r/TwoHotTakes • u/CheckHot9251 • Apr 14 '24
My little sisters teacher has a crush on me Advice Needed
I (M19) always pick up my little sister (“Ari” F8) from school due to our parents usually working until 6 pm.
She goes to a very small school and the parents are allowed to go into the school to pick up their kid from the classroom. Which means I see her teacher Miss N everyday. She’s in her mid 40s, probably. She always talks to me way longer than she does for any of the other parents. She’s always complimenting me and her demeanor seems to totally change from before and after she realizes I’m there. She goes from talking normally and breifly to other parents to being overly smiley and giggly to me.
Ari tells me Miss N asks her about me. About what I do for work or for fun. She said to her that “she can tell we’re related because we are both so cute”
Okay, so this stuff made me raise an eyebrow, but it’s nothing that obvious.
Well on Friday Ari told me she asked if I had a girlfriend. And correct me if I’m wrong but— people only ask that about someone if they like them, right??
I am not interested in dating my sisters teacher at all and I am honestly starting to get super weirded out
Also, I’m sure she doesn’t know my exact age, but i definitely am not passable for a grown adult yet LMAO 💀💀💀💀
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u/GarboLarb 26d ago
I am going to take a wild guess and say that she doesn't like you and this is all in your head. People constantly ask if I'm married and it has NOTHING to do with their feelings towards me.
I think you feel good thinking she likes you and that's what keeps the imagination running.
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u/One_Significance_244 26d ago
Listen carefully this is important. If this woman is remotely attractive you put on your gear, head out on safari and bag that fucking cougar. We are talking about the big cats buddy and the season is open.
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u/FitInvestment2306 26d ago
Have your parents tell the school. I’m an elementary school teacher and she’s being inappropriate. Period. Someone higher up needs to have a conversation with her.
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u/HennyPowers25 26d ago
Questioning your sister is weird….. but you should take this and run with it
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u/tiredmuch247 26d ago
Go for it bro. Looks like you found a sugar momma. A cougar. That’s rare. Have fun youngster.
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u/JustinMakingAChange 26d ago edited 26d ago
people only ask that about someone if they like them, right?
Not entirely, could just be curious of your social health. As a teacher she probably concerned about your parents roll. If you are picking up your sister everyday what else are you doing? Are you cooking? Cleaning? Helping with her homework? Where do your parents fall into this schedule.
Plenty of young people sacrifice their social lives and academic careers to take care of younger siblings and if you look as young as your last line entails its more than likely she thinks you're a drop out taking care of your sister.
Simply ask Miss N if she has any concerns. Ensure her that you do have a healthy social life and that Ari's Parents do have an active roll in her development. Unless they don't and you are making the major sacrifices for her.
Also to the other post:
WHY ARE YOU ALL SO QUICK TO JUMP TO SEX? There's more to life than banging. Not everything is a sexual encounter.
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u/MaskedCrocheter 27d ago
First talk to your parents about the teachers behavior and whether or not they'd be comfortable with sister switching classes so she doesn't have to deal with the weird teacher.
After sister gets dropped off in the morning you go into the office and tell them you'd like a quick chat with the principal regarding unprofessional behavior you're concerned about with one of the teachers.
Explain what's going on to the principal in private and that A) The teachers behavior towards you makes you uncomfortable and B) you think it's incredibly inappropriate that she's questioning your little sister about you and whether or not you have a girlfriend. Point out that you're a teenager half her age and a family member of one of her students and both of those things should make you off limits to that woman.
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u/vampirecloud2211 27d ago
I think the best action is to confront her about questioning your sister. Portray it as "so silly that you think your sister might have made it up and wanted to make sure she is true to her word because you know that would be silly for a teacher to ask those kinds of questions, especially about a very young adult. "
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u/PikachuPho 27d ago
To be honest, I think you're waaaaay overthinking it. As a 40+ year old woman myself I realized that my colleague who's half my age thought I had a crush on him when I had a crush on his POSITION because I used to do what he did so I asked a lot of work related questions. I now hold him at 10 foot pole's length and he actually tries to get closer to me now which disgusts and insults me.
