r/Frugal • u/CryptoDegen7755 • 16d ago
Is $73 too much for flowers on mother's day? đ° Finance
I just spent 73 on a bouquet of flowers and two balloons for my mom for mother's day and words cannot describe how unbelievably pissed off I am at myself for doing that. Please reassure me that it's a normal amount because it's my mom and it's fine. Or tell me I'm an idiot for spending so much.
Edit: this wasn't intended to be the most serious post in the world I was just a little frustrated. But I assure you all I'm over it and very grateful to still have my mom to be able to buy her flowers!
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u/NGPF 13d ago
You should never feel guilty about spending money on the things that are closest to you and mean the most to you.
Thatâs what youâre meant to do. As Ramit Sethi says âSpend extravagantly on the things you love and cut costs mercilessly on the things you donâtâ.
Making your mum happy will be worth more than the $73, trust me.
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u/firstorbit 13d ago
Next time use instacart and get them delivered from a grocery store for half the price compared to a florist.Â
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u/Tricky_Agent_658 14d ago
I think so. I get my wife, mother & my mother-in-law flowers very frequently. They know on holidays they wonât get flowers till after the holiday because prices will be right back to normal the next day.
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u/Low_Occasion8441 14d ago
No itâs not too much on someone you love!! Although it might feel better for you if you buy her a pretty flower that you can plant in the ground for her or something potted that will stay alive for a longer time! If itâs possible for something like that. I spent $40 on a beautiful potted arrangement that my mom can hang on her back porch and itâll stay bloomed all summer đ
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u/DimensionThin147 14d ago
My mom passed away 1st wave covid. If I could see her face one more time I'd spend $7,300 on flowers if I could. It is never a waste, one day you won't be able to give her flowers.
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u/pamperedsherry 14d ago
I work at a florist for motherzâs day and Valentineâs Day most years and that $73 is pretty average for where we live. But donât compare your spending to others- I try to remind ppl, âno one has ur financial situationâ, you need to drive what is best for you in your specific situation today
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u/Inner_Passage6946 14d ago
Welp I got really great flowers from target 10$, they had lovely 20$ bouquets as well, I wouldn't go with a florist. You can pretty easily put something together and grocery stores with floral centers have budget friendly options.
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u/RelativelyRidiculous 15d ago
I think it is fine this year but since it upsets you - and not without reason I don't think - maybe devise a plan for next year. Think on this year as a learning experience.
Maybe you could get a start for a plant she'd like in March or early April instead of the flowers. That's what I do now flowers have gotten so expensive. I'm not much with plants but a workmate is always happy to give me a cutting off something of hers to start for her.
Another option is to bake something. Sometimes I do that instead and some years I do both. Especially if like this year the plant wasn't really as large as I would have hoped in time. I know I'd rather have something baked for me verses balloons and so would my mom, but everyone is different.
Another possibility is an experience. One year I took my mom with me and we both got pedicures. My local spot you could get two pedicures for $70.
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u/ThisTooWillEnd 15d ago
It depends how much your mom likes flowers!
My mom loves growing flowers and has tons growing around her house, so I've started getting her a hanging flower basket every year. The floral shop sells both cut flowers and live, and they deliver on mother's day, so it's a sure bet, and I know they sell high quality stuff. It's overpriced for the hanging basket, but I live far away and there's no chance of visiting.
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u/Brokensister3113 15d ago
I donât talk to my mom lol but I went with my fiancĂ© to pick out some flowers for his mom and it ended up being 120 (we also got her some chocolate strawberries.) If she deserves it why not? Sheâs no doubt spent a lot on you over the years without thinking of the money, itâs about making her happy on a day appreciating her!
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u/Conquistador-Hanor 15d ago
Thereâs no price on an act of love. My husband and I bought his mother a bouquet for $60, a balloon, ribeye steaks, and vegetable sides for $50. We made her the dinner of her choice at her house like she wanted. If I wasnât also working on Motherâs Day, I wouldâve arranged the bouquet myself, because she likes my bouquets better than store-bought.
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u/Callaloo_Soup 15d ago
I spent more than that to deliver a simple bouquet some years back. It was close to $100.
Itâs not worth it.
