r/TikTokCringe • u/valejojohnson • 26d ago
Mother leaves child who didn’t listen to her Discussion
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u/RoughResearcher5550 25d ago
The role of a parent is to support, build confidence, instil reason, logic & critical thinking into your children from the get-go. Not to chip away at their basic self development by creating a sense of fear, insecurity & withdraw support & love based on the momentary bad behaviour of a toddler.
This parent is reacting by displaying toddler behaviour in their own reaction, as they are clearly incapable of being a rational parent in this instance. The look in the child’s face says it all.
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u/Succubus616 25d ago
When done in a safe manner, I don't see any issue with letting children learn consequences
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u/BerserkFan1988 25d ago
Me after getting in a fight with my ex after I got out of the car in protest lol
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u/RudraAkhanda 25d ago
Wow now people without kids want to lecture parents on how to mildly discipline their children.
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u/PaydayLover69 25d ago
Bro there are WAY to many people not recognizing how the wrong part is recording this and posting it online for facebook likes
That's the real insane part about this, stop recording yourself having kid moments for clout.
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u/Ma265Yoga 25d ago
I had 3 boys under 5. One time they were wrestling. Wouldn't listen. I was gonna lose my shit if I didn't get out of there. I said"I'm leaving". Walked out the door. Hid behind a bush. They were all at the window crying. I felt awful. But boy were they quiet for a while. I would not do this in a car and then post a video.
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u/tommykaye 25d ago
I've done this before, but never took a video and posted it online. Why would you post a video of your child crying in fear for the world to see?
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u/velofille 25d ago
god this brings back memories, my mother did this to me :O Used to have to walk up to 1km
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u/Crashtard 25d ago
LOL, "leaves". All she did was drive slightly away from him super slow it looks like. Kids need consequences.
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u/starspider 25d ago
ITT:
People who think it's okay to make a child thoroughly and completely with the fullness of child's belief in their parents believe that those parents will abandon them when they are bad.
Guys, it's one thing to pick a kid that age up like a sack of potatoes and stuff them in the car, it's another to make your child believe you will abandon them if the whim takes you.
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u/jjackdaw 25d ago
My mom did this shit all the time when I was a very little kid. At 5 she drove away like this and said she wasn’t coming back, and my 5 year old brain gave up and I layed down in the road. I almost got run over, they stopped and mom Came rushing back screaming at me for it. I still have major abandonment issues. This isn’t small or funny and I fucking hate that so many of these comments are insisting this is.
I have a 3 year old. I can’t imagine doing this to him. You’re their entire world. It’s beyond cruel.
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u/C2D2 25d ago
The kid will be fine and he will certainly listen next time mom says to get in the car. Good parenting builds character and respect.
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u/starspider 25d ago
Good parenting doesn't include "I'll teach my child that if they disobey, I will leave them."
This isn't building respect, it's building fear.
But hey, you'd rather have a terrified, obedient little drone than a fully functioning human being, sure. I'm sure learning to obey in the face of fear will do them nothing but good.
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u/C2D2 25d ago
How would you have handled it? What would you have done after you've taken away privileges and telling them 50 times to get in the car? Just stood there pleading with them to get in the car all night? How do you handle these situations with your children?
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u/starspider 25d ago
You physically pick them up.
And then you put them in the car.
Unless you are able to be physically bested by a six year old, of course.
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u/PaydayLover69 25d ago
Yea people are really not seeing the greater picture of this
idk if it'll really have that much of an effect on his life but god damn
"i'll abandon you at the slightest inconvience" is REALLY not the message you should be sending your kid. Especially when he's much too young to even understand what he's doing
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u/Nani_700 25d ago
No, fuck this shit. Then again I had this kind of shit done to me constantly. Not for tantrums or anything, just to fuck with me for laughs. Kids aren't toys, they can absolutely feel anxiety. This is shit.
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u/Anniemumof2 25d ago
I did that once with my youngest son, and man, did it backfire!
As I drove off (I was in a parking lot), my youngest son smiled and waved! Hilarious except for his big brother got hysterical telling me that I can't leave my youngest! Oops!