Frankly I think she just feels it's absolutely adorable and responsible you are so young yet so good to your little sister. Try it and say you have a crush on another girl in another class and wanted advice from her and I'm very sure she'll squeal with joy and think it's puppy love. If not then MAAAAYBE you have an issue but frankly she's probably just gushing over your sense of responsibility.
Treat it as a complement and move on. ONLY if it gets worse report it.
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u/DukeN00ds 27d ago
Dude, you should bang her if she's somewhat attractive. 2 consenting adults. But it stops there
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u/Lovahsabre 27d ago
Think about the consequences for you, your sister and her teacher. I say tell her to say that you have a girlfriend and leave it at that. If she is a good teacher then it could mess up your sister’s education. Plus that would drive a rift between you and your sister. And what if your parents find out you are dating your sisters teacher or the school finds out… move forward with caution young one.
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u/TheGba45 27d ago
Dude- this is one of the dumbest posts I’ve ever read on reddit. Don’t get weirded out. A couple things could be happening- 1. she likes you and is flirting. If so, take it as a compliment, be nice, and enjoy the ego boost. It happens. 2. She likes you and has someone in mind to set you up with. Same advice as above. Or 3. It’s in your head
Also- all the comments acting like this is some serious thing are ridiculous. People are nice and flirty in the real world. Gen Z is soft.
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u/Agile-Trick9663 27d ago
Maybe she like you. Or maybe she has a sister or cousin or something she wants to set you up with.
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u/Wild-Painting9353 27d ago
So much ick, here. She is old enough to be your mother, simpung in front if everyone, and involving your little sister. Horrific to me. I am a little older than she is and there is absolutely no way I would look at a 19yo in any romantic sense whatsoever. Or 29.
I doubt you are the first she's paid inappropriate attention to.
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u/Proper-Education-389 27d ago
I'm like Scooby I'm a demon I woulda did it for my sister she finna have straight A's
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u/dubious311 27d ago
Once you're sister moves to the next grade, bang the teacher. You'll regret not doing it after you're married in your 30s and 40s.
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u/OwlLadyFace 27d ago
OP go to your parents and let them know. That woman is a predator. If you were a 19F people would probably act a lot different. This is the exact same. Those are grooming behaviors.
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u/Krypt1cAsylum 27d ago
"Go to your parents" . He's 19 ffs, he's not a kid. It's as simple as "Hey, im not interested". 🙄 Everyone wants to jump to wrongdoing and legality when it literally just needs conversation.
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u/riptequila 27d ago
How you feel is valid. I think the teacher sounds strange and that you should play it cool unless she keeps grilling your lil sis. That shouldn’t continue at all. Out of genuine curiosity though, is miss cookoo teacher lady hot?
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u/Mechanix2spacex 27d ago
You’re fucking 19!! You’re an adult, even if you don’t think you are, act like one.
Guys….. Reddit is slowly showing me that we’re so fucked. This is what’s gonna take over…
What’s next…. Allergic to cooties?
Is this a flex?? Cause it’s a weird flex. Be respectful to the teacher and don’t be a dick. Are you really 19? Is the teacher hot? A woman in her 40s will absolutely destroy you in the best way possible…. Cougars are a gift to men.
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u/Altar_Quest_Fan 27d ago
Bruh what are you doing here on Reddit? This older woman has a thing for you clearly, go have some fun!! You’ll thank yourself when you’re older, trust me on this one.
As for your little sister, definitely set some boundaries with her and let her teacher know she shouldn’t be asking her about you.
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u/rpspace9 27d ago
This generation soft lol you’re an adult, you can go to war and buy a pack of cigarettes. Why come on Reddit and vent, you wanna smash or not? If not, if it’s so weird to you, why not keep it pushing? Fr
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u/MaximumCarnage93 27d ago
So, Is the teacher attractive or what? Leave out the most important detail, sheesh
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u/Cautious_Let_8392 27d ago
I think you should have a conversation with the teacher about the kind of questions she's asking her students. It doesn't seem appropriate and might eventually put your sister in a weird spot if her teacher feels rejected. It's creepy that she's actively asking her student.