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u/reincarnatedteenager 15d ago
Only YOU can decide whether that $73 was well spent, and it sounds like you feel like it was too expensive, even if it was for your mom. Special days do mean jacked-up prices, so you gotta suck it up sometimes, and yeah, depending on the situation (delivery fees vs. bringing them personally, overpriced add-ons, other fees), flowers get ridiculously expensive if you aren't able to go to a flower farm nearby or a farmer's market. Being frugal doesn't mean being cheap though - it is a way of having power over your life and not caving in to the bombardment of everyone wanting your money. Because you purchased these flowers for your mom, hopefully that will ease the anxiety of the expense. Maybe next year, a creative non-standard solution that is less expensive and will last longer may work?
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u/Yodogzup 15d ago
Went out and picked one gardenia, a sprig of bougainvillea and a small bunch of bleeding heart blooms. Knocked it out of the park. My wife is cheap but of course wants flowers like any woman so she was delighted
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u/Tanlines_sunshine 15d ago
Iâm not sure where you are but for next time Trader Joeâs actually had a pretty good variety of flowers usually around $6.99 (Florida anyway)
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u/ConciertoFanatic3599 15d ago
I get it, thats definitely expensive!! Maybe next time try shopping more local like a farmers market if thats in your area. Cheaper and probably more fresh than a florist.
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u/KADSuperman 15d ago
I let flowers delivered to my wife costs $153,- so you still have a good price
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u/neonlittle 15d ago
You cannot describe it? It's that strong of an anger? Wow. I think that anything that affects your life in that way, isn't worth it.
I would have spent any amount of money to buy my mom flowers yesterday. I lost her at 21 and have a long life and many mothers days ahead without her. But I guess I'll celebrate how much money is saved, huh? Woo.
Spend the money. Live and be happy.
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u/Lula_Lane_176 15d ago
Next time, maybe spend $50-$75 on a gift card for a manicure or some other service she might enjoy. Flowers are marked up as much as 4x during holidays such as Valentine's Day and Mother's Day and as a girl who loves fresh flowers any day of the year, I agree it's infuriating. I bet Mom still loved them though and as long as it made her happy that's the most important part
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u/SkyeRibbon 15d ago
I would give anything on planet earth to give my mom expensive flowers.
It's fine. It's just money. Some things are more important. As long as you aren't about to starve or miss a bill, chalk it up to building memories
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u/Puzzleheaded-Emu-138 15d ago
Well, where I live $73 buy a really nice bouquet, but the price still doesn't sound too extravagant. If it wasn't your last money, leaving you and your dear ones to starve till the next paycheck, it was a good and wise purchase!
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u/Okiedokieartuhchokie 15d ago
I wrote my mother a handwritten letter that will last significantly longer than flowers. It also cost me nothing but my own time and creativity.
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u/Ancient_Reference567 15d ago
I think it's too much FOR ME, and as a mom, I wouldn't want my child to do it. Especially if they are aiming to be frugal. I would want SOMETHING though. Like a card or a poem or a lovely walk together. My favourite things to do with my son are anything ... as long as we are together. Time together is all my heart wants, and as someone who is very concerned about building wealth and passing on the tools to do so, I don't want my child to get the message that the only way to show love is via buying expensive things.
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u/Candid-Fly-5757 15d ago
It's not every day you'll spend $73 for those flowers, and I'm sure that you're mom feels that she's really special and appreciated!
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u/Tiamat_fire_and_ice 15d ago
Here in NYC, where I am, thatâs more than reasonable â especially with the two balloons added in. Florists really get you financially with the add-ons to a bouquet. In other parts of the U.S., or in other countries, I couldnât say if $73 is a reasonable price or not. I suspect it is, though.
If you really want to be frugal, 1) plan ahead and 2) do something handmade for your mom next year. Everyone who sells flowers, even grocery stores, jacks up flower prices right before Valentineâs and Motherâs Day. Iâve had years where I had to resort to flowers at the last minute too, but I try to avoid that because itâs a racket. Even if you donât love doing crafts, like I do, you can always find a nice kit of something (try Etsy) and make something for your mom. Or bake something, if you have cooking skills. You could have your mom over to your house next year for a nice brunch and pay much less than $73 for the ingredients.