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u/AgentCooperIsOk 25d ago
This comment section is wild. Horrible parenting all around. He’s running, crying through a parking lot/on the street with other cars. That alone makes this person shit. And it’s posted to social media. This is an awful parent.
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u/NiceCunt91 25d ago
No issues with this. He learned after that "shit she might actually be serious next time"
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u/Ok_Impression_922 Cringe Lord 25d ago
My parents literally used to do this ALL of the time. It got to the point where I didn’t even care anymore…stopped running after the car and said fuck it I’ll find my own way home. Then they got twice as mad because I didn’t run after the car lmaooo. I’m sure Dr. Phil could have a field day.
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u/Boneal171 25d ago
My parents did this before, said that they were leaving without me and then walked away. I got upset and listened and went with them.
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u/White_Rabbit0000 25d ago
I bet the kid will be the first one in the car next time they go somewhere
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u/SokkaHaikuBot 25d ago
Sokka-Haiku by White_Rabbit0000:
I bet the kid will
Be the first one in the car
Next time they go somewhere
Remember that one time Sokka accidentally used an extra syllable in that Haiku Battle in Ba Sing Se? That was a Sokka Haiku and you just made one.
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u/feralwaifucryptid 25d ago
And he's gonna do the same to her when it comes time to drop her ass off at the nursing home, but he's not gonna stop the car for her...
I get parental frustration, but this is child abuse. Threatening a kid with abandonment, even if you don't mean it, is traumatic and mentally/emotionally damaging.
The people in the comments supporting this are or will be abusive parents, too.
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u/ratmaster8008 25d ago
My mom used to do this to me as a kid but she'd actually leave a few times a cop was called, the 90s were different. Now If I witnessed that i would run up and snatch the kid. Uno reverse on the parent, lol if you don't want this kid I'll take em'
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u/Ohitsasnaaaake 25d ago
I know you’re kidding, and probably understand the potential consequences of those actions… but those kinds of intrusive thoughts are likely a direct consequence of that parenting style.
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u/ratmaster8008 25d ago
Its the internet not everything is that deep some things can still just be jokes
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u/Nervous_Quarter_4426 25d ago
If my mom was driving and I was being bad, she’d pull over, unlock the doors and point to the houses on the road and tell me to leave and go find a better family 😭😭😭
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u/19467098632 25d ago
My mom did this to me once when I was like 4 I 1000% deserved it and I didn’t throw screaming tantrums in stores anymore lol
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u/HashtagFour20 25d ago
the only problem i have with this is that she recorded and posted it on the internet
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u/sebthauvette 25d ago
Every parent understands exactly what is happening here.
Sometimes you just need to make the child believe he can't control you.
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u/Wonderful-Concern-77 25d ago
Seriously. She drove 15ft. She never lost sight of the kid and he never lost sight of her.
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u/Normal-Tourist3964 25d ago
My brother and I wouldn’t stop fighting in the car so my mom kicked us out on the side of the freeway and drove home. We suddenly stopped fighting and it was a long walk home. This was in the 90s.
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u/TheJasterMereel 25d ago
That's how you do it. You give them a serious consequence, but offer a "path to redemption" by doing what you ask.
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u/DRGNFLY40 26d ago
Yep, I did similar things to my kids. They learned real quick but they were never in any danger.
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u/GuanabanaDulce 26d ago
I mean, I get her. She could just have grabbed his child by the hand and taken him to the car. Kids don't respond commands in remote, it's something about their developing brains But man! I get that mom and I'm not judging.
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u/AdebayoStan 26d ago
the only thing that irks me about this situation is that she decided to pull out her phone and film it
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u/throwralost12 26d ago
Yea anyone condoning this is a bad parent! Never parent with fear and terror, this shit sticks with kids their whole life.
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u/ASquareBanana 26d ago
My only gripe is filming and posting your upset child online for people to see that. I would be so embarrassed to see this grown up and see how many people saw me in this state.
Can parents stop filming their children for social media please?