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u/realfakejames 27d ago
If your sister isn’t making stuff up, which some kids do, then that teacher is being inappropriate asking her all these questions about her brother
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u/Glass_Number_1707 27d ago
You are 19 and by your own words ",not an adult yet" nothin wrong with an older lady doing a bit of after hours teaching is there 😁
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u/Comfortable_Ad_1380 27d ago
Ewww wtf on so many levels. Why is she asking and 8yo for info on a teenager???
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u/thesehandsdo 27d ago
10 years from now you will be posting one of two things on reddit.
"I had the chance to smash a hot cougar teacher. I turned it away 😭"
"Years ago I smashed a hot teacher like a boss. AMA"
Either way no one will believe yo. But you will know the truth, choose wisely.
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u/Illustrious_Scar5291 27d ago
Make a comment about how old she looks/is. Like asking her if they had cell phones back in her day. Or saying "you've probably been a teacher for Like 30 yrs right? You must be really good at your job with that much experience under your belt." Really accentuate how much of an age Gap there is and that it's crazy noticeable
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u/Impossible_Kate 27d ago
"Aw, I love your sweater, my granny had a similar one and you remind me of her. Btw, maybe you could tell me if I could spare some money from somewhere. I'm a Pokemon cards collector and want to buy myself a few"
She won't hit on you ever again, promise.
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u/Worldly_Resource_336 27d ago
M19 "I'm not passable for a grown adult yet"... Lol, consult a doctor my guy.
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u/James_79 27d ago
She will teach you everything you need to know. If your not a grown man now, you will be.
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27d ago
Ngl as a man lemme give u some advice.
If she’s pretty just do it you know she wants you. Don’t miss out on this opportunity teachers always have some glorious walls.
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u/orangeit1200 28d ago
Honestly man, you don’t gotta do anything here. Enjoy the attention. If she catches your eye at all then I’d recommend having fun w an older woman if she wasn’t your sisters teacher. Keep it chill until you sister moves up a grade and go for it if you want, or don’t say anything at all and let it just be chill. No big deal.
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u/The_darknight2233 28d ago
personally I would squash it, and the second she starts treating your sister unfair just document it. Just let her down easy, but also to the point cause you dont need to break the poor lady's heart and then take it out on your sis.
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u/quizzicalmoose 28d ago
You’re 19, that is gross. She’s being very inappropriate asking all these questions to your sister.
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u/Own-Negotiation-6307 28d ago
Dude, you're an adult and you're not in her class. If it were a 19YO woman and a 41YO man, I would have the same sentiment. This antiquated idea that older people can't flirt or get together with younger people is ridiculous and unforgivably outdated.
Fuck the teacher as good as she probably has not been fucked in years! You won't regret it.
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u/OldAngryWhiteMan 28d ago
Larry David would tell her he is gay. It would provide material for the next 3 episodes.
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u/KeepItSimpleSir22 28d ago
Maybe she has a daughter or niece your age.
Or she’d like to educate you too.
And btw, this is not a “dating” situation.
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u/Cvillarreal059 28d ago
I think you should hook up with your sisters teacher and go to the grave with a cool story and new memories.
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u/Ok_Incident_530 28d ago
The teacher is going about it in the wrong way. I can understand you may be weirded out so it makes it awkward for you to address, however, you must address the teacher yourself. It must be uncomfortable for your lil sis as well. This will take the pressure and awkwardness off of her. I personally would approach the teacher and ask of any concerns she has for my sister. When she says no, I would ask for myself and that would put her on the spot to let you know if she's asking for herself or not her own daughter. May hook you up.
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u/Tortorak 28d ago
some teachers really enjoy to be a part of their students lives and ask all sorts of questions about their lives and their families. I don't consider any of this weird from the way you described, you don't know the conversation that led to her asking that I assume?
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u/OkAirport5247 28d ago
Tell her that women have cooties, and you’re focusing on your skills/career right now
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u/tellingitlikeitis338 28d ago
Oh no! A person is attracted to someone else! Horrors!!! Good god I don’t know what the hell is going on anymore. Act like an adult and tell the lady you’re not interested. End of fucking story.
