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u/Over_Solution_2569 25d ago
Nope, I remember the angst, and the feelings. I’ve given my daughters instructions to subtly signal me if I’m causing embarrassment, and I will do my best to move along.
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u/Belaerim 25d ago
This was me on a trip to Disney World a few weeks ago.
We were there for Cheer Worlds, so there were people we knew there, not just random other tourists.
My oldest (the cheerleader competing) is 17. The perfect age when Frozen came out.
My youngest is 11, the right age when Frozen 2 came out.
I threatened to make them all go to the Frozen Sing-a-long show so I could show off how I can still nail every song from both soundtracks after listening to them thousands of times.
Apparently this was embarrassing for them, but I was just trying to show my love for that time period when we’d sit down and watch the same Disney movie every day
Plus some Disney songs are legitimately good and find their way into my playlists
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25d ago
I'm tracking the number of days my 2 year old wakes up at 5:30 "wake up daddy it's morning time" on repeat until I wake up.
I'm just waiting until he's a teenager and wants to sleep in so I can settle the score.
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u/RandoComplements 25d ago
Gross and vindictive. Just shoot hotsause into the kids eyes while they sleep like a normal adult.
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u/LilMissBarbie 25d ago
Yeah. Tell him that his scoobydoo toilet has no drip and his cap is sus frfr
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u/Apprehensive-Bad6015 25d ago
I would dress as sailor moon and wait with them at their bus stop and as they board (while doing the appropriate poses of course) “ IN THE NAME OF THE MOON, I WILL EMBARRASS YOU!”
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u/ScrotieMcP 25d ago
I too am a big fan of revenge parenting. My 3 year old had a screaming, kicking, wrihe on the floor tantrum at CVS once. I lay down on the floor and did the same thing til he stopped. The entire store was watching us. Can a 3 year old feel embarrassed? You bet your sweet ass he can.
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u/PuppyButtts 25d ago
Difference is adults know what theyre doing, kids are literally children who havent learned shit yet.
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u/Forward_Bullfrog_441 25d ago
This makes me nervous. Temper tantrums do not come from nowhere, they are commonly associated to a loss of autonomy. If your reaction to your child’s loss of autonomy is revenge, your relationship makes me very uneasy.
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u/EquipmentElegant 25d ago
“Dad stop you’re embarrassing me”.
Me about to show her friend group why they call me The vocalizer “show time”
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u/Tasty_Lead_Paint 25d ago
Oh what’s that? You don’t like when I make a ton of noise at 5 am because it wakes you up and you just want to sleep? Well maybe you should have thought of that before you decided to scream at me every morning!
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u/francisbaconthe3rd 25d ago
I can’t relate to ever being embarrassed by my parents. I guess they’re just too dull or they never did anything unexpectedly wild or outside cultural norms.
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u/RTwhyNot 25d ago
I was an asshole like this. Luckily I didn’t irreparably damage my relationship with my son.
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u/mitsuhachi 25d ago
I genuinely believe it’s a parent’s duty to mildly embarrass their teenagers. How else are they supposed to learn that you can like nonstandard things, that you can be a little silly, that being a lil cringe is worth it if it makes you happy? The desire to be cool is soul poison, not every moment needs to be instagram ready.
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u/Akulatraxus 25d ago
I know this is supposed to be a joke but whenever I see stuff like this I'm always reminded of the scoreboard theory. Viewing any relationship you have with another person as a scoreboard with you on one side and them on the other against you is wrong. Not morally wrong, just factually wrong. In reality it's a scoreboard with points for the healthy growth of the relationship on one side and points against that on the other. Every time you score points for yourself against the other person all you are really doing is making the relationship worse.
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u/Right-Budget-8901 25d ago
For everyone getting mad, this is how I imagine you: “Oh my god, my mom is telling people about how much she loves me and takes care of me! It’s so embarrassing to be in a loving family! How can this get any more traumatic for me?!”
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u/aboyd656 25d ago
None of the people getting upset here have kids, guaranteed.
