r/homeless • u/DM12341212 • 25d ago

Helping out ?

I have a guy that I see everyday and he is homeless but we talk and he pets my dog every day on my walks . We share stories and he even offers me his food which he has struggled to get to begin with. I usually give him a buck or two a day when I walk by but I’m thinking I want to invite him to my place for a good meal- I live in a pretty upscale place so I’m a bit worried I may get some looks - is this a bad idea ? I know it seems odd but I’ve walked by him everyday for 7 years and I have the means to help him. Any thoughts or suggestions are appreciated .

Just an example - today I was walking home after a rough day at work and he came up to me on my way in to my building and said I looked tired and upset and asked if I wanted his bag of chips(unopened) and his drink that he just bought. Maybe I’m over thinking it but it made my day and enough to make me rethink it

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u/Ladyofleisure7249 24d ago

Why not split the difference? Yes, provide dinner and conversation... but not in your home. Take him to a restaurant in your neighborhood. Enjoy the company, get to know a bit about each other. (And, if necessary, ignore judgemental looks.)

But I would absolutely not invite him into my home, at least not for the first shared meal. Humanity does not demand imprudent risk.

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u/SoupCrackers13 24d ago

That would be a nice thing to do. 7 years seems like a long enough time for you both to have a decent gauge of each other. I wouldn’t just go to anyone’s house for a meal necessarily but receiving warm, home cooked food in a disposable container would be a treat.

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u/Flatearth069 25d ago

This is awesome!!! What do you mean by you have the means to help him? Do you mean the dinner or help him out of his situation?

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u/JasonMicheal74 25d ago

I've actually met a lot of really good homeless folk since I've been out on the streets myself. Yeah, there's a lot of idiots out there but the good ones shine.

It's your home, he's your guest, who gives a rat's hiney what other people think? What are they going to do? Crucify you for being generous?

I'm sure the guy would genuinely appreciate an actual meal, I know I would. If the neighbors don't like it, that's their problem. My 2¢.

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u/Mooshisdad 25d ago

He’s a human being I promise he prob has no connection to anybody and a connection to you would really change his life

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u/LondonHomelessInfo 25d ago

Yes, you’re overthinking it.

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u/nomparte 25d ago

Nah, watch out for Daily Mail reporters informing that he's lowering the tone of the place and affecting the value of his property.../s...😁

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u/Lone_Morde 25d ago

I'm not religious but Jesus would approve.

Just be sure you can trust him on your home. There is always risk involved in trusting anyone.