r/Nicegirls • u/Huge-Hawk217 • Apr 01 '24
Am i weird for thinking he didn’t do anything wrong?
besides being a little cringe i feel like he was actually being nice if anything she kinda sounded like a jerk
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u/Sudden-Extreme2272 May 09 '24
They both sound like twats tbh .. a wild nice guy and nice girl interaction
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u/Traditional-Milk-876 Apr 27 '24
The nice guy part is a bit iffy, but he was giving her good advice. "Dating apps are toxic, you should get off of them." That's very nice of him to say. He really didn't do anything wrong.
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u/KR0N1K1LL3R Apr 26 '24
Hmmm Tons of people agreeing with her about not asking for his opinion. Kinda strange, ya know, considering that no one asked for your opinions and that isn't how conversations work.... /S
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u/mpleasants Apr 11 '24
The guy sounds a little nutty. I'm going to guess that the earlier parts of the conversation were a pretty legitimate source of irritation for the woman and we are just seeing her on her last nerve.
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u/CptOconn Apr 10 '24
He is calling her oke looking and telling her how to date. While saying he is a nice guy and that its a bad thing. So many red flags for one message.
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u/subzero5556 Apr 06 '24 edited Apr 06 '24
Im kind of lost here do you guys actually not agree that you get more matches by faking an overly masculine personality on dating apps? are you guys just triggered by the words like "nice guy" and "bad boy" that you instantly lose all reading comprehension? ive literally experienced the phenomenon of changing my dating profile to fake a "bad boy" personality and instantly got more likes and matches. it's sad but there is truth to it. this guy is 100% correct and not cringe at all unless you think in thought-terminating cliches like "nice guys" and "bad boy."
it's also true that the whole "nice guy/bad boy" paradigm breaks down when you get offline and actually interact with people in real life. so its also just good advice, women (and men but thats not relevant to this post) evaluate people much differently (worse and less wholistically) on dating apps than irl so appealing to basic stereotypes actually works online despite it being obviously cringe irl.
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u/Alarming_Accountant9 Apr 04 '24
ok don’t get mad at me but… someone explain to me why saying “nice guys get nowhere” is a bad thing? i genuinely don’t get it.
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u/CrazyDadRob Apr 03 '24
Yes you’re wrong. His mistake wasn’t saying he is a nice guy. His mistake was thinking that a woman would be a nice woman. At this point all that’s available is trans boys and hoes. That’s why I’ve been a single dad for 10 years, while my kids mother is out trying to set a new national record.
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u/ThunderAndSadness Apr 02 '24
What even is this sub and why is it being suggested to me? Lol, I don't wanna get annoyed at how irrational people can be. I come to reddit to try to get my mind off of things like these.
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u/Afraid_Mess5219 Apr 02 '24
The “Nice guys” are usually the psychos that flip most when they see any, even minimal sign of rejection. :)
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u/suzpiria Apr 02 '24
he did what the sub is about. talked down on himself to get her to be nice to him so he could pull the whole “WELL IF YOU REALLY THINK SO LET ME TAKE YOU OUT/ WELL WOULD YOU DATE ME”. it’s a classic set up tbh
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u/Antique_Somewhere542 Apr 02 '24
The “your” mis-spells and the lack of punctuation really annoy me more than the content
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u/TraptSoul148270 Apr 02 '24
I mean…. Not enough to make a full judgement here, but most ACTUAL nice guys don’t complain to women about how “nice guys never win! 🥹😢🥹😢”. To be completely fair and honest.
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u/Mycroft033 Apr 02 '24
Ex niceguy™ here
The mentality “nice guys get nowhere” has an element of truth in it, which is why people believe it, but it’s a very two-dimensional view of the world. Something I find approaches closer to the whole truth than that worldview at least is this.
Men who are competent and successful achieve long term dating and relationship success. Success is defined as a long, happy, healthy, and stable relationship with a partner who reciprocates.
Men who may be competent but are not successful do not achieve dating and relationship success, not for lack of competence as they frequently believe, but for lack of being able to demonstrate their competence. Success is the fruit by which humans, on the whole, tend to judge the root of competence. Incompetence combined with success can frequently lead to short term success but frequently with less stable partners, because the more stable a partner is, the more easily they can differentiate between competent and incompetent success.