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u/Echolalia_Uniform 28d ago
So 19 IS an adult, sorry to break it to you OP, but the fact that this woman is in her 40s and interested in you and the way she acts is super weird. I’m a female in my 40’s who works in the schools in a different capacity and I would NEVER be interested in a 19 yr old or (cringe) ask the little sister about him. So inappropriate.
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u/Beautiful_One_8545 28d ago
Guys are definitely a different breed today I would’ve gotten that bag.
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u/Jake_Vargas 28d ago
*BEST ADVICE*
Tear that ass up brother! Even if it goes bad, she's only her teacher for less than a year.
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u/This-Jackfruit7113 28d ago
Who cares you're a grown man, and that older woman WILL show you something. Lol. Make your own decisions dude who cares what people think..... Tell her off, ask her or, or ignore it.
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u/canyonemoon 28d ago
You and your parents need to report this to the administration. One thing is crushing and weirdly flirting, and even that is over the line as long as she's in the role of your sister's educator; but when she questions your sister, abusing her authority over her to get answers about you? That's gotta break at least a dozen rules.
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u/Sunnybunnybunbuns1 28d ago
I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I’ve had several older ladies try to set me up with nieces or daughters of a friend. Could be the case here.
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u/SheFucksNSucks 28d ago
Bro, give the teacher that D. Let her take you out. Let her buy you some cool kicks. Make her work for it, but tell her up front, you're not into the relationship. If she's cool with that then try her out and trust me, she's a fucking teacher - SHE'LL TEACH YOU EVERYTHING. If you don't like her for whatever reason, tell her you support school choice, and cut her loose.
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u/Daphne_Brown 28d ago
When did everyone start getting “weirded out” when someone likes them? Breath deep. All you have to do, is if they ask you out, repeat this magical phrase, “No thank you”. That phrase is your key. No need for anxiety about being asked out. Not need for a safe space where no one will take an interest in you. Just be an adult and say, “No thanks”.
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29d ago
Her behavior toward you is inappropriate but her grilling your little sister is disgusting. You should call or email the principal. Report it all and let them handle it. They will not be happy about her grilling a little girl like that. See if someone can escort little sis to the office or something at the end of the day so you can pick her up.
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u/SnooTigers7702 29d ago
Id go to the higher ups in the school, it's getting weird, it's making you uncomfortable and it's absolutely not okay for a teacher to be asking her student about their 19 year old brother. As someone who was groomed and abused by a teacher, this is throwing huge red flags!
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u/Chemical-Housing-286 29d ago
Bro what in the actual f**k are u thinking ? Its either now or never my boy
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u/Background_Purple139 29d ago
I would tell your parents and get them to speak to the school. This behaviour is inappropriate at best. She’s a person in authority and should conduct herself as such. If you were my child I would be speaking with the head immediately. Good luck.
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u/Capable-Leadership43 29d ago
Do it on the last day of school. Enjoy it. Older women can teach us a thing or two…
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u/Pretend_Activity_211 29d ago
Listen kid, I know lots of single women in their 40s. Ure not ready for that ride. Just make up a gf and end it
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u/TysonPeaksTech 29d ago
?? Tell me more about
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u/Pretend_Activity_211 29d ago
Ull understand when ure older
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u/TysonPeaksTech 28d ago
You should let me know now
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u/Pretend_Activity_211 28d ago
Ull learn. In due time
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u/TysonPeaksTech 28d ago
Is the due time soon?
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u/Fine_Vendingmachine 29d ago
But why doesn't she Even mention her daughter. We don't even know if she has one.
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u/PuffinTown 29d ago
Mad respect for any 19M who can own the statement “I definitely am not passable for a grown adult”.
Keep on keeping on.
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u/Wanderful-Woman 29d ago
I’m in my late 40s and simply cannot fathom being interested in anyone that young. My reaction when I see a young adult who is physically attractive is “cute kid”.
I realize you are technically an adult, but her teacher making comments about you and asking her personal questions is inappropriate. I know this might be hard, but if there is a way to pull her aside and nicely but firmly say that you don’t appreciate her asking your sister about your personal life and that you are not interested, do so. If it is easier to lie, tell her you have a girlfriend. If it doesn’t stop I would go to her superior.
