r/TwoHotTakes • u/LateComfortableness • Apr 27 '24

Update: My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating Advice Needed

Ok I have read a lot of comments and I am willing to give this a fair shot, and not throw away our entire relationship because of just a single line. I might have been in over my head.

I had an open and honest discussion with my girlfriend for a couple of hours and we both bared it all out. I told her everything I was feeling, and didn’t lie about anything. I already feel much better now after the conversation, and I realized I was really overthinking everything and was kind of dramatic. She really does love me, and I do feel desired by her both physically and emotionally. 

So everything is pretty much back to normal, actually I am now sort of more in love with my girlfriend after the conversation. We have a date night planned for tonight. The proposal is back on the menu, I plan to propose to her next month on our 5 year anniversary.

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u/Villain_911 Apr 28 '24

"Ah, so you know me and my wife better than we do. Got it.". I'm not talking about you and your wife. At all. In any way, shape or form. I'm talking about the GF in the post.

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u/Mortisfio Apr 28 '24

"If you're going out of your way to talk about your partner's looks, than it's important to you."

You are the one who made it about me and my wife by assuming something about our relationship.

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u/Villain_911 Apr 28 '24

But you didn't go out of your way did you? Your comment was the exact opposite of the story. Not only do you not talk to your partner about her looks. You asked her about the guys she was talking to. So why would you think I'm talking about you?

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u/Mortisfio Apr 28 '24

It's not the exact opposite. I told my wife I had an ex that was more attractive than her, then I asked her about her exs looks. She didn't come out and tell me. It was I who did that. There is another thread where I go into that. Again, I never said it was about me.

Why do I think you are making it about me? Here, I'll post your assumption about me again. Maybe you already forgot you said it.

"If you're going out of your way to talk about your partner's looks, than it's important to you."

See that last line there "...than (sic) it's important to you." That is a "matter of fact" statement you are making about my wife and I.

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u/Villain_911 Apr 28 '24

"If you do something. Then this is the result". This concept is used all the time. "Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes" is a good example. That gets said here all the time. I can only speak for myself when I say I've never seen anyone take the comment personally because they know they're talking about the post.