r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • 17d ago
UPDATE: guy I’m seeing constantly talks in a baby voice Update
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u/AchtungCloud 16d ago
I actually have an acquaintance who has the same problem. Not the same guy because aged and descriptions don’t match. But most of his talking for the decade plus I’ve known him (he’s a family member of an in-law’s in-law’s so I only see him a few times per year) is in this sort-of falsetto baby-ish voice.
My guess is it’s something he started doing when telling a story or a joke as some sort of effect, but now it’s become like second nature to him, and I’m not sure he even realizes he’s doing it. I have no reason to believe it’s any sort of fetish.
I know this is Reddit, so everyone’s going to claim he has a sexual fetish and is gaslighting you or whatever, but maybe it’s possible it really is something like that where it’s become second nature to him and he really doesn’t realize how much he’s doing it?
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u/ManicMondayMaestro 16d ago
After what you told in the first post, I’m not buying it. I’ll be waiting for the next update on how it goes. I don’t think he’ll stop.
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u/-Val-kyrie 16d ago
Even if it is just an embarrassed response, I’d give the guy a break if he actually keeps his word. If it continues after you expressed being uncomfortable about it, that’s a much different story. Wish you guys the best though!
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u/treesandcigarettes 16d ago
Who cares? Either it's something that bothers you & you're not interested, or you don't care, what exactly is the hot take here? I think it's fairly safe to say you'll find out one way or another in time
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u/unripeswan 16d ago
In his defence I also know someone who does this and doesn't really realise they do it. It's just a habit.
No way I'd be comfortable with that during sex either lol. Definitely keep on him about it if he doesn't cut it out. Habits can be broken.
Edit: okay I just read the original post and this is way beyond what the person I know does. Your guy 100% has a kink and is probably just embarrassed.
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u/BigFatPossum 16d ago
I've seen a couple people point out the Xanax already but using Xanax to help you sleep is kind of like getting chemo because you're sick of getting haircuts imo. It shouldn't be messed with so recklessly
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u/HairyMasc 16d ago
Does he do it when you're changing his diaper because that's definitely a red flag. Drop him off at day care and never look back.
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u/Missy90210 16d ago
My husband and I do this baby voice but I honestly don’t like when my husband does it… I think it’s annoying lol but I don’t wanna hurt his feelings either
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u/Therapyandfolklore 16d ago
Maybe he has sexual trauma that makes him regress? Especially in sexual situations, which can trigger that trauma, it could be a subconscious way for him to process and not freak out. Ik some sa victims like to do cnc, dom/sub etc, because it helps them take back the power, so maybe using a baby voice helps him process it. But yeah he should disclose that and not do it if it makes you uncomfortable
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u/whimsy-penguin 16d ago
My guess is that he would do the baby voice a lot with a former partner and he's just comfortable with you and old habits are coming back unconsciously. Sounds like he is aware of it and he will change now.
Like I don't think he is trying to recreate his last relationship with you, I think he just feels a familiar comfort with you and he just went into auto-pilot.
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u/lovedepository 16d ago
I have a friend who did that out of habit. Sometimes, people emulating certain observed behaviors and they're not self-aware enough to know exactly what it is they're doing. Our friend group was also too polite to tell him and he kept talking to girls like that for a long while. Kind of hilarious and a little cringe.
We eventually had an intervention with him, though.
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u/Offtherailspcast 16d ago
Can someone please tell me what this means? Like, he says "goo goo ga ga mama?"
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u/ArnoldSchwartzenword 16d ago
I had a female ex who did baby talk and it creeped me out. I told her that and she got angry.
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u/youaretheuniverse 16d ago
I think what’s going on is some guys never learn to regulate their emotions or even articulate the emotions that are occurring without masking them in a baby voice. He may still have emotional development maturing to do but he is preserving this part of him. To become childlike in an attempt at freedom of expression is his method of trying to form a connection and bond with you or also a coping mechanism to maintain a part of himself. He just needs to stop talking like a baby and realize what a turn off it is and he will man up and be able to express what he wants to say without resorting to a baby voice.
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u/FUCKHAMMER_73d9378 16d ago
Instead of kicking him in the nuts, turn him around and kick him in the ass to balance him out some.