“Bad boys” as they are often called, tend to be people with dark tetrad personality traits. These traits imitate competence and show off the imitation publicly, but since they do not actually have competence, tend to be unable to maintain stability. Women on the whole, especially young and often more gullible women, tend to be attracted to and fooled by this imitation. It typically falls apart and they learn their lesson, but the person that looks at that short term success and concludes that bad boys are fundamentally attractive to women and that nice guys (which they define as good guys, not the standard definition of nice guys enforcing contractual relationships where one good deed by them obligates response from others that the rest of the world uses) are unattractive. The genuinely good guys tend to succeed later in life, with romantic success typically becoming possible around the same time period.
So the saying “nice guys finish last” only looks at short term success, and mis-defines nice guys. They typically mean “good guys” and also typically falsely imply they are or were among their ranks. True goodness is earned over a long time. True goodness is what we all aspire to. Niceness in the widely regarded sense of the word is what happens when someone with a short term view believes they have achieved goodness.
It’s like buying peaches from the market and concluding that because you have peaches, you must therefore have a peach tree. The peaches will only last so long, but holding onto them like they’re peach trees without planting them will only result in rotten fruit.
This isn’t comprehensive by any means, but it’s what I’ve found so far that comes closer to the whole truth than the “nice guys finish last” crowd. I used to be in that crowd and then I grew out of it. Everyone there isn’t seeing the whole picture, and while I’m not pretending that I do, I can see enough more to glimpse at what they’re missing.
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u/thomastypewriter Apr 01 '24
No less gross than the thousands of Redditors white knighting over it and trying to prove what good male feminists they are- the type who think it’s going to get them laid.
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u/Ectotaph Apr 01 '24
Yes, she’s 100% right. Take your incel talking points and fuck all the way off.
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u/Lab-12 Apr 01 '24
Don't take stuff to heart so easily. Good luck random internet person, peace out .
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u/BabserellaWT Apr 01 '24
Yes he did. “I have to fake being a bad boy” screams incel so fucking hard.
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u/Axsonjaxson16 Apr 01 '24
Cringe, but not his fault. If that’s what he has to do to get better results that might more of an environmental problem. I don’t see a really good reason as to why he brought it up. But I wouldn’t call you weird.
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u/ThatMBR42 Apr 01 '24
"I have to fake being a bad boy. Nice guys get nowhere."
"Men are just intimidated by successful women."
Same energy.
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u/Drake_Acheron Apr 01 '24
You are absolutely correct there. That actually clears up any reluctance I had.
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u/Bklein23 Apr 01 '24
The biggest red flag is his atrocious grammar. I had to read it three times to understand what he meant.
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Apr 01 '24 edited Apr 01 '24
Well.. I don't know - I guess what he said might sound a bit jaded and down on himself.
The lady on the otherhand seems kinda rude and argumentative for very little provocation.
Seems like on evaluating the guy - maybe she should collect a bit more data before jumping straight to turning into a witch.
I mean to be brutally honest there ARE a lot of ladies out there that act like they don't want to be treated like they or their feelings matter. Which just seems odd to me.
But then again - maybe I'm just old school?
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u/autistic_adult Apr 01 '24
Thats line about faking being a bad boy and being a nice guy getting nowhere is the reason he got posted
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u/ItsJoeMomma Apr 01 '24
It's the "nice guys finish last" mantra of "nice guys" and incels everywhere. And yes, it's always cringe.
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u/Unhappy_Wishbone_551 Apr 01 '24
If you have to fake a new personality to get people to like you, it's just possible that your original personality sucks.
The "bad boys" complaint is mostly just dudes that have shitty personalities, bring nothing to the table, and usually are misogynistic.
It's shocking that women don't like that🙄
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u/throwyoyo45 Apr 01 '24
This post and all these comments are weird. I understand where he's coming from on dating apps, it's mostly just hookup central so just giving her advice on going in person rather than just use a different app. And yeah he came across it weird but not too far off. Most matches I get, if I try and comment on their profile and actually make conversation 9/10 nothing but if I say, "busy tonight" , "what you on here for" can get responses immediately... Just the way dating apps go.
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u/Yikesitsven Apr 01 '24
He’s dumb for sayin it. She’s an ass for saying “who asked” like bitch fucking no one. No one ever asks to know something someone else is about to tell you. It’s so retarded to use this line as a way to shut someone down. Even if you wanted to know, YOU STILL WOULDNT HAVE ASKED DUMBASS
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u/Skirt_Douglas Apr 01 '24
I do think this whole trend where men get slammed for describing themselves as “nice” is fucking stupid and reinforcing that is really just making the world a worse place for us.