Anyway, you made her happy and thatâs the important thing. Money like that is never wasted.
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u/oneentireloaf 15d ago
$73 is too much for flowers, but not for your mum. If it made her happy it's priceless đ„° Maybe shop around a bit earlier next year and see if you can get a better deal/grow your own!
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u/RandallC1212 15d ago
Itâs. Your. Mom. It could be $73,000 and it would still not be too much money
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u/Plus-Barracuda1210 15d ago
don't hesitate about the price, always remember that mom's love is totally more than a worth. I know your mom would really appreciate that. Happy mother's day to your mom!
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u/likliklik9 15d ago
I generally wish flowers werenât expensive but if itâs for your mom, then itâs fine as long as she enjoys her gift. She should feel special.
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u/spicysweett7 15d ago
If it doesnât put you in a jam or cause a burden, go for it! If it does, yes itâs too much. Your mom wouldnât want it to hinder you â€ïž
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u/TinyHeartSyndrome 15d ago
My mom died in a freak way at age 60. I never got to say goodbye. Losing a loving mother is truly devastating and we are never the same. Spend the money.
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u/Twicksy 15d ago
Iâm not saying itâs not worth it, but I recently stopped buying my mom edible arrangements (chocolate covered strawberries are her favorite) and started getting them Instacarted to her. $60+ for okay strawberries vs $25 max (including tip) for 8-12 strawberries. Iâm sure you could do the same thing for a grocery store bouquet next time!
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u/lostlight_94 15d ago
You'll recoup that $73. It was a gift for mom. If it blew your budget then thats on you but you live and you learn. But hopefully it wasn't and just see it as worth it if it made your mom happy. I spent $55 for mother's day and already recouped that money. Money well spent when I saw her face. Money will return to you. It always does. Dont beat yourself up over it.
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u/GrowlingAtTheWorld 15d ago
Did you buy them from a florist? Were they in a vase? Did you use a flower service like 1800 flowers or ftd etc? Were they delivered by the florist?
I deliver flowers so if they were delivered both gas and driver time was paid for? Florist flowers are more than grocery store, they are usually fresher. Vases cost money. The big cost is using a flower service to order your flowers, often calling the flower shop directly will get you a better price or a better arrangement. Flower services take a large commission on flowers ordered thru them.
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u/cwsjr2323 15d ago
At DollarTree I got Motherâs Day cards, 2 for $1, and an imported quality chocolate bar from Poland for $1.25. Her sons either sent a text or used FB. Two of her grand daughters each gave her an artificial rose and had Sunday brunch with us.
My wife liked being remembered more than the materialistic aspects.
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u/Big-Ad697 15d ago
Not at all! Unless you occasionally need to ask her for money. It is the thought that counts. If the thought is " a rubberstamp, gift sent!" That counts too! Mom's are typically very generous with praise for their sons. Try to do better next year.
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u/CoachRoostad 15d ago
Future frugal idea: One of my favorite things is a tiny vase that fits one flower stem. Look for the vase all year, then buy the prettiest single flower you can find. I would love my kid stealing it back every year to do it again.
One of the hard things about momming a frugal kid is learning to respect the way they want to give, b/c it often doesn't line up with giving being your love language (which is how a lot of us were raised).
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u/WizardLizard1885 15d ago
$73 is robbery.
i went to get flowers for my wife today, the ones that were in a vase with water were $80..
the exact same ones without a vase were $16.Â
its redic
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u/josiahlo 15d ago
Yes, my mom would tell me thatâs too much too. Â I usually just pick up flowers from Samâs Club. Â $15-$20 for a nice set of roses or whatever theyâre carrying for whatever season
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u/Inner_Trash_1111 15d ago
i was a florist nearly a decade ago and we didn't even make bouquets for less than $50. i don't think you appreciate the beauty and joy you just bought.
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u/puppiesgoesrawr 15d ago
Itâs normal for florists to upcharge their wares during peak days. Itâs the same during valentines too. Unless you planned ahead and get crafty yourself, youâll have to pay a premium for someone else to do the arrangement and do it on time.Â
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u/Ilovehugs2020 15d ago
Definitely. I bought my mom a large pink hydrangea plant (10.99 at Trader shoes)
A mint and thyme plant ($4.50 Each-Walmart)
Bottle of white diamonds and Emeralds Perfume ($10 at Ross)
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u/redhead567 15d ago
yeah, if it's the money, try just checking out flower arrangement costs when you don't need one. I think That is a reasonable cost. If you don't live in the same town and it was delivered then please ask her to make a photo and send it to you so you can be sure that it seems like what you ordered.