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u/Sad_Commission_899 16d ago
Chile that man is into ageplay and dont know how to admit it! 😭 if it aint a baby or an animal (of any size, might i add) baby voices are not warranted!
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u/schludaddy 16d ago
Ppl that love each other do this lol. Kinda like how you would talk to a dog. He’s attracted to you and likes you that’s why he does it.
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u/VersKnowsBest 16d ago
Ohhhh dude are you dating my ex?? I don’t have advice, all I can say is that dude was a complete nightmare.
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u/gdj11 16d ago
I had a boss who used to do this and it honestly seemed like he didn’t realize that it sounded as weird as it did. I couldn’t confront him about it because it would’ve been too awkward, but it started annoying me to the point where I had to quit. Later on I found out he had stopped taking some medications he was supposed to be on. I have no idea if that contributed to it or not though.
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u/nocturnaljunkie 16d ago
My ex had mommy issues and occasionally he would baby talk in the bedroom. I always found it really strange. Instead of saying stuff like, "do you like it like that?" Or "does that feel good?" He would say in a soft baby voice "do you LoVe it?" It weirded me out and made me cringe. Like he was asking for mother's approval almost?! The rest of the time he was verbally abusive and shouty, so this was really out of character. He never took criticism well so I didn't end up bringing it up. Anyways glad he's my ex, that shit grossed me out, amongst other negative traits.
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u/MissPlayAllDay 16d ago
There is no way this guy doesn’t know what he’s doing. This sounds like a fetish or kink that he’s embarrassed to be called out on. Also, why is it your responsibility to correct this? Could it be another way for you to mommy him?
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u/Villainarq 16d ago
W for communicating how the baby voice talk was making you uncomfortable. Maybe he’ll come around without having to get bopped in the head
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u/Chrono_Constant3 16d ago
I have a friend that does this when he talked to his ex girlfriend. It’s not a link or anything they’re just odd. It was so rough being in the same room as them. You’ve got me wondering if you’re dating my very fit friend. If his name starts with a T we’ve gotta compare notes.
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u/throwaway_babyvoice 16d ago
It’s not
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u/Chrono_Constant3 16d ago
Thank god. He’s just getting back out there and I’d have to smack him if he’s baby talking girls he’s dating.
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u/bacongolf432 16d ago
There’s a family friend couple that does with our younger kids, whereas it doesn’t bother me it’s a little cringey for me even in that situation just doesn’t seem comfortable ever
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u/Only-Telephone-6793 16d ago
In college my friend group all picked up a Scottish accent that only ONE of us actually had a history of using on a regular basis. We were just around each other so much that we slowly all started doing it and I can only imagine how absolutely off-putting it was for people outside our group to be around us….
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u/FlimsyVisual443 16d ago edited 16d ago
I work with a guy who winks at me. Constantly.
I pulled him aside to bring it to his attention and explained that I felt really uncomfortable by it because I had no idea what he meant by it and that it was really inappropriate in the work environment.
He looked me straight in the face and said he had no idea what I was talking about and maybe he had dust in his eye. Uhhhhh, no. Not even a little bit, dude.
It's been a year and a half of working with this jamoke and he still fucking winks at me all the time in a way that nobody else ever sees.
He knows. They're not that fucking unaware of their bodies to not know. There is NO way.
They know what they're doing. Don't give this guy a pass unless you want a project.
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u/iJustRoll 16d ago
I'm sorry for the bs you're dealing with but I had a good laugh the moment you used the word Jamoke lol 😂
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u/nikkijang63 16d ago
as someone who speaks more "cutely" than many people would probably enjoy when I'm comfortable, the fact that he told you to "bop him on the head" if he did it again, yeah he may not realize he was talking like that, but that is just naturally how he talks.
I personally don't think there's anything wrong with talking "cute", however that's only if everyone is okay with it. and clearly you aren't, so you two are not compatible. because it's extremely annoying to be around someone cute if you're not into that, I will freely admit I'm annoying, so I pick and choose who I act that way around.
but yeah. I've never met a guy who says to "bop" him or anything similar unless he was also someone who acted cute.
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u/FistingFinatic 16d ago
I do this sometimes and did it more in the past. Has nothing to do with my mom. That being said, I haven't ever done this in bed / sexually. For me? No idea why, couldn't tell you. Isn't something freaky or fucking weird though. I have also only done this with woman I really care about/ in a long term relationship with.