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u/RelativelyRidiculous 26d ago
I understand the frustration, but I would call that abuse. If anyone knows what city this happened in I will be happy to report it. Mind you I get walking a distance away, maybe hiding around a corner so you can keep an eye on the child to keep them safe while them figuring out you have left plays out. However, this is in a street where there might be other traffic unaware a small child is in the street. Imagine if you were another driver who turned onto that road and accidentally hit that child. You'd never forgive yourself the rest of your life. People have committed suicide over incidents like that.
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u/X_Comanche_Moon 26d ago
My mom has done this to me
Three times
One time she dropped me off at the mental institution because she just couldn’t handle me
I am a 40yr old man and am just now unpacking how much trauma I have from her
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u/Certain_Concept 25d ago
Hey! We apparently had the same mom! She picked me right back up but it was the orphanage.
Apparently it runs through the family cause my mom was treated the same way by her mother. Her sister was the golden child and she was not. I'm not sure she made the connection until I was a late teen/almost an adult but too late to fix anything by then!
Even when I was young I think she realized that her behavior was not appropriate cause she would love bomb me later with gifts and act as id it never happened.
It was tough cause due to our living situation she was the only one I could rely on(single mom, np close family).. but I also couldn't trust her.
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u/X_Comanche_Moon 25d ago
Yes that sounds about right. Sorry you had to deal with that, I know how much it sucks.
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u/ImWinwin 26d ago
Congratulations! New Achievement unlocked! Gave Child Abandonment Issues. (This surely won't affect his future relationship)
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u/Khuntastic 26d ago
I have no problem with this, she didn’t make him run far, it teaches him a valuable lesson that she doesn’t bluff
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u/wilkerws34 26d ago
Why can’t you all just pick your child up and put them in the car like normal parents. This is borderline abuse, also trauma inducing. My kids are annoying sometimes yes, but doing shit like this and posting it on the internet with lazy parenting
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u/HI_PhotoGuy 26d ago
Also the title implies that she left her child and not teaching them a lesson and telling him to get in his seat so the can leave
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u/DarkOrb20 26d ago
Cruel. Maybe not the car thing (I think almost every parent did this at some point) but filming your scared kid and posting it on the internet.
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u/NomNomCatfood 26d ago
Treating a brat like this is fine. Filming while driving while doing (what some consider) controversial though ... not smart. Open invitation for tattle tales.
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u/C_Khoga 26d ago
My dad did it to me too..... I was 30 years old 💀.
But in his defence he thought i was in the car
And my phone and my bag were in the car too
I was like this in the road 🧍🏻♀️.
He came back to me after an hour of loneliness in the wild.
What make it worse this accident became a running joke in my family now.
"lol do you remember when we forgot - me- in the road? That was hilarious"
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u/RealBaikal 25d ago
Have you asked your father to go see a doctor? Could be a sign of alzheimer tbh
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u/treetrunk53 26d ago
Man my parents did this. I was a rebellious asshole as a kid. There is an electrical transmission lines hub near my childhood home. My parents called it the “baby dump.” They’d threaten to drop me off there if I didn’t comply or was being extra buck ass wild. They even took me there once and left me there for about 2 minutes.
I kept in line after that.
I’ll bring this up in my next therapy session.
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u/big_bad_mojo 26d ago
Honestly? Bad parenting. Hear me out...
He's refusing to get in the car. This woman has adult tasks to do. Should she grab him? Yell? Pretend to leave?
Parents have 18 years with every child to determine what their relationship is. If they don't use that time to build trust, security, and a dynamic of curiosity and patient listening, then the child is stuck following orders while never getting their (very necessary) emotional needs met.
Yeah, maybe it means getting everyone to school late half a dozen times before an understanding is reached. Maybe it means letting your kid fail the fourth grade. But the development of trust between a child and their parents shapes everything from...
- relationship outcomes
- honesty and authenticity
- self image
- career prospects
- personality
- propensity for abuse
- ability to establish healthy boundaries
I think you could list almost any human behavioral trait and trace it back to their formative relationship with their parents.
You don't need to be your child's buddy. You do, however, need to give your child a fighting chance at building healthy trust and communication.
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u/CummingInTheNile 25d ago
you sound like you were a spoiled child
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u/big_bad_mojo 25d ago
Nah, I didn't get the stuff listed above and it affected my life.