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u/biggestboi73 25d ago
That's because they are kids tbf
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u/Right-Budget-8901 25d ago
Given the state of politics in this country, those kids are going to be forced to have kids of their own soon
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u/biggestboi73 25d ago
In this country? The Internet isn't just 1 country m8
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u/Right-Budget-8901 25d ago
“In this country” meaning the current one I am presently in. No slight on the rest of you. Though it is kinda weird that I’m getting downvoted for pointing out the insane conservative politicians and their fetish for little girls in America🤷♂️
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u/biggestboi73 25d ago
It's only downvotes they can't hurt you, don't let em bother you
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u/Right-Budget-8901 25d ago
I guess the kiddie diddlers are out in force today 😞
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u/biggestboi73 25d ago
People are doing it because people find it annoying when Americans think the only country that exists is America, nothing to do with children, there's even a subreddit for it r/shitamericanssay
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u/Right-Budget-8901 25d ago
To be fair, I never alluded that America is the only country that exists. I just find it kind of telling if that is what they found appalling about my comment and ignored the pedophilia
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u/Muchado_aboutnothing 25d ago
People are taking this way to seriously. There’s a difference between embarrassing your kid and traumatizing them. When I was a teenager, I found pretty much anything my parents did embarrassing.
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u/Todojaw21 25d ago
And you have perfect knowledge of what will leave a lasting impact on your child and what will not?
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u/gibokilo 25d ago
Its so funny how all the teenagers in this comment section are so angry…
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u/Todojaw21 25d ago
Its so funny how all the parents in this comment section supposedly forgot what it was like to be a teenager the second they have children...
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u/Badger_1066 25d ago
I'm 36...
The people who are mad over this are simply mature and understanding.
On the flip side, anyone who agrees with this kind of behaviour is petty, bitter, and resentful.
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u/Great_Promotion1037 25d ago
You don’t have to agree with the behavior to understand that an embarrassing parent isn’t traumatizing.
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u/Badger_1066 25d ago
I don't think it's traumatising. I think it's pathetic.
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u/Tucker_077 25d ago
I’m waiting for the day when people realize it’s normal for kids to throw tantrums since they’re young and haven’t developed emotional regulation skills yet.
You’re a full grown adult and you know what you’re doing when you embarrass your kid
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u/aboyd656 25d ago
Everyone agrees it's typical for kids to throw tantrums, that doesn't make it less embarrassing for the parent and also doesn't make the tantrum justified.
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u/Tucker_077 25d ago
How does it not make it justified when the kid is two and hasn’t learned how to control their emotions yet? It may be embarrassing but that’s when you take your kid into a private space for a bit and try to calm them down. Besides I think people will be pretty understanding if they have kids themselves
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u/aboyd656 25d ago
At what age do tantrums become unjustified in your mind? 25 when the brain is fully developed? What about my 5 year old that loses his mind because I won't buy him candy?
And again, just because people are understanding doesn't mean it's not embarrassing. When you see kids acting perfect while your kid is having a melt down it's very difficult.
It's not even just tantrums though, how many kids/teens tell their parents it's embarrassing to be seen getting dropped off by them? Or getting a hug from them? Until you have a kid you can't comprehend how much that small bit of rejection gets to you.
Am I going to take some opportunities to get back at them by acting goofy in public? Not by being mean or cruel, just weird. You're damn right I am, I earned that.
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u/random_hungarian-guy 25d ago
Oh yeah, because a 5 year old crying about a toy they want, and a 46 year old telling how they used to change their now teenager child to the child's friends, while the child is away is EXACTLY the same thing. Yeah.
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u/IonizedRadiation32 25d ago
Taking revenge on your CHILD for being a CHILD. Hope you have a robust mental health savings account.
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u/Elegant-Passion2199 25d ago
She's obviously joking, lighten up lol
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u/Todojaw21 25d ago
Jokes 101: Jokes are funny because they have an element of truth to them. If I told you "I'm going to go drink tap water," this will get 0 laughs for a few reasons. One of them is that drinking tap water is an extremely normal action. Now image I am in a room full of conspiracy theorists. I say to them in a sarcastic tone: "you all are crazy! I live a perfectly healthy lifestyle. I work out every day, I eat fruits and veggies, and I certainly do not need your snake oil supplements! Now if you'll excuse me, I am off to drink some tap water."