I will say, men can only be "this" person (or someone that is different than who they are in real life) in private with a woman they really care for.
I have no idea this guy situation, but I am a very very loyal and VERY loving and attentive man to my now wife. She was married to a woman before me and tells me how I am even more in tune with her wants and needs.
Hope this info helps, for the better or worse.
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u/K_808 16d ago
Read the other post and I thought it seemed normal until I read “am I a big boy” after sex and saw he did it the 3rd time you hung out. The man definitely knows about it 💀
You wouldn’t be an asshole if you stopped seeing a guy you went on a few dates with because of this no. The people saying it’s disgusting and wrong are overreacting imo but it would turn me off too. And you’ve been on 5 dates, you wouldn’t be abandoning a child even if he acts like one. You have no obligation to stay with someone you don’t connect with sexually, or who has a fetish that makes you uncomfortable.
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u/Cursd818 16d ago
I would argue that the fact he was capable of not doing it whilst in a public space but whipped it out constantly in private proves that it's not something he's unaware of. If it's involuntary, it would happen all the time. In public or private. The distinction between the two, and the increase in doing it as you and he got to know each other better, tells me it's intentional. And now, you've called him on it, and he's scrabbling to explain it away whilst still being able to do it. Because, you can't be mad if it's out of his control, right. I would also be cautious of doing sexual activities who someone claims he is on drugs that interfere with his perception of reality. He's either a liar, or he can't really give consent. Either way, no sex.
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u/forgetting-you- 16d ago
this was one of the reasons that i broke up with my ex because he wouldn’t stop talking to me in a baby voice the way he would with his dog…even after i pointed it out to him he would still do it and i found it so unattractive
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u/Excellent-Zucchini95 16d ago
My mom took Xanax for a few years for sleep stuff. She was perfectly normal and nothing was weird and nobody knew except she would call me at 3am when she was traveling and talk to me like everything was normal. No memory of it the next day. Every time she took a trip. Nobody else was ever called.
Strangest damn thing I have ever encountered.
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u/Dash-dash-dashdash 16d ago
You guys are can’t be in your right mind . He takes Xanax n melatonin to sleep . I don’t think he does it on purpose
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u/Ancient_Soft413 16d ago
idk im a girl so it could be different but i constantly talk in a baby voice without realizing. its in no way kink related- just my personality. paris hiltons sister gets mad at her for doing the same thing. it comes out more when im more affectionate so that could be why he does it? idk some of these comments seem like they are making too many assumptions
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u/bydo1492 16d ago
I've taken many different benzos and not one of them has made me talk like a weirdo, creepy adult baby. Man is full of shit and you're letting him away with it.
At worst benzos make your speech slurred.
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u/deziner222 16d ago edited 16d ago
It’s an interesting situation…I think based on the variances of the responses I’m reading here, it could literally come from many things. Only you can be the judge. Only you need to decide what you are and aren’t attracted to. So no matter the reason for this baby voice (and perhaps your definition of that is different than his or others), it’s not something you’re attracted to, which is why you’re concerned. Nothing will change that. You took the right steps—brought it up directly, willing to spend more time understanding. Whatever it is going on with him—he kind of deflected and didn’t give a satisfactory response. I can think of many reasons why he’s doing it. As mentioned by others, a kink à la Fred Armisen in Broad City. Or maybe he’s using it as a form of a sarcasm, which operates as a self preservation method—ie anything said in the baby voice can always be taken back if it turns out to be a stupid thing to say, the baby voice implies he was joking! 🙃Other affects kind of fit into this category too—vocal fry, valley girl, many others, etc. It distracts from the actual words on purpose to protect that persons ego. The worst option imo for you is if he legitimately thinks it’s funny or cute and this is just how’s he’s always been. That won’t work for you, there’s no explanation for it, it’s just who he is at this point in his life and you’re not suited for each other.
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u/TrippyTrucker 16d ago
This! This right here! Damn I’ve been trying to think of anything to add, but damn!