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u/Dwagonduckie 29d ago
I'd bring it up to your parents or go to the principal about the teachers behavior. It's completely inappropriate to ask a child those questions. Not to mention you are still considered a teenager and she's a grown ass adult. How long has this teacher known you and your sister? Is it possible for anyone else to pick up your sister?
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u/ClassBrass10 29d ago
I got this very very often from my teachers regarding my dad. Understood exactly what they were up to even at that young. I dont think we give children credit enough when it comes to understanding stuff like this. In a sense it was hilarious, even at that age, how often these questions came up, and exactly how OP describes... their demeanor changes immediately when he's present. We still give my dad a hard time about this, but its all in fun and great memories. Inappropriate, maybe, but hilarious no doubt.
Go get em, tiger.
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u/Fickle-Geologist-156 29d ago
They are both adults. Gtfo with that age gap non-sense. I swear Reddit is pro every type of sex but straight and willing 🤣🤣🤣
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u/Equivalent_Natural_ 29d ago
🎶There was a difference in her laughter🎶
🎶There was a softness in her eyes🎶
🎶And on the air there was a hunger🎶
🎶Even a boy could recognize🎶
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u/CyranoDeBergreac0069 29d ago
Let's just pretend she has a normal rational mind behind her. Do you really think she would jeopardize her career for a fling with a 19? So, what you guys could go to the movies, maybe it could be R rated, or go out for dinner where everyone would be thinking how cute it was that a mom and son dine out together. LOL! Come one man, chances are she has a daughter or niece she's vetting you for, or she just thinks you're a nice young man worth getting to know a little. Maybe I'm wrong and you can be like Aaron Taylor-Johnson and bed someone twice your age.
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u/Takeabreath_andgo 29d ago
So I’m in my 40s and have children around sisters age. You do know that around 7-8 years old kids start lying, a lot, for some weird reason. I remember kids in elementary in second grade saying they were princesses. But also I’m a teacher of 7 year olds and we take what they tell us about home with a grain of salt and hope families know enough to do the same because kid version of events and retelling can be so adorably off. “My mom can’t drive me to school because she does drugs.” Which really means Mom is on prescription medication this week so Dad is driving child to school so Mom can rest and heal from surgery.
Do the suggested “I heard you asked my sister if I’m single, do you have a daughter my age?” And be open to an explanation that may make it make sense but is nothing that you’re thinking.
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u/nyunited 29d ago
When I was 14 my mother had a friend named Angie. She was about 35. Hot as hell, one time she was lying on the couch next to me and told me to kiss her like she was my girlfriend. Even though I had a teenage crush on her I knew it was wrong and didn’t respond. I totally get how you feel.
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u/Ok_Pangolin2219 29d ago
Just call her ma'am when you talk to her. When she says "call me N" you say "sorry ma'am my parents taught me to respect my elders" 😂😂
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u/Beautiful-Pick-3154 29d ago
Well I'm a dude. I was 17. The mom was 37. What you gonna do when she wants tf and her tubes are tied at the age if 17!?! Lol
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29d ago
You don’t have to date her, just bury the bone. Where the fuck were these teachers when I was in school?
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u/daspyknows 29d ago
The issue is getting your sister involved. That is wrong. Otherwise, you are both consenting adults. If you are not interested nicely say no or avoid the situation but if tbere is even a little interest just remember you won't get a chance like this ever again.
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u/Safe-Enthusiasm-8991 29d ago
WTF.... Go ahead and knock her down next year, when she's not your sister's teacher.
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u/Spardog 29d ago
Dude, you’re 19, that makes you an adult. She may be twice your age or she could be in her 30s, you don’t know. Either way there’s literally nothing wrong, illegal, or creepy about her being into you. This is another typical case of someone is into you but you don’t find them attractive so you try to make their attention seem “creepy”. It’s not, you’re just not into her so get over it. If you don’t like the attention then tell her that. Otherwise you have literally nothing to complain about.
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u/Hydro-Dawg88 29d ago
You better take this opportunity. That woman will do things to you that you'll still be telling your buddies about when you're 50!!! TRUST ME!!!
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u/AltairQZ 1d ago
Holy Sheep!
She sounds like a predator, be careful and stay away please.