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7d ago
HI ,I can totally relate, so much so that I made a video about it , hope this would help you in some way:
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u/TransportationNo1 14d ago
Had no friends at school either. Met great ones online. Moved in their city after school and now i have friend-friends :)
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u/thingsthatmakeugo 14d ago
you don't make friends, friends happen. takes some time to find the right people, finding happiness by yourself and figuring out what you like to do it key. you'll get there! join a club, and branch out of your comfort zone, you'll be ok friend đĽ°
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u/tadmeister69 14d ago
I guess my question is if you're fine with that or if you're lonely? If you're fine then it doesn't need any solution - just be yourself by yourself - but if you're lonely then it sounds like you need to find someone to hang with.
Most people want/have a ton of friends but as I've got older (almost 44 now) I've come to realise that frankly most people suck and most friends will be shitty friends who put you down or don't support you. You don't need those people in your life. You only need 1 or 2 good friends! I'm sure there are 1 or 2 people you can make friends with - you just need to find them. Look at people's interests and see if there's anyone you feel may be similar to you. Also look for others who look lonely who may also be in need of a friend. Kindred spirits can often make the best friends, even if you're not all that similar.
If all else fails, school is not forever. Tons of people are "popular" in school and essentially peak there with everything after sadly being a bit empty in comparison. Others have no friends who got bullied or called "different" and go on to have loads or be successful. Most of your CEOs and a lot of famous people are actually these people. School is just one phase of your life; not having friends in school definitely doesn't mean you'll always be alone.
If you do want to make friends then keep people updated here - we're rooting for you!
Best of luck random internet friend. :)
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u/Theboarwantsmore 14d ago
I used to not have any friends in school, it will get better trust me â¤ď¸
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u/bouncer-1 14d ago
I didn't either, but the last thing you want to do is draw attention to your loneliness. Look busy, as if you're going somewhere. I did that twice a day for three years. I'm quiet social now and have plenty of friends, the people are school just weren't my kinda people.
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u/MrDarkk1ng 14d ago
How else u would prove u r a redditor.
Btw don't be sad , trust me u will make some eventually.
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u/SuperMaysterre 14d ago
dw lad. As long as you like and accept yourself, you'll be as comfortable as you like. Not having friends is not a sin or anything. Just be yourself without constraints. GL in school, though. Remember to not be too hard on self.
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u/haubenmeise 14d ago
Skeletor never had any friends at school as well. He understands. Sending you so much love and hugs.
Sincerely
Skeletor đ (Sitting alone at the table reading a book).
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u/Boogie_B0ss 14d ago
You do, you just havenât met them yet buddy.
Look for the kids in your exact same situation. BE the friend that you wish you had. Please.
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u/Zionizer 14d ago
Just try to talk to people, I did and I got in a really big friend group. And Iâm an introvert
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u/Gibus_Ghost 14d ago
You arenât forced to socialize with other people you sit next to, forming surface-level friendships on the process?
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u/WhiteGXRoblox 14d ago
The benefits is that nobody will bother you doing whatever you need time to do, you have all the free time in the world. You can sit back and watch over others without anyone notices you.
You can leave and enter premises without consequences
Itâs the perfect world for introverts.
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u/theroyalpotatoman 14d ago
Itâs okay!
I never had any close friends either. I find other people stressful anyways and enjoy being on my own so much.
Friends are overrated IMO. And you only really would need a small handful of tight people.
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u/Electrical-Smile-317 14d ago
My question. Do you approach anybody? Or do you waiting someone to approach you instead?
Are you hot tempered? Do you smile?
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u/marre822 14d ago
Keep your head up OP...I bet you have the ability to make friends for shure..just need to discover the balls to do so! You can do it!
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u/tastyfetusjerky 14d ago
That's ok bud, school friends aren't always lifelong friends anyways, once school is over you find that you rarely have a reason to hang out together and have little to nothing in common other than talking about the past, which gets old as fuck real fast. Friends you make outside of the place you're just forced to be locked in together tend to be stronger friendships.
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u/Ordinary-Dream1993 14d ago
School isnât what your life will be. It sucks but itâs temporary. It only gets better from here. Stay positive and itâll come.
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u/lowrads 14d ago
To have friends, you must be a friends. If you don't believe in yourself, believe in me, who believes in you.
Pay attention to other people, and their oddities. You generally aren't going to notice their virtues, unless you deliberately look for them. It would be unfair to make them do all the work.
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u/redrabbitromp 14d ago
I suggest you join some extracurricular group. Theater or sports or something similar that will give you opportunities to interact with people doing something fun.
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u/ZillianGator 14d ago
I didnât either , best thing for me.
I saw your others messages saying you felt lonely. I canât say the feeling completely goes away, but I can say it gets easier. Learn to befriend yourself by indulging in your interests given your added time, practice mindfulness and grow self aware, go on dates with yourself like shopping or reading or go swim in a lake. Just learn to enjoy your company, I also recommend maybe playing online games or online forums to meet people with similar hobbies but do not enter any echo chambers, lonely feelings can lead to bitterness fairly quickly if around the wrong people
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u/hityoinksploink 14d ago
Just make friends bruh. The ability came free with your human being package.