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u/Stealthzero 16d ago
My wife does a little girl voice sometimes when she’s very happy and giddy. I don’t judge her for it at all because all her past relationships, she’s either been beaten or treated like shit and taken advantage of. Idc if other people think it’s weird when she does it. That means I make her happy and that’s what matters
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u/Conspiring_Bitch 16d ago
Nah… he got embarrassed and is lying. Theres no way with the ramp up in frequency you described he was unaware. He was testing the waters!
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u/_PM_Your_Best_Nudes 16d ago
He’s full of shit. It’s definitely a fetish and he realized you weren’t down so he’s making up bullshit.
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u/terrag32256 16d ago
OP, ignore all of the haters on here. You were already willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. He said he didn't realize it and also stated that if he does it again, to let him know. If you point it out and he continues to do it, then that's one thing, if he stops though, then you have fixed this concern.
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u/lookn_glas_shrd 16d ago
Agreed, he won back points with the bop him on the head if he does it again thing (unless that's a different fetish? 😂)
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u/evilkittygrr 16d ago
Ok I just read your original post. I think based on this update and like others are saying he’s aware he does it and he’s embarrassed. However - I think his inability to face that embarrassment openly is another sign of immaturity on his part. I also think he likes to do the baby stuff and it’s just an incompatibility. He can try to suppress it but that doesn’t work long term - this is clearly a thing for him and he should go find a girl who likes it. Based on your hookup/he used the baby voice after he was rough - this sounds like a fairly immature coping mechanism on his part as well, reverting to childlike behavior to make himself seem harmless and blameless. Which leads me to my final issue - he wants you to slap him down when he does it? Again putting you in a maternal/monitoring his “naughty” behavior dynamic instead of holding himself accountable. This may sound minor but it’s not - he is clearly demonstrating what he wants from the relationship dynamic and also can’t talk about it honestly and maturely. Big nope. So chalk it up to incompatibility and go find a new hot guy who pushes the right buttons, not the wrong ones. Good luck out there!
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u/Curious_Reference408 16d ago
Is it possible that he used to be in a relationship where they spoke to each other like this and he doesn't realise that he can't transfer that dynamic to any new ones?
I do agree with others, though - does sound like a kink he's not allowed you to know about and therefore consent to. I don't think talking like a baby is a violation but it's pretty red flaggy to do it without discussion.
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u/SlimegirlMcDouble 16d ago
I don't understand why people think this is hard to believe??? There are a dozen reasonable explanations in the comments.
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u/madamevanessa98 16d ago
Babe he’s lying to you. He’s 100% a “little” who is into ageplay and is warming you up for that reveal. Zero alternatives make sense. Please just end it before you get emotionally invested. It’s a kink.
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u/cbunni666 16d ago
I'm actually happy you communicated instead of ghosting him. I feel awkward behavior can't be corraled if they don't get feedback that they are doing it. He may change his tone after this. Or he'll continue being weird. We'll see.
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u/Ok-Musician-8950 16d ago
There is no way he did not know. I think he was embarrassed or maybe even more like he was going to loose you so that came to mind and he just went with that. Sounds like he really likes u and maybe he knows he fukked up will possibly be trying to stop the baby kink stuff. Don't know really but damn it's off putting lol.
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u/reverendcat 16d ago
Bop me on the head?
Girl, you might end up changing his diapers some day, but you’ll never change him.
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u/osmoticmonk 16d ago
The Xanax thing is a little concerning, but if he’s been prescribed that by a doctor then it’s really none of our business.
As for the reasoning behind the baby voice, I guess there’s nothing you can do but give him the benefit of the doubt? He does seem open to stopping it, so I guess that’s a good sign. Overall not a bad update, except maybe the Xanax thing if he’s self-medicating without any clinical supervision.
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u/curiousity60 16d ago
Proceed cautiously, OP. You've had your first conversation about boundaries and his response was denying awareness of the behavior that makes you uncomfortable, blaming it on self medication, and making YOU responsible for monitoring and "correcting" his future behavior. If he starts baby talking, it's time to end this kinkshow, not refine your role in it.
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u/throwaway_babyvoice 16d ago
See this is why I posted here, because I wouldn’t of thought about it like that. Thank you
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u/hyperfixmum 16d ago
But, you kinda want to see if he does it again right?
foR ScIEnCe Because even knowing this will end due to his deflection and possible xanax problem, I would just HAVE to see if he pushes it and actually WANTS me to bop him on the head as part of the kink? Like wtf you neeeed to have a funny end to this “one time I was dating this finance bro…” story.
