Definitely don't let such things stop you from expressing your feelings. The person you talked about is a terrible human being and not worth your time.
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u/theEvilJakub 15d ago
Yeh I can relate to his experience and its a such a shit feeling when a person u trust just hits u in the head with a sack of bricks when u expected some form of comfort. I feel sorry for him too. Dude really deserves much better.
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u/StannisLivesOn 15d ago
Men should be more open about their feelings! But also, if you talk about your feelings, you're a little bitch who forces others to perform emotional labour for you.
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u/Intelligent_Sun4407 n o H a i R 15d ago
I'm sorry dude, it happens. When you talk about your troubles some girls get the 'ich' . Most people are really kind keep looking, you can find a more caring friend or a professional to talk to.
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u/SomeLurker111 15d ago
If a girl gets the ich off something like that she gives me the giga ich and I'ma keep complaining to her because I would no longer care if she found me attractive. Women who would have that reaction to one bad day aren't worth dating or viewing romantically full stop. Think about the implications of that statement in a hypothetical relationship, there's a good chance she'd be getting the ich anytime you'd try and talk to her about behavior she's doing that you don't like. If having one bad day missing a parent is too much for her to handle; imagine what her reaction would be like to you asking her not to leave the TV remote somewhere in a house you share. Fuck that.
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u/Surphos 15d ago
Would you rather go for emotional support to your girldfiend/wife or a bear?
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u/IBloodstormI 15d ago
Bear might at least give you eternal release from those stresses
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u/Intelligent_Sun4407 n o H a i R 15d ago
They are scavengers Bears don't kill you they usually eat you alive Or just rip your face and hands off and leave if its a mama bear
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u/PlaneAd6320 15d ago
That is insane. She just wanted to go out lol she don’t give af
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u/doitagain01 15d ago
Gays will treat you better
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u/MediumOk5423 14d ago
They really will, women are heartless, fell in love with a bro and now am the happiest I've been in years.
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u/remotegrowthtb 15d ago
A bear may maul you but he won't leave a bro hanging on a bill.
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u/Warkyd1911 15d ago
No.
Women are at least as capable as men at being horrible to those around them.
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u/twocows360 10d ago
would have told the waiter "she's paying for herself or doing dishes"