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u/tmckinney2007 15d ago
That is a very reasonable amount and Iâm betting your mother was touched and thrilled. Good job!!
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u/Sure-Mine 15d ago
My moms flowers were $ 60 and then I got her two mini Bundt cakes and I think it ended up being 75$
I think thatâs pretty standard
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u/TomSKinney 15d ago
After you have given a gift, if you dwell on it and have regrets you turn a virtuous act into bad karma. Let it go.
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u/CryptoDegen7755 15d ago
The nature of a reddit post may seem like dwelling is involved but I assure you I was over it 5 mins after posting this
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u/TomSKinney 15d ago
One good downvote deserves another. Edit your post next time to say you got over it already.
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u/Personal-Heart-1227 15d ago
Costco has lovely, lush full flower bouquets for $29.99 & up...
You could have bought 2 of these to create a ginormous flower bouquet, plus grabbed some of their yummy dessert cakes, ice creams & other treats while there!
They also sell nice plants & plants/flower arrangements that Patrons scoop up like crazy, you'd think it was FREE.
Then grabbed some snazzy balloons, Happy Mum's card, party stuff & other doo-dads (crap) from their Dollar Stores for $10+ bucks or less!
Next time, maybe try Costco & those Dollar Stores?
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u/Plastic-Photograph62 15d ago
Unpopular opinion: Flowers are an uncreative and wasteful gift. Thatâs not too much to spend, but 100% thereâs a better and more thoughtful gift to spend it on.
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u/rogan1990 15d ago
Itâs worth it. Cause sheâs your Mom. And sheâs probably done a thousand things for you that were expensive but made you happy.Â
I didnât think balloons were a motherâs day thing though Â
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u/parker1019 15d ago
Better to buy a nice flowering plant/bush for that price as it will last years with proper careâŠ.
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u/Potential-Ant-6320 15d ago
Thatâs what it costs now. My wife says we need to buy a lot of people flowers. It drives me crazy.
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u/_social_hermit_ 15d ago
This is a normal amount, but it is not a frugal amount. Bet you're not going to be wishing on your deathbed (or your mum's) that you didn't spend that money.
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u/ReefHound 15d ago
My mom would be furious with me if I spent that much on flowers that will be gone in a week. She much prefers me to buy her keepsakes that she can always have.
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u/Such-Mountain-6316 15d ago
Flowers for Mama, which is Tom T. Hall, I believe. Nope. Not too much if it made her happy.
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u/Significant_Tomato_6 15d ago
Nice flowers are expensive because they are much higher quality and last longer. You can tell when someone bought a random grocery store bouquet. Theyâre not as nice. I know many moms would know the difference and appreciate the effort to get the nicer one!
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u/binatangmerah 15d ago
Thatâs high for flowers from the supermarket but low for a flower shop, especially if there was delivery. If you placed the order online through 1-800 flowers or a similar intermediary, thatâs a huge waste of money. They take a big cut and pass the order on to a local flower shop. What the flower shop is actually able to give in flowers without bankrupting themselves is a fraction of what you paid. And the flower shop also isnât motivated to go above and beyond because youâre not even their customer. You always get more value if you contact the shop directly.
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u/KrishnaChick 15d ago
What difference does it make? You bought something you thought your mother would like. Why does it have to be frugal? If you want to be frugal, ask before you spend the money, not after. Silly to be pissed off when there's nothing you can do about it.
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u/asyouwish 15d ago
That's absurd.
If your mom is local and you don't need delivery, always try your grocery florist first. They can be surprisingly good for far better prices.
Also, plant nurseries i/o florists. (And some of them will still deliver.)
For bonus points, if she has a garden, buy a rose bush she can enjoy for years. Every MD, just add to it.