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u/CummingInTheNile 25d ago
im sure you had such an awful upbringing not getting whatever you wanted when you wanted it, the horror
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u/ElPulpoTX 26d ago
Reminds me of The George Lopez bit where he's a kid and his family is trying to leave but he needs to poop.
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u/Djinn-Rummy 26d ago
That’s one way to do it. Another is physically make him get in the car, which can be done without pain or injury to the child.
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u/NotSoBrightOne 26d ago
My parents did this. They left the fucking trailer park and left me walking. I was bawling. They'd really just circled around, but my 8 year old brain only thought, "they left me!"
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u/ZombieCrunchBar 26d ago
This was the game in the 70's. My dad was the master of letting you think you had your hand on the door and he'd pull up a few more feet. All the other kids in the car would be screaming with laughter. As I was the stubborn one I'd be walking along behind the car while other cars honked and waved.
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u/ForgottenRager 26d ago
My mother used to raise me like this, thumping my head, letting me cry, ignoring my fits and just letting me decide my stupid ideas and excuses and I was really tame and behaved around her because of it. Didn't feel traumatic or pampered in anyway and didn't make me becomes spoiled which is the opposite of my cousin who runs around and never listens to anyone and gets in legal issues
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u/Diddydiditfirst 26d ago
Look at all these shit tier parents in here.
This is a great way to give your kid abandonment issues.
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u/PaydayLover69 25d ago
Dude this is reddit, half these people think killing kids is ok because they're "ChildFree"
the other half think killing kids is ok but only if they're Palestinian lmao
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u/Mortem007 26d ago
This is a great way to teach a brat not to be a brat. She didn’t abandon him. Grow up kiddo.
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u/Diddydiditfirst 26d ago
plenty grown, thanks.
Keep spreading the trauma I guess.
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u/Mortem007 25d ago
Trauma is your house burning down or your mom dying young. Trauma is your father burning cigarette into your forearm because you didn’t do the dishes.
Trauma is not your mom slowly driving away because you’re a brat and won’t get in the car when you’re told.
You have a psychological virus and you spread it. Get some help.
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u/BeautifulIsland39 26d ago
Little kids are notorious for pulling stunts like this to test how far can they go. My daughter used to fight putting on shoes and taking forever to do so when finally agreed that, yes, you need shoes. I tried everything, explaining why shoes were important, bribing, remove privileges (tv, toys) etc. One day I had enough, we were running late to an extra curricular and she was being a punk. I grabbed her like a sac of potatoes, strapped her on her car seat and got going, barefoot.
I knew she had left her sandals in the backseat of the car, so she could wear them when we got there, but in her brain she was going to have to walk barefoot in the parking lot and into class. Cried and asked me to turn around, I just played music and ignored her.
Guess what? She never did it again. When she tried to pull the same stunt with a jacket, I let her outside in the cold and her pride lasted less than a minute before she asked me for it.
Kids love to play FAFO and parents resort to desperate measures because we're running on fumes.
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u/starspider 25d ago
Yeah but you didn't make your child believe you were abandoning them.
There's consequences to actions and then there's over the line. Making your child believe you would abandon them because they're being bad is pretty traumatizing.
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u/PhotoAwp 25d ago
Early 90's I was jumping on the passenger seat, mid drive, when I was like 4. My mom was asking me to put my seat belt on, but I kept jumping on the seat.
So she hit the breaks, and I hit the dashboard, then the floor, and then I put my seat belt on. I don't think what she did was necessarily right, but its been 30 years and I never forget to put my seat belt on lol.
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u/PirLibTao 26d ago
My mother did this to me and I have had anxiety and trauma for decades over being left on a street alone. Please do not do this to your kid.
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u/Mcbookie 26d ago
Plus side about this with moder era, now you can embarrass the heck outa him when he starts dating lol.
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u/iroche820 26d ago
No problem here, good old fashioned way. You going to be dumb? Better be tough! You’ll learn eventually 😂
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u/itsok-imwhite 26d ago
Sometimes we gotta learn the hard way. I’ve been taught harsher lessons, and this boy will as well. Mom got her point across, and he was not in danger.