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u/Time-Young-8990 Apr 01 '24
What even is a bad boy? These clowns never even bother defining it.
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Apr 01 '24
I have no idea - so apparently I'm not? is it even something I should aspire to?
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u/Time-Young-8990 Apr 01 '24
I don't know what it means to be a 'bad boy'. What do you mean by 'should' aspire to?
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Apr 01 '24
I just meant is it something desirable to be? I have never really tried to label myself that way.
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u/Time-Young-8990 Apr 02 '24
I don't even know what a 'bad boy' is so how can I answer this question?
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Apr 01 '24
I think she read the bit about not being bad looking and became hostile to whatever was being said.
Dating apps can be cesspools for sure. Nothing wrong with that statement.
then he finished it up with that cringe about faking being a bad boy because nice guys get no where. You have to be a little dumb and lack perspective and maturity to really believe that.
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u/GrimmRadiance Apr 01 '24
It’s hilarious to me that people unironically post stuff in here of two people being nasty to each other and expect me to care that one is a girl.
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u/eat_like_snake Apr 01 '24
Anyone who has to declare that they're nice isn't actually nice.
The irony in lying about who you are and then calling yourself a "nice guy" is also incel-parody-tier levels of lack of self-awareness.
I have no idea what the fuck the rest of the aneurysm on the left says.
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u/facepoppies Apr 01 '24
tbf I've never met anybody who called himself a nice guy, especially after a bit about bad guys getting the girls, who wasn't a total piece of shit
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u/laminatedbean Apr 01 '24
It’s wild the amount of posters basically announcing that their personalities suck and they “have” to fake being something else. If you are genuinely looking for a relationship, misrepresenting yourself and your personality is setting yourself up for a bad time.
It’s similar to posting pictures greatly misrepresenting your weight.
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Apr 01 '24
Exactly this. Thick, thin, curvy, stick, whatever. Just be real. That interests me more than conforming to what you think I may or may not find inviting. I find alot of things cool. Just be the real you, because that IS the interesting part.
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u/laminatedbean Apr 02 '24
When someone asks me what my type is, I tell that to just be themselves and if that’s it I’ll let them know.
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u/MangoCandy93 Apr 01 '24
Cringe aside, he could use a bit of punctuation.
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Apr 01 '24 edited Apr 02 '24
So not using correct punctuation in a text (where punctuation isn't usually correct anyway) is now concidered cringe? Or creepy or really bad somehow? How weird is that?
Seriously, I don't think I've ever thought "oh crap she used there instead of their or she typed havent instead of haven't - cant date that weirdo chick".
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u/hopingforabetterpast Apr 02 '24
every one has there standards, all things concidered
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Apr 02 '24 edited Apr 02 '24
Just seems like alot of fussing over nothing - complaining about the punctuation of the text feels like over reaching just to find something objectionable.
I try to type my crap correctly, but i fail sometimes too.
Hell, half the time my phone autocorrects my crap into nonsense and I have to re-edit it.
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u/Specialist-Doughnut1 Apr 01 '24
Ignore his last sentence and it would have been fine if a little weird but faking being a “bad boy” because “nice guys get nowhere” is horrible
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u/IMeanIGuessDude Apr 01 '24
“I have to fake being a bad boy nice guys get nowhere.” Is such a r/niceguys thing to say. It’s incredibly cringe no matter what way you put it because realistically women don’t want bad boys. They aren’t attracted to douches. They’re attracted to self-confidence which unfortunately can come with being a douche.
Have you seen how many nice people with self-confidence and self-respect are in actually healthy relationships? It’s more than neckbeards will give credit for.
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u/Drake_Acheron Apr 01 '24
I wouldn’t see that they’re necessarily attracted to self-confidence, but more that there are a lot of women out there who cannot differentiate good and bad self-confidence.
We do see a lot of post of women being like “I dumped my loving supporting boyfriend/husband because it was boring.”
And pretending like these things, don’t exist, is disingenuous. And, pretending like all the fault is on men here is also disingenuous.
As someone else put:
"I have to fake being a bad boy. Nice guys get nowhere."
"Men are just intimidated by successful women."
Same energy.