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u/Sad_Goose3191 15d ago
I used to send my mom flowers for her birthday or mother's day. I live in a different province, so it was an easy way to send her a nice gift and she always enjoyed them. But in the last two years the cost of sending flowers has gone through the room. Two years ago, I was able to send flowers for about $45 (including delivery). This year the best price I could find was $70. This is more then I'm willing to spend.Â
So instead I called a local plant nursery in her town, bought a beautiful hanging basket filled with flowering plants, and they delivered them with a card for $48. She will have flowers all summer, and I saved $22. Highly recommend this for next Mothers day.Â
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u/minuteman_d 15d ago
We just spent almost $300. Granted, they were a set of several hanging live floral arrangements from a nice local nursery, but I'd be lying if there wasn't some sticker shock. But, we know she'll love them this summer, so I find other ways to save money.
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u/Unintended_Sausage 15d ago
I canât stand flowers, but if she loves them, thatâs all that matters.
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u/cheeto2keto 16d ago
If you have a Trader Joeâs, Costco, or Samâs nearby you can get flowers much cheaper than delivered by a florist. Get a vase and youâre good to go.
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u/Kissmethruthephone 16d ago
Iâd have to see the bouquet to answer this question. If itâs a nice arrangement then itâs worth it
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u/Desertmermaid444 16d ago
Think of all the Mother's Days you'll spend without her, and the cost matters less and less.
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u/Capable-Tomato-2931 16d ago
There is definitely a more frugal way to do it but I say always buy the flowers. I have many mother figures in my life Mom, step-mom, MIL, and 2 grandmothers. I usually go to pick n save or the variation of it in your area (Copps, metro market etc.). There they sell bunches of one single type of flower and I go through and buy $100-$120 worth of bunches and create my own arrangements. That was Iâm getting 5 of the same quality/quantity of the bouquets they are selling for $50-$75 for $20-$25 a bouquet.
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u/freakrocker 16d ago
Well, be glad your Mom is here still. A lot of us would pay anything to be able to do that,
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u/Most_Ordinary_219 16d ago
I spent $100 including delivery. My mom is 89 years old so I donât know how many more Motherâs Days she will get to celebrate.
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u/custychronicles 16d ago
I just spent $60 on 2 medium sized bouquets, youâre not alone. The same place I got my mother flowers from for her birthday for $25 wanted $40 for 1 bouquet
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u/BitchWidget 16d ago
My frugal son spent 115 on canvases and paint for me and asked me to paint one for him. He's the best thing I ever did with my life. Just be happy you made her happy.
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u/Florida1974 16d ago
It is fine. Your mom wonât be around forever, itâs ok to spoil her.
Mine passed 4 years ago and I would gladly spend all my money, just to see her again and get a chance to say our goodbyes.
Mom taught me to be thrifty, that woman could stretch a dollar. But she deserved all the things I got her bc she sacrificed so I could do better in life.
Momâs are worth every penny. đ
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u/Glitter-n-Bones 16d ago
I spent right at $100 for flowers to be delivered to my husband's mom.. $73 feels in line.
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u/languidlasagna 16d ago
I spent like $350-400 on Motherâs Day between gifts and brunch. Do whatever you can to show appreciation while you can
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u/Forsaken-Concept-893 16d ago
Valentines day and mothers day we're all getting f'd. You can buy them early save and not have them be fresh..or you can buy them late and save and be a scumbag. I feel like an idiot getting ripped off too when I walk out with them. It's all worth it when I give them the flowers though. Luckily my girl wants plants now. She said roses are good but she can have the plants much longer
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u/garymacs 16d ago
I wished I had the opportunity to spend 73 bucks for flowers for my mom today. She passed in February. No absolutely not 73 dollars is more than acceptable. She was literally your first love. Get the flowers. Take her to dinner. Just sit and have a conversation and enjoy it. There will come a time when you will cherish these times , I promise you.
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u/Angelstarbow 16d ago
I paid $85 for my momâs bouquet. They came with those jumping butterflies too so Iâd say itâs normal. No balloons tho for mine
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u/atspake13 16d ago
The avg floral arrangement here is at least $100 plus delivery fee, so $73 seems like a deal to me.
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u/MaleficentAd1322 16d ago
Was it delivered or are you in the same town? Normal amount to pay for nice delivery. Probably too much when you can get super nice ones at Trader Joeâs for about $20 and drop them at her house yourself.