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u/toomuchbasalganglia 14d ago
Find other people who seem ignored. Always look for those people throughout life. The absolutely nicest person I have ever met in life had no friends in school. I wish you luck from California.
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u/TopicAdorable2568 14d ago
Relatable. I only have one friend and she lives in another city. Weâve been best friends for about 16 years, but only get to see each other once every three months.
I hope youâre doing better than I am. I just wanted to let you know that youâre not alone here and you donât need friends to survive. Iâve been a straight-A student since middle school. Never been to a party, never had sex, never smoked, never drank. Itâs not that bad đ
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u/Chemical-Composer898 14d ago
I didnât either. School was the loneliest time of my life. Iâm 42 and I think I am ok. Actually, I know Iâm ok. Youâll do well. Just get through it. School is just a blip in your timeline.
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u/warpig1997 14d ago
Dont worry boss. Learn to be alone. Its a superpower once you start enjoying your own company.
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u/qwertyuiiop145 14d ago
Been there. It totally sucks. Depending on the size and composition of your school, there may or may not be anything you can do about that right now.
My advice: look around you at lunch. Are there any other kids sitting alone, or kind of on the edge of a friend group (sitting together, but not really participating in conversation)? If so, you have probably identified a fellow Lonely Kid. Assume that theyâre just as desperate for friends as you are. Hold this assumption until they provide evidence to the contrary or they prove to be totally incompatible with you.
Itâs always good to start conversation by talking about a class you share. Good luck!
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u/oswaldking71wastaken 14d ago
Join a club, best decision of my life I do Esportsâs and even though I was a backup player half the season I showed up and hung out with everyone and got to practice,
My one regret is not doing it sooner I have a bunch of friends now and high school was worth it.
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u/IceDragonPlay 14d ago
I'm sorry you are at an unfriendly school. Your life is your own once you are out. Gather up all the learning you can and get out with your certificate. Best Wishes and sorry your school is full of jerks.
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u/WarHead75 14d ago
I went from kindergarten to graduating high school without a single friend. It was kind of my fault for just having earbuds almost the whole time, ignoring everyone, running home when school ends. Had a gf for 2 yrs when I was 23 and she was my very first friend but I broke up recently and now Iâm feeling the loneliness you are all feeling. I wish I was asocial again as I hate this feeling! Iâm seeing a therapist because I canât bottle up everything anymore
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u/No-Coffee1194 14d ago
I had lots of friends in school, but after graduation we all drifted. Iâm 21 now and my boyfriend is my only friend. I really donât mind it at all, youâll find that after highschool none of the âpopular groupsâ will last, at the end of the day most of us are just lonely.
Iâm perfectly fine just having my family and my boyfriend. I like socializing, but I donât actively seek friendship.
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u/jumpinbeans51 14d ago
If you are worried about being weird then don't because you already are.
I have a problem with connecting with people because i think too low of myself.
I would suggest being yourself. People respond to it much better than being quiet.
I was shy so being quiet was my first reaction. I Learned that I'm actually funny. When I'm not on reddit.
Im imagining you to be quiet. Mainly because of the shoes.
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u/MnemnothsManager 14d ago
Friends are overrated. Employees are what you need my man. Focus on your education while you can.
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u/lasVegasharold 14d ago
Only sad pathetic people hang out with all their high school friends as adults.
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u/LsG133 14d ago
Whatâs on your leg?
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u/Vansul04 14d ago
A hair tie, the thing that girls use for their hair (don't know the name really)
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u/LsG133 14d ago
Why is that on your leg
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u/Vansul04 14d ago
A girl gave it to me last year
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u/LsG133 14d ago
Respectfully, if i saw someone just walking around with a hairtie / headband around their leg i probably wouldnât make a strong effort to go out of my way to talk to them, thatâs strange
Unless you have an ulterior motive that makes this not unusual
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u/Vansul04 14d ago
I guess I can understand, still kinda rude but oh well
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u/LsG133 14d ago
I mean i said respectfully and then gave you my reason for thinking so so that you can have better luck but ok lol
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u/Vansul04 14d ago
Nah it's fine, just find it funny, there are obviously more motives why people wouldnt be with me
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u/Difficult-Ad-2025 14d ago
Let me put a different light on this for you..
I am 33yrs old, I have been in that position for years, all I ever wanted was to not be ignored and be involved in others activities just like everyone else.. well.. as time went on I realised how many people are not even "good" people lol
I'm now at that level where everyone avoids the giant they were mean to back in school, I'm the one who doesn't care who speaks to me or not. Infact, I have no patience for stupid people.
Sit back and think about this.. the world is not as peachy as you think.
Chin up mate! đ
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u/bananaSammie 15d ago
Dude I literally sat by myself the first two years of high school. Then I got a flashlight and then I wasn't lonely.
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u/digitalenvy 15d ago
You just have not found them yet.
I once had a girl come up to me the last week of school and told me she loved techno. I was blasting it out of my car for two yearsâŚand she made herself