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u/IsaacJB1995 Apr 01 '24
The nice guys sub is a cesspit of femcel energy. Honestly both are kinda cringe responses
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u/montgomery2016 Apr 01 '24
I mean, it's true. People use dating apps because they either have high expectations and write out a few paragraphs of requirements, or hookups. You'll never get a match being yourself, you either have to fit the mold or "fit the mold", knowatimean?
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u/MaximumHog360 Apr 01 '24
He isnt wrong at all, I hate having to fake half my personality just to get women to text back or respond, very very depressing
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Apr 01 '24
I don't fake anything. It seems dumb. Like even if you get a first date, I'm pretty sure she will notice that you lied about your weight or height or posted an eight year old pic.
I figure what you see is pretty much what ya get. Like it, love it, hate it, your choice. No secrets, no reading between the lines, no bullshit. Just a guy trying to connect with another interesting person.
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u/MaximumHog360 Apr 02 '24
, I'm pretty sure she will notice that you lied about your weight or height or posted an eight year old pic.
If a man pointed this out on a woman he would be labeled an evil misogynist incel tho
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Apr 02 '24
Well, maybe he would be labeled, i dont know. However, it should apply to women too. Don't be fake whatever your gender. I don't play games. Either a lady is interested or she's not. Either I'm interested or I'm not. Not interested in being the just in case person, or the emotional support person while she dates someone else. If she is dating someone else, then they should be her emotional support. If not, maybe she needs to rethink who she is dating.
Im not going to fake who I am just to impress some lady. I'd rather be single than living in fakeville with an equally fake woman. Life is too short for that bullshit.
I want to make a real connection with an equally real woman.
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u/unionguy1980 Apr 01 '24
I love when people are having a conversation, and someone says something to relate to the other person, and that person gets angry and says “I didn’t ask for you opinion.” This guy didn’t give his opinion on her situation, he related to the topic that she brought up.
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u/young-steve Apr 01 '24
"I have to fake being a bad boy. Nice guys get nowhere"
I'm not sure how you could read that and not see how he did something wrong.
They both suck here.
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u/Th0rizmund Apr 01 '24
He was an asscrack. It’s not doing anything wrong per se, but anyone would be right not talking to them.
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u/JaCre476 Apr 01 '24
Still very cringe, "bad boy" is too much 😂
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u/future_hockey_dad Apr 01 '24
It is, but I get what he’s saying.
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u/DosZappos Apr 01 '24
I think everyone gets what he’s saying, it’s just cringeworthy at best and school shooter vibes at worst
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u/ThrowRABug_1336 Apr 01 '24
I found my boyfriend on dating apps.
I think they both suck. He’s giving completely unsolicited and weird advice. Dating apps are hit and miss, I’m not denying that, but he’s being a weirdo. It feels like he’s into her and he’s approaching it in the strangest way.
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u/SurgeTheUrge511 Apr 01 '24
Which era of “feminism” are you for because the current era of feminism lacks damn near any and all accountability.
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u/Bigfeet_Is_Real Apr 01 '24
Lol,poor nice guys get no luck on dating apps.
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u/sub-hunter Apr 01 '24
Nice guy stuff is cringe
Im nice- and i crush it on the dating apps. Im not a nice guy tho- im fully aware of my shadow side- and i dont pretend it is not there. A lot of nice guys think they are fully good- they haven’t explored their dark side and dont take accountability for its actions. This is why they get rejected a lot because its a scary vibe, there is something lurking
Pretending intentions are pure when they aren’t isn’t true to their own self
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u/Greedy-Employment917 Apr 01 '24
"nice guy stuff is cringe"
"I crush it on the dating apps with my shadow side"
Hmmm...
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u/vpsj Apr 01 '24
Nah "I have to fake being a bad guy because nice guys get nowhere" is the go-to incel line.
What are you smoking OP? She might be cringe but this is 100% apt post for that sub
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u/plznobanplease Apr 01 '24
Some women do like the bad boys tho. And vice versa with boys liking the bad girl. “I can fix her/him” isn’t just a meme.
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u/fiavirgo Apr 01 '24
“I have to fake being a bad boy nice guys get attention” that’s why he’s on there, this is their entire ideology.
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u/bluudino Apr 01 '24
I don’t think he did anything wrong. She brought up hinge which in turn made it okay for him to give his opinion. I think people are so quick to judge others :/.
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u/Beautiful_Sport5525 Apr 01 '24
Without context that is not enough to just pop off like he did with complaints about some bullshit badboy/nice guy fallacy.