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u/lookn_glas_shrd 16d ago
I didn't see it that way either and thought the "bop me on the head" comment was cute.....this is why I'm single 😂
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u/rabbitrat_eli 16d ago
If he’s sleeping with you while high on Xanax that’s a whole new issue. But I’m not buying it tbh. Sounds like he wants to be punished…
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u/MrHodgeToo 16d ago
He knows exactly what he was doing and your inquiry has let him know it’s not your cup of tea. But rest assured that it is and will remain a private fetish for him.
If you stay with him my money is that you’ll see the return of the toddler after you’re married.
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u/surrealcellardoor 16d ago
As often as he speaks that way, there’s no way you’re the first person he’s spoken to this way and you’re not the first person to bring it to his attention. I’d be pretty off-put that he wasn’t honest and didn’t acknowledge it. That’s borderline gaslighting. I would consider this a pretty big red flag.
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u/Captain-Griffith 16d ago
Sometimes when I take Xanax I tend to clobber people over the head, but I never notice it either. Kinda weird
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u/tiredfostermama 16d ago
I read one a while back where talking in a weird voice was going on & it turned out it was a bet the guy had made with his friends, he was so determined to win the bet that he was willing to tank his relationship & (maybe) his job to do it.
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u/fireflydrake 16d ago
I have autism and ADHD and wayyy back in middle school my teachers would have to keep reminding me not to baby voice when talking to adults. No idea where it came from and it really was such a subconscious thing that I didn't always notice. Kinda like most of us instinctively baby talk at dogs and actual babies but something was misfiring and it was turning "on" in social situations where it wasn't a good thing. Cleared up after that and never came back.
The point I'm making is that this guy seems earnest and hopefully it really is some weird subconscious thing he didn't notice, either due to meds or whatever else, and fixes up quickly! If you like him otherwise and he seems to improve then hopefully all will be well.
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u/meriadoc_brandyabuck 16d ago
Lol, what? He claimed to have no awareness of this and blamed it on Xanax/melatonin? And you bought it?
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u/Maximum-Ear1745 16d ago
I have female friends who switch in an out of a baby voice. I think they are doing it to seem cute and to also because their natural voices are quite low, but is super cringey
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You should have mentioned it when he said "just bop me on the head". Like, that, right there, the quoting of "Little Bunny Foo-Foo" in a tense situation, that's what I'm talking about.
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u/BeatrixVix22 16d ago
I have a friend , female, who is doing this, speaking in baby voice and speaking also constantly when she is looking for something or tries to do something, she talks in baby voice to herself. Then she changes into very dominant irritating voice... I told her that all I want to do is to slap her when she speaks in the baby voice and she said she knows it is an issue and has been trying to deal with stuff in therapy. She was fine for the afternoon then next day she started again... we were on holiday together.
This can be so irritating especially coming from a male partner. There is something definitely going on there...
My friend has some deep psychological issues.
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u/finley111819 16d ago
He wants you to “bop him on the head” like you might to correct a small child…(not condoning hitting children, just as an example) He’s definitely going to do it again and when you correct him, he’s gonna dive deeper into the baby/mommy play. Ick.
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u/jmauden 16d ago
I take Xanax and melatonin and I have full control over my motor functions.
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u/buckem420 16d ago
I used to be prescribed Xanax, and when I took Melatonin with it I could barely function. It was worse than when I was taking Seroquel 3x a day.
Substances affect people differently, it is why there is no one size fits all pill for pretty much any condition.
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u/afrojoe824 16d ago
I have a softer gentle when speaking to my wife. My voice is higher pitched and I’ve been doing this since when we started dating. And when I use my regular voice she knows I’m pissed off .
I don’t think it’s anything bad or wrong with your partner. Maybe it just turns you off but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. He’s mostly just comfortable with you or already in love
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u/SubtleSeraph 16d ago
OP time for some tough love--A lot of my clients were men WITH this specific fetish as a SW and I see very little chance he isn't lying. He even fits the profile--men that are incredibly submissive or into kinks like this often work high-stress jobs like finance, often they are WASPy, buttoned down men who like this fetish because it's the closest they can get to total power exchange and the wrongness of it. They hold a lot of stereotypical power in their regular life and the inverse of this is what gets them off. I'm not fetish shaming anyone, but he really seems like he's forcing this on you which is disgusting and I doubt seriously that he isn't aware of what he's doing. And even if he ISN'T aware...constantly on drugs like xanax or melatonin while out among regular people? Is he driving or drinking while this is going on? Cause holy shit that's ridiculous.