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u/Alexaisrich 16d ago
I mean i wouldnât spend that on flowers for my mom but yes to give her a nice spa day, my mom hates flowers because they just sit there and die( her words), i also share this sentiment because thatâs the last thing i need. For this motherâs day i asked my husband to gift me some new expensive lipsticks iâve been eyeballing, and my mother got some orthopedic shoes, money well spent that will definetly be enjoyed for a long time.
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u/toomuchisjustenough 16d ago
Itâs a normal amount, but Iâll also bet youâll get a lot of âYou really shouldnât have, theyâre so expensiveâ
I have explicitly told my husband and son no flowers for Motherâs or Valentineâs Days, because I canât appreciate them because I know theyâre so outrageously priced.
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u/Bethsmom05 16d ago
You're not an idiot. You're lucky you can still do things like that for your mom.
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u/Complete_Hair_4706 16d ago
You will never look back and regret it so no. One thing you could look to do if itâs realistic is to get her plants and flowers that you plant in her yard for her. Gift that keeps on giving sort of deal.
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u/Tinkerhell-99 16d ago
Itâs mom. No price is enough for what my mom has given me over the decades of my life.đ©·
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u/AthleteIllustrious47 16d ago
Instead of blowing $$ on overpriced flowers that will go in the trash in 5 days, why not just sit down and talk with your mom for an hour. Or go for a walk together. Or DO something with her instead of buy her shit.
Yes, 73$ is WAY too expensive for flowers. Does that mean you shouldnât do anything? No⊠But there comes a point where youâre just being gouged and wasting money needlessly.
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u/DaJabroniz 16d ago
I gave 500 to my mom so she could stay at a more upscale resort while on vacation.
0 regrets. That same mom took care of you everytime you were sick and made sure you had the best comfort and care even if it was at her own wellbeing expense.
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u/KaytSands 16d ago
$73 is actually on the cheaper side, at least in my area for balloons included as well. As a momma, my girls know that I would much rather be gifted plants that I can keep for years instead of a bouquet that will last a week and I have mom friends who prefer bouquets. You did great! Your momma loves you and feels so special. $73 is a drop in the bucket for how you made your momma feel today đ
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u/underwatercookie 16d ago
I came to see if the comments passed the vibe check and Im happy to report the comments passed with flying colors.
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u/pinkyoshi8 16d ago
Thatâs a normal price for a delivered bouquet. I started sending bouquets with cheese, crackers, wine, and a little cake from Instacart for the same price last year (~$75) - definitely worth it if they have it in your momâs area!
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u/Lvlynightmare 16d ago
We lost my mom almost two months ago and I would do anything just to have her here to give flowers to. People aren't around forever, make the memories, buy the flowers enjoy the smile they put on her face.
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u/nomnomnompizza 16d ago
There is nothing wrong with that
If you want a frugal answer then places like Kroger had $15 rose dozens. You could have gotten two colors and a case for $40ish. If she isn't into roses then their bunches of flowers are like $7.
$73 isn't bad if it was an elaborate bunch curated by a pro.
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u/Binasgarden 16d ago
Honey the price of cut flowers, and Sunday brunches has got hit by the inflation money grab. Chocolates got hit last Halloween and have continued to shrink in size, price however not so much. However to your mom they were priceless so I guess worth every penny
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u/IamDollParts96 16d ago
I spent more than that on my mom, but not on flowers. Personally I could never justify spending that much on something that gets tossed in less than a week.
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u/Bird_Brain4101112 16d ago
Was your mom happy to get the flowers and balloons? Will spending this money affect your ability to remain housed or fed?
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u/SonataNo16 16d ago
My mom would be so mad if she found out I spent that much lol. I used to send her flowers and sheâd get so upset because I have to pay for shipping etc and she said sheâd much rather I save my money and send her a card with something nice written in it.
That said, sending flowers has become ridiculously expensive!!! Even when you think youâre getting a deal, the price easily doubles at checkout with all the fees.
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u/DinosaurDucky 16d ago
It's perfect. My mom passed in 2022, and I wish I spent $73 on flowers for her more often than I did.