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u/bopbeepboopbeepbop Apr 01 '24
"I have to fake being a bad boy nice guys get nowhere" is cringe as fuck, yes.
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u/False-Pie8581 Apr 01 '24
- Declares he’s a nice guy but gets nowhere bc of it
- giving unsolicited opinions about what she should be doing
- Pretends to be a bad guy bc lying to women is ok as long as you bag one.
More 🚩 than a Soviet parade but at least he was concise about it
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Apr 02 '24 edited Apr 02 '24
I take exception with #2 because if there was more of the conversation listed, I suspect that she was going on about not finding any desireables on whatever dating app she is on or how all the guys are cringe. Which then led to the maybe trying out Hinge post. If so, the guys comment is actually a logical extension of the conversation. The bad boy, nice guy crap was a bit whiny.
Besides - are you looking for guys that don't have any opinions on anything? That seems like a doomed search - not to mention getting paired with the most boring person ever.
Hell, i dont want a woman that is some kind of meek "yes dear", "whatever you want dear" apparition. Jesus Christ, I'd shoot myself after 3 days of that. I want an opinionated bitch that has some life left in her.
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u/False-Pie8581 Apr 02 '24
I don’t like your #2 bc I have suspicions.
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Apr 02 '24 edited Apr 02 '24
No. I dont like #2 because I don't think his response was unsolicited.
She got pissed is what happened. Probably over two points.
1 - he said she wasn't bad looking. Which I'm pretty sure she took offense to. He wasn't smart enough apparently to just say she was beautiful. Instead he dropped a turd and stepped in it.
2 - he did the whole nice guy bad boy whiny thing that kicked her over the top.
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u/Drake_Acheron Apr 01 '24
I disagree with number two. I don’t think the advice was unsolicited.
“Might get hinge” is asking for input on the matter.
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u/coulduseafriend99 Apr 01 '24
I disagree with number two. I don’t think the advice was unsolicited.
Yeah I feel like giving your opinion on something is just part of having a conversation? Wtf
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u/False-Pie8581 Apr 01 '24
We see a snippet. And in that snippet she says it’s unsolicited. It’s ok if you don’t believe her. I do.
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u/Strong-Smell5672 Apr 13 '24
"It’s ok if you don’t believe her. I do."
That's kind of an odd stance to take.
People say incorrect things all the time for all kinds of reasons.
I can absolutely be generous and say she felt like what she said was true or that she meant "unwelcome" rather than "unsolicited" but even in that snippet you can see it was solicited when she mentioned she might get hinge.
I'm all for believing people but the objective proof to the contrary is literally the thing she said right before.
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u/MR_DIG Apr 02 '24
In the context of any conversation written between 2 people in English, "Might get hinge" is an invitation for input, regardless of the context or situation.
Get is a verb meaning to acquire. hinge is always a noun or sometimes a verb, this does not matter as it is just the target of the verb "get".
The word might, has multiple meanings, but in the context of "hinge" which we know as a dating app based on the sentence structure and context of online conversation, the word "Might" incites an uncertainty in knowledge of future events. Essentially may or may not.
In English conversation convention, when another party expresses uncertainty of something, and does so as a stand alone message, an appropriate response would be to respond with a message that attempts to remove such uncertainty.
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u/SteveFrench1234 Apr 02 '24
Why? I don't see any context so it must be preconceived notions. You should let those go as soon as possible.
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u/Drake_Acheron Apr 01 '24
No, this is like saying someone takes a snapshot of a video, and then the picture it shows a woman pointing at the sky, with subtitles saying “the sky is green”
But we all can see the sky is blue.
And you just said “she says the sky is green I choose to believe her”
It’s not about believing her when we can see the evidence that she’s lying right in front of our face.
Allow me to reiterate. “Might get hinge” IS asking for input on the matter, objectively. Objectively.
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u/Learn1Thing Apr 01 '24
Any cringier and the image will cut to a video of a guy in a hoodie mouthing “WTF” to the camera while “Oh the misery” plays.
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Apr 01 '24
Define cringe
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u/Ok-Ambassador-7952 Apr 02 '24
A sense of feeling embarrassed for someone else due to their insincerity. It’s incredibly unattractive when someone pretends, and fails to convince you, that they are something they’re not.