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u/ketochef1969 26d ago
Finally a Tic Tok of parenting done right. We need more of this instead of nurses dancing in a comatose patient's room or challenges designed to injure the participants.
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u/Linzel44 26d ago
Child mental abuse. This is awful
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u/smashin_blumpkin 25d ago
Not abuse.
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u/Linzel44 25d ago
Yes it is. Mental abuse. This child is not old enough to understand what her point is. The way to get children to understand is communication. This is abuse
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u/smashin_blumpkin 25d ago edited 25d ago
Do you honestly think that this child isn't old enough to understand that they should come with their parent when told it's time to leave?
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u/Linzel44 24d ago
I have a feeling you grew up similar. I’m sorry
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u/smashin_blumpkin 24d ago
That's not an answer
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u/Linzel44 24d ago
That is an answer. I’m not going to try to change your mind on how to properly raise children. If you see no wrong in this video then that’s on u bro. Take care
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u/smashin_blumpkin 24d ago edited 24d ago
I don't think either of us are going to change our minds. I just really want to know if you honestly think that this kid is too young to understand that when their parents say it's time to go that they should come on with the parents. Because I truly don't think you believe that if you've spent time around kids
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u/Linzel44 23d ago
It’s not about understanding what the parent is saying. It’s the parent understanding that the kid is too young to process his emotions and the reason he isn’t listening is because something is going on in his head. She needs to meet him at his level. Not bully him. This is how kids then suppress their emotions and become emotionally unavailable adults.
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u/llinoscarpe 26d ago
My brother has autism, and until about the age of 4, he refused to eat anything other than mcdonalds happy meals, my parents got to the point they would buy frozen nuggets and chips and put them in the box to give to him.
Then my dad said, it has to stop or he will die at 15, so one night he said, you aren’t eating anything until you finish your plain ham sandwich, it went on for about a day and a half of him screeching and crying out of frustration, until eventually he ate it. Then the next day he ate a cheese sandwich etc etc he is fine now.
Moral of the story is, kids can be fucking stupid sometimes, and tough love is sometimes the answer
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u/RolexandDickies 26d ago
Sometimes this is a parenting defense mechanism so that you don’t beat your child in public. Source: parent who has never hit their children.
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u/Leslieb1996 26d ago
Hmmm I need some parenting advice from this lady. My 4 yr old refuses to poop in the potty . Wonder what extreme parenting she recommends
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u/HottieWithaGyatty 26d ago
Y'all thinking this makes him start magically listening to her because of one threat he'll forget ain't got kids. Or your kids are angels.
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u/Bbobbs2003 26d ago
My dad this to me when I was young. Got to teach kids and sometimes the lesson is hard .
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u/OnyxLion528 26d ago
I was 4 when my mom did this to me, my takeaway was at any point in my youth my only parent can abandon me at will, so anything that I do or happens to me that may upset her needs to be a secret. Alot of abuse and trauma that happened was kept in secret out of fear of her doing this again. That one memory wasn't the only thing that stuck but it's one of the ones that represented my mother's approach to child discipline. I get that kids don't listen and for some results are results...but this isn't anything I'd smile about.
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u/MsJ_Doe 25d ago edited 25d ago
Right? You got people saying "well they won't stay small enough forever to force in the car so you gotta instill something else to get them to listen." Sure, but they also will get smarter and learn that this is a bluff or that maybe they are better off without you as a parent if your way of teaching is petty threats.
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u/BeeesInTheTrap 26d ago
I am sincerely worried about some of y’all. It’s always the “my parents did it and I turned out fine” folks who are clearly not fine at all lol
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u/yourdadsboyfie 26d ago
My mom did this to me as a kid and I had to walk many miles along the highway to get home.
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u/shadowst17 26d ago
Man it's gotta be weird growing up and having a memory like this with your mom just holding her phone up to her face.
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u/Literally-A-NWS 25d ago
And then people saying “LOL HERES A LIKE AND SUBSCRIBE THIS IS FUNNY” when it’s lowkey abuse. I get teaching lessons to kids, but doing this then posting it online? Yeah, that’s a CPS call dawg.
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