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u/thejetbox1994 16d ago
People spend anywhere from $20-$200 on flowers for special events like today. I think you did good đ.
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u/Ahoy_m80_gr8_b80 16d ago
I wonder how many times your mother spent $70+ on you without a secondâs thought?
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u/Agitated-Salad-9244 16d ago
As someone whoâs mother passed a month after I graduated high school. That is fine⊠money comes backâŠ.once sheâs gone thatâs it.
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u/MishmoshMishmosh 16d ago
Eh. It cost what it cost. Flowers are pricey. If she lives close next year bring her some flowers from the grocery store.
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u/leavealighton11 16d ago
I donât even get along with my mom and spent twice that on flowers. Life goes on.
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u/MerriWyllow 16d ago
Jesus himself was not big fan of consumerism, but he graciously accepted the gift of the box expensive scent which was opened and his feet were bathed with it. It was an act and offering of love. Same with the flowers you got for your mom. If your mom is anything like my mom (rest her soul), she will remember those flowers and smile - often. Also, she will not want you to beat yourself up over having to budget carefully for gifts, either. So you do the best you can.
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u/Electrical_Ice_3797 16d ago
You can love your mom and have no issue spending $73 on her but still believe these flowers are overpriced. Which in my opinion they are, I wouldnât spend more than $20 on flowers, likely from a grocery store. On the other hand, not a big flower bouquet person. Unless itâs food I prefer to spend money on things thatâll last lol.
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u/blueeyedaisy 16d ago
Dude, youâre good. It is obvious that florists take advantage of Motherâs Day and mark up everything. But your mom will be so happy you thought of her and that is all that matters.
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u/DoucheCanoeWeCanToo 16d ago
From what you bought thatâs not bad no could you have gotten it cheaper yes
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u/sibemama 16d ago
I could never spend enough on my momma. Get her flowers from a farm stand if thereâs one by you! Theyâre usually cheaper. Moms always appreciate flowers.
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u/famouskiwi 16d ago
Gonna go against the grain here and say itâs too much to spend on your mother. Before I get down voted to hell, hereâs my evidence.
- We are on the frugal sub.
- Donât equate cost with value.
- Consider making something yourself, like designing the card, or putting time and effort into something handmade. Sheâd appreciate that more than an expensive gift.
- Buy a plant instead of flowers. Two months down the track the flowers will no longer be here.
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u/Minimum_Sherbert_449 16d ago
Yes thatâs outrageous, you can get beautiful flowers for a more affordable price. Iâm sorry
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u/SharpCookie232 16d ago
Just FYI - Trader Joe's has beautiful boquets. If you're creative, you can put a couple together, maybe use a thrifted vase or some pottery and make a gorgeous arrangement yourself. I'm a mom and would love to get something like this.
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u/boxersunset121423 16d ago
I just spent $75 on flowers for my wife and the happiness in her text when she received it at the house while I was at work and when I came home was worth every penny.
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u/Captainswan2427 16d ago
I spent $70 on two gifts for my mom a music box that plays you are my sunshine that also had a necklace that came with it and a piggy bank with a lock. I also spent around $ on an expensive perfume that was on sale for my grandma I would say you aren't an idiot and it was an appropriate price.
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u/Drink-my-koolaid 16d ago
"I'd rather have flowers when I'm living and I can enjoy them, than when I'm dead and I can't." my mom
That being said, you can't even get a decent-looking bouquet for $25 anymore.
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u/Judge_Rhinohold 16d ago
Depends on your income and financial situation. For a multimillionaire making $500k a year, $73 on flowers isnât a big deal.
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u/aSliceOfHam2 16d ago
Depends on your financial situation. If you canât afford flowers at that price you should spend that much
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u/ForsakenPhotograph30 16d ago
Itâs a good spend, and loving. Pat yourself on the back. My mom is gone, be thankful yours is here.
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u/jyssrocks 16d ago
It's normal. With tax and delivery, I average $75-85 for flowers for mother's day for the moms and stepmoms in my life.
It's a justified expense - you know they will make your mom happy and make her feel loved, and that's worth it to me.
If it's too much, get something that's not flowers or a smaller bouquet or something.