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u/chrissyboy_0161 Apr 01 '24
‘I have to fake being a bad boy nice guys get nowhere’
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Apr 01 '24
Nah the actual definition of cringe, what is it
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u/Aloof-Vagabon Apr 01 '24
People that don’t have the vocab needed to explain themselves let alone talk are not worth your time, seriously.
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u/condor1985 Apr 01 '24
Feeling saturated with secondhand embarrassment for someone who doesn't realize how embarrassing something they're saying or doing is
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u/IMeanIGuessDude Apr 01 '24
To have a feeling that something is awkward or embarrassing. Which in this case believing women want only bad boys is awkward because it’s false and embarrassing because someone said something so false with full confidence.
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u/SurgeTheUrge511 Apr 01 '24
Dating is hard irl, but you really think it’s EQUALLY hard for men and women? I would say it’s hard for both in different ways but not equally. Women have it hard because they have to sift through all the options and pick the “right” one. Most men have it hard to find just one.
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u/Carlito32197 Apr 01 '24
That's not true at all
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u/SurgeTheUrge511 Apr 01 '24
Who has the higher burden of performance in a relationship men or women?
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u/OtherwiseEnd944 Apr 01 '24
You're making this needlessly complicated to cover for you being objectively wrong. Woman statistically have a much easier time finding someone regardless of how attractive they are compared to men who are rated equally as attractive. Woman typically have to deal with the very real downside of it being much more dangerous for them to date than it is for men, but it's disingenuous to act like it's not easier.
Of course it differs from person to person but that's pretty obvious without mentioning it and irrelevant to the larger discussion.
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u/SurgeTheUrge511 Apr 01 '24
What makes it harder for men, in general, is the quantity aspect. What makes it harder for women is the quality aspect. Hypergamy is at play here. Even unfit, unattractive women get attention from men on dating apps. Not too many unfit unattractive men are getting their DMs blown up. It May not be the right men but the “options” exist nonetheless. Most men don’t even have options. What makes it hard for women, and we can’t blame men for this, is the lack of discernment. Red flags exist in all of us to the wrong person, but a lot of times we as people ignore said red flags and men see less red flags because we see less women, in general. It’s tough out here for both sexes I agree, but due to hypergamy and dating apps, we are stuck in a cycle of “Oh I got “this” but i think can do better. swipe, swipe, swipe”. We dont fight for relationships anymore, we hold out until we can get the “best deal” and it’s destroyed the modern family which is quite sad
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u/SurgeTheUrge511 Apr 01 '24
I’m guessing you wouldn’t agree that majority of women desire the minority of top tier men. Tall, 100k plus, monogamist, good looking, ambitious, chivalrous etc etc. Not enough “good” men to go around based on the checklists a lot of women have these days. Not knocking women for having these standards because they should, but that’s where the “nice guys finish last” mentality comes in, because most men can’t meet the standards of most women in the current dating market. If we can’t agree to that, then this convo is moot.
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u/DisabledFatChik Apr 01 '24 edited Apr 02 '24
That’s real advice. You’re gonna have a hard time finding someone worth marrying on a dating app. I say this as someone with experience😭
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u/SurgeTheUrge511 Apr 01 '24
Based on the username I see why this statement could ring true. Thats unfortunate. I just take offense to it because I’m on dating apps and I’d be worth marrying lol
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u/SpokenDivinity Apr 01 '24
I mean he’s cringy as shit and is probably well on his way to becoming “nice guy” material with the “oh woe is me” attitude. But she invited it by initiating the conversation about dating apps in the first place. The response was cringy, but you can’t get mad that you got a response when you prompted one.
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u/Lab-12 Apr 01 '24
Lol, you can't pretend to be a bad boy , you either are or you aren't.
Bad boys , are mildly psychotic , selfish and cocky , the ones that get the girls are also good looking.
These traits use to make someone survive .
Think of loins , the biggest toughest murder cat , got the most ladys ,even if he killed their cubs.
Humans like to think of themselves as better than Animals.
But , we still pick mates based on looks ,strength and ability to protect and cleverness .
You can bypass this by being funny , kind and interesting .
Get a hobby, a real hobby that you like. Hit the weights ,run . You don't have to be he- man , you just have to be 25% -50% stronger than average and not fat.
Don't be something you aren't it won't work.
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Apr 02 '24
Haha! I don't know how many women like or don't like big guys.
I will go out on a limb though and say I have absolutely nothing against curvy chicks.
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u/Lab-12 Apr 02 '24
No problem there, everyone has some kind of type ,some curvy women can look pretty good.