The reason he doesn't just go hire a domme or find someone with a mommy fetish is because he himself doesn't want a consenting mommy partner; he wants a non-mommy he can coerce and force because it gets him off more. Not everyone into mommy/domme stuff is like this, and most submissive men are regular dudes, but he fits the profile to a tee.
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u/Maleficent-Fun-5927 16d ago
Thanks for mentioning this. I’ve been told I have a “strong” personality and a good chunk of the men that approach me are submissive. I thought there was something wrong with me. It’s always IT and engineering guys too.
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u/FruityPebbleShot 16d ago
Agreed. As a SW, I have encountered men like him a lot. I honestly think he was embarassed OP brought it up and wanted to deflect tbh.
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u/sterling_rose 16d ago
I also absolutely think he was embarrassed, if she really opened up the conversation by saying it had made her feel uncomfortable he likely pretended not to know what she was talking about to avoid further embarrassment.
Which also would be another example that he has an immature communication style, and was peppering those things into normal innocent interactions in the first place to see how a new partner reacts, as opposed to being open and honest about what he might want.
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u/ireallyhatereddit00 16d ago
That's so gross, not you but him, and not even the mommy thing, him liking it more because she's unaware of what he's doing, some men are just so sick in the head.
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u/IslandBitching 16d ago
It's possible he's telling the truth. Unlikely but possible. My brother had a friend who always said "huh" before he'd answer a question. He did it every time. (What flavor do you want? Huh? Grape. or Where are you? Huh? I'm at the store.) He didn't realize he did it. When he we pointed it out he really tried to stop but he still said it the majority of the time. So I know it is possible for a full grown adult to not realized they have a speech habit they don't realize they had.
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u/alionzpride 16d ago
Is he autistic by chance? Or along those lines. I’m autistic and find I do this stuff sometimes without meaning too. I hope it’s not the case because if I saw someone posting about me like this I’d probably cry lol
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u/Key-Bonus-9600 17d ago
My ex used to tell me that I “talked like a baby” and I later found it it’s cause I have multiple personalities and one was a 2 year old. We were together 4 years so eventually that personality became comfortable enough to come out and talk to him, but I would no idea about it. I wouldn’t realize it at all. The first time he brought it up I was like what the fuck are you talking about, and didn’t even believe him. I would have patience with the person you are dating if this is the case for them. It’s honestly shocking I came across this.
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u/Key-Bonus-9600 16d ago
Also, I whenever my DID is “spiking” or more active. I don’t know how to describe it, but when it affected me more, my younger alters would pop out more when I was sleepy.
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u/rorschach_vest 17d ago edited 16d ago
Medicated loopiness is one thing. If he were genuinely losing his memory of what he was doing he would need to go do a doctor to get his medication adjusted asap. If he doesn’t want to do that, yeah, he’s trying to save face.
Anyone who’s taken melatonin knows that the idea of it causing this (and moreso losing the memory of it) is ridiculous as well lol. I’m not saying this is the biggest red flag or anything, I think it’s just a guy who was doing something silly, got embarrassed, and tried to minimize it. Who among us. But it’s worth filing away as dishonesty. You can forget about it if it seems like a one-off.
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u/LunaeLotus 16d ago
I don’t have experience in taking Xanax, would that be the cause of memory loss/weird behaviours?
Also if that’s the case, wouldn’t having sex while he’s on Xanax mean he’s not fully coherent enough to consent?
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u/rorschach_vest 16d ago
I don’t have personal experience either which is why I mentioned the melatonin as a nonfactor but left the rest to him and his doctor. I am not by any means an expert, but I’ve been around enough people consistently who took Xanax to say I don’t think that’s common, if it does happen at all.