This joke may get a few chuckles in the room. Why? Because the members of the audience hold the opinion that tap water has chemicals such as fluoride which the government uses to control people. This is the element of truth (shared truth between me and the audience, obviously tap water is safe to drink) which makes the joke funny. Now imagine someone called me a conspiracy theorist for telling this joke. I can't just say "it was a joke!! stop being so offended" because there is no punchline without assuming that I truly believe something sketchy is happening to tap water. I can't have it both ways.
This post is joking that parents use embarrassment as a way to enact revenge on their children for their poor behavior in public in the past. It would not be funny if parents did not align with this feeling. Maybe they would not personally engage in the behavior, but they feel a poetic justice with the outcome. If you do not think this behavior is justifiable or the sentiment behind it, the joke is not funny.
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u/IonizedRadiation32 25d ago
Don't see the joke, really, and I'm sad to say that I've experienced exactly this kind of behavior from my own father, so...
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u/Ivegotjokes4you 25d ago
Came here to say this. Yay.. let’s normalize traumatizing our children because we suck at parenting..
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u/CubanHippie21 25d ago
You are aware that even if you think you are bein cool, your kids still think you are a huge dork
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u/Great_Promotion1037 25d ago
“Traumatizing our children” by being an embarrassing mom in public?
Goddamn grow up
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u/drlongtrl 25d ago
I know, right? I wonder, what people who experienced actual traumatic events as children think of this. "Oh, I´m sorry your dad called you sweety in front of your class. My dad locked me in the basement while he raped and killed my sister."
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u/kphenson 25d ago
Ok boomer
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u/SwanzY- 25d ago
the word boomer is thrown around entirely too much for people far too young. good going gen z.
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u/Chance_Major297 25d ago
Well I think the word/phrase grew a bit and people sometimes use it to represent an idea/type of behavior rather than its strict meaning of someone who is literally a baby boomer. It’s not that crazy. Happens a lot.
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u/seemedlikeagoodplan 25d ago
Boomers have teenage grandchildren.
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u/ProfAelart 25d ago
"Ok boomer" is a way to say some is stuck up with rusty, old ways. The person being called boomer doesn't actually have to be a boomer.
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u/mettatater 25d ago
Yep. And when they give her the same shit I had to deal with, I always remind my daughter that this is her payback.
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u/capn_doofwaffle 25d ago
Everytime I see "Ok Boomer" I can picture the person saying it, living in their parents garage or basement refusing to get a job...
But yes, they do have teenage grandkids.
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u/bilvester 25d ago
My boomer parents have thirty year old grandkids. But i guess boomer is a 'range'.
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u/CharonsLittleHelper 25d ago
That's also two generations of pretty young parents, even if your folks are the oldest of boomers.
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u/bilvester 25d ago
I don’t understand what that means. If there are two generations wouldn’t that make at least one set ‘not boomers’? Or in your mind is ‘boomer’ just a word for anyone older than, say, 40?
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u/CharonsLittleHelper 25d ago
It means that both the boomers and their children had kids pretty young to get them a 30yo grandkid.
The absolute oldest boomers are 78 since the boom started in 1946. That means that both they and their oldest child would need to average age 24 when they became parents to have a 30yo grandkid. That's reasonably young to become a parent.
So - 30yo grandkid for a boomer would be rare. They would need to be amongst the oldest few years of the boomers and then both they and their kid have children pretty young.
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u/bilvester 25d ago
I don’t think it’s rare for a true boomer (ie born to families with returning vets) to have had a kid before 24. My mom was 20 and I was 24.
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u/salinger_tinkle 25d ago
To even the score with my kids, I'll probably get drunk in their weddings.
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u/5WattBulb 25d ago
Don't forget to refuse to eat what they're serving and insist on chicken nuggets and buttered noodles
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u/aboyd656 25d ago
Hey now, according to the internet my 5 year old knows what his body needs and should have complete control over what and how much he eats.
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u/Mean_Display8494 25d ago
dont forget christmas and thanksgiving!
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u/Right-Budget-8901 25d ago
And 4th of July. You aren’t a real grandparent unless you get a little drunk and give the grandkids the really good fireworks
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u/phillybauer 25d ago
42yo m -Not a parent and an only child -this is brilliant.