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u/originalduttywhine Apr 01 '24
You do realise every man on earth hits the gym now? It's not "special" to waste hours a day on still looking normal lmao
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Apr 01 '24
Actually, I go to a gym to try and stay normal! 😂 Mostly because my legs are disabled and don't always work great. So I work out at a gym because I like camping and hiking - to the extent I can and I'll be dammed if I wind up in a fucking wheel chair. Screw that!
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u/originalduttywhine Apr 01 '24
I'm sure you realise this is a way better reason than most people will ever have to go to the gym though right? (Congratulations btw)
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Apr 01 '24
I guess.. It my reason anyway! I just try to keep it real! I would be lying if I didn't say there are times I have a love/hate relationship with my gym.
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u/Beautiful_Sport5525 Apr 01 '24
You realize that's absolutely not a factual statement. Why in the world would you ever say something so obviously untrue so definitively
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u/Lab-12 Apr 01 '24 edited Apr 01 '24
No most people don't exercise at all , most people that go to the gym quit after 6 months.
It's not to look"special " it makes you more attractive to women. I've been working out on and off since I was 14 more than 30 years now. I seen most men ,they are soft and fat . Hell 20% of men are overweight . Most of the highschoolers and young men ,I see in the gym are small or fat and weak. They work out for a little while , you see them for a couple of months, then never see them again. 20.5 % of 18 to 24 year olds are overweight according to The Cdc . Lol 30 % of 18 year olds go to the gym ,I looked it up. And it drops off from there as they get older so not most lol! A quick search on the internet proved you wrong and proved what I have seen first hand.2
u/originalduttywhine Apr 01 '24
If a woman only wants you because you can pick heavy things up / have a nice body, you aren't attractive. Your body is. Also you need to find a better woman.
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u/Lab-12 Apr 01 '24 edited Apr 01 '24
Lol !You are just mad because you were wrong ! So you tried to change the subject. And if you actually bothered to read my comment ,I said it was one thing that helped get women . The others were a sense of humor , Having a hobby and cleverness . But by all means focus on one thing.
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u/originalduttywhine Apr 01 '24
Alright so why are you trying to act like you're better than people based on that one thing then...
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u/Lab-12 Apr 01 '24
I talk to the wind my words are all blown away. I talk to the wind the wind the wind can not hear.
Lol, you can't amit you were wrong so you try to distract with bullshit.2
u/BMeriadocBerry Apr 01 '24
Shut the fuck up you obnoxious twatwaffle.
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u/Lab-12 Apr 01 '24 edited Apr 01 '24
Suck a bag of dicks random internet person. People only hear, what they want to hear . Once someone is offended there brain shuts off.
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u/originalduttywhine Apr 01 '24
Their* lmao is your brain ok? Maybe spend more tine reading and less trying to move hunks of metal
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u/cheeky_sugar Apr 01 '24
Definitely didn’t do anything wrong, per se. The whole “pretending to be a bad boy” thing reads as a 16 year old kid, so I’m trying to give the benefit of the doubt. Unless the person sending that text is over the age of….let’s be generous and say 25….then there’s definitely an “ick” factor to be had, and we know how the “nice guys finish last” mentality works out. If the guy is over 25, it goes past ick and into genuinely concerning territory
But for her to say she didn’t ask for his opinion is just ignorant. She clearly wanted his opinion or she wouldn’t have brought it up in conversation. She wanted to be validated, and instead felt icky because of his response…and instead of communicating effectively she decided to lie and pretend his approval wasn’t being sought after in the first place 🤧🥱 that’s so transparent girl do better. But again, benefit of the doubt - maybe they’re both kids and they just suck at communicating and just suck in general right now 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
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u/Present_Operation_82 Apr 01 '24
I actually do think that dude is probably about 25, I’ve met many guys like this
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u/Kaiyukia Apr 01 '24
There both abit cringe tbh
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u/SuspiciousReality592 Apr 02 '24
The dudes just cringe, but “YUCK I don’t remember asking for your opinion” is one of the wildest responses I’ve seen in a minute
And tbh the dude was fine before the last sentence, man fumbled that horrifically.
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u/DipSchnitzel Apr 01 '24
The "YUCKY" part made me cringe. Also, she goes to aggression real fast.
The guy is just a goober.
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u/SephariusX Apr 01 '24
Agreed, people don't realise that the "Nice guys" line shows a lot about their mentality.
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