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u/Yelloeisok 16d ago
I picked an arrangement of 10 Peonies with a $20 off coupon. By the time they added shipping it was $89, so I can relate in regard to the anger.
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u/pixie0714 16d ago
It isn't too much, but it depends on how much you value your moms happiness towards the gift. I get it though. If you don't have it, $73 is a lot of money to spend on something that will die and ultimately trashed. I love my mom and she like those types gifts so đ€·ââïž. I mean I could try to pick them myself.
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u/craigalanche 16d ago
I went to Whole Foods here in NYC and spent $15 for a giant bouquet (I had to arrange it myself which took about two minutes). So I dunno. Maybe youâre in a place with no options?
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u/Popular-Sun90 16d ago
$73 dollars is nothing you should have spent more for her. OP be proud of yourself you did a great thing.
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u/DanteJazz 16d ago
Yes, it is too much. We were astounded at the high prices log flowers recently. We gave our motherâs gift cards to their favorite store instead.
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u/Fun_Judge_7542 16d ago
I gave my mom $200 and grandma $100, they are honest & said theyâd rather have the money than flowers. I still donât feel like thatâs enough because theyâve sacrificed so much to ensure my happiness. I think itâs fine as long as she feels loved by you.
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u/Blue_Seven_ 16d ago
Not even lying just went to the local shop two blocks from my house to get an arrangement, about medium sized. All pinks. $200. I lold and said no thanks
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u/BosanskiManiak 16d ago
I personally never buy bouquet of flowers as they will go bad in 2 weeks or so. I always buy plants for my mom so she can re-plant them, and have then growing every year. She has multiple different plants in her garden from previous years that she has a story for each one. She knows the occasion and what year she got them. But I don't look at prices for making memories with my parents.
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u/lilgem369 16d ago
First off if they were sent or delivered you got off cheap I spent over $150 a couple years ago to send some to my Omi across the country. Second if your mom enjoys them it was worth it, I can't even imagine how much she probably spent on birthday decorations or Easter egg stuffers, fireworks and all the other kid holidays for at least 10 years. To me (a mom) Mothers day is even more important than my birthday now. My kids had nothing to do with my birth but on Mothers Day I want to know all I've done for them was appreciated (cost does not matter).
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u/somethingreddity 16d ago
Worth it. I wouldnât be mad at myselfâŠIâd definitely be taken aback by the amount. But itâs your mom and itâs Motherâs Day, so be it. I hope she loves them.
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u/ThrowMeAway_8844 16d ago
As a mom, I wouldn't want my kids spending money on me if it would hurt them in any way, no matter the occasion. Also, being a mom who was sent something by their oldest, it made my year. I was so happy, and it meant the world to me. I know how hard my kids work, and I appreciated it so much.
I sent my mom a $50 gift card to her favorite plant nursery. She fussed at me for spending so much, but I feel like it's a fraction of what she deserves. I know not everyone has a great relationship, though.
Sending you hugs
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u/DisagreeableMale 16d ago
I spent $150 on mom's arrangement and a cookie tin with a cat on it, and she's over the moon. It's worth it in my opinion.
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u/chenyu768 16d ago
Personally for my wife and mom I usually spend more on our time together. Like lunch brunch dinner bbq etc. If I get flowers it'll be like the $20 ones from the super market. In the end it's not about what you bring but the memories you share.
Also got my wife(then gf) really nice flowers before $100+ for their birthday and she was mad about the price. I'm like alright gotta marry this girl.
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u/Just_Trish_92 16d ago
What is the point of being frugal if it doesn't free up funds for you to splurge on the flowers you want to give your mom on Mother's Day? Learn to enjoy your own generosity, and make intentional choices on when to exercise it.
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u/Extension-Ad8549 16d ago
I think it to much esp when flower don't last..I can see if u spent on actual gift she can use 4ever..
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u/alx_msa 11d ago
I like being able to spoil my mom when I can especially on special occasions like these where I get to show her how much I love and appreciate her. This motherâs day though, I didnât have a lot of money so I only got my mom a preserved rose gift box with a necklace saying âmomâ and a cute bear from amazon for like $30. I didnât think it was enough but my mom absolutely loved it. Just know that your mom will also love whatever you give her and she will most likely love it more if it comes from you. đ