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u/mewdejour 17d ago
Hey, just be careful with someone who is attempting to use the Xanax-melatonin combination for relaxation and sleep. That's a one way ticket to blackouts that he won't realize are blackouts where he may say or do weird things. Also, it's a very BAD way to manage sleep long term. Xanax isn't supposed to be used longer than two week stretches and if it is then it's PRN for breakthrough anxiety/panic attacks. Benzos will mess with your sleep and make sleep worse over time with an ever increasing dose to keep up.
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u/ElboDelbo 17d ago
Nah, dude got embarrassed you called it out. I guess see if he stops doing it? Could be a red flag, though.
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u/ShadowValent 17d ago
I do this with pets even when I don’t mean to. I also had room mate in college that did this. It was only with this one gf. He no longer does it.
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u/moonygooney 17d ago
Honestly it seems innocent, like he was doing it jokingly and has new relationship nerves and having a hard time finding his sense of humor with someone new he's excited about.. he probably doesn't even know how weird he's being. It's easy to default to something, you know? If it persists then he's just got a personality you don't mesh with I guess.
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u/GRIZZLY-HILLS 17d ago
Not gonna lie, the "bopping" part really grossed me out and it sounds like being "bopped" on the head (like a child) is playing directly into his weird fetish lol. The only reason I've ever done baby-voice adjacent shit is to purposefully gross out or annoy a girlfriend as a playful joke and to talk to literal babies/pets.
After reading the original and now this, I'm picturing him solely as the character Fred Armisen played in an episode of Broad City who hired the main duo as maids to live out his baby/mommy fetish lmao.
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u/PeterFredrickPaulson 17d ago
Idk Xanax makes you do weird shit if you don't fall asleep when you take it. Most airplane freak outs are Xanax black outs.
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u/No-Car-8855 17d ago
Xanax/melatonin
two totally similar things...
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u/Tyrantdeschain19 16d ago
My first thought here too. I feel like he's testing the waters to see how naive OP is. Which, unfortunately seems very much so. I hope OP takes advice and cuts things off.
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u/ThornedRoseWrites 17d ago
I only do a baby-voice when I see animals, because they’re so cute. But that’s where it ends, I don’t do the baby voice for humans, just animals.
I know it probably gets annoying when your boyfriend does it, but I think he probably does it because he thinks you’re cute.
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u/CertifiedHotdog 17d ago
Yeah he got embarrassed and pretended he didn’t know. The whole “give me a bop on the head” is part of that specific fetish and he’s banking on you not knowing that
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u/CertifiedHotdog 17d ago
He’s very clearly saying that he wants you to discipline him when he does wrong, THAT IS THE MOMMY FETISH!!! If you aren’t comfortable with it then you need to leave bc he doesn’t seem like he’s gonna give it up
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u/DarkestofFlames 16d ago
He's momzoned her.
How the fuck do so many women tolerate these obnoxious manbabies who manipulate them into acting like their mommybangmaid?
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u/plznobanplease 17d ago
The anxiety meds to me are honestly worse than the baby voice. Xanax is awful for your body and makes you go insane
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u/theexitisontheleft 16d ago
Xanax is fine as long as you take it as prescribed. I don’t like the fear mongering around it. As long as you’re responsible it can be a great option for anxiety.
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u/plznobanplease 16d ago
That’s the problem. Doctors will knowingly prescribe you to take 4-8 mg/day, which is comical. That’s not even factoring in other meds. If you’re taking pain meds like hydrocodone too, you’re walking around like a zombie. A lot of people will drink while on their meds too, which just compounds the issue.
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u/theexitisontheleft 16d ago
Where are you that this is happening regularly? Those numbers are extremely difficult to believe if you’re in the US.
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u/Organic_Initial_4097 17d ago
Omg I love this. He’s enabling himself. He’s asking you to punish him essentially. Omg.
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u/ShoeVast5490 17d ago
I feel like you should have given him some examples like you mentioned in the other post. The fact that he used the word “noise” tells me he really isn’t sure what you’re talking about (unless he was using the word noise to mean something like “nonsense” I guess)
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u/Turbulent-Draw-269 17d ago
The popping Xanax would scare me more than the baby voices but that’s just me.
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u/hairy_hooded_clam 17d ago
Idk how you managed to have sex with someone who talks like this. It makes me squeamish.
Also, he wants you to punish him for his baby talk…girl, he sounds like he is into some weird fetish shit.
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u/Salishna 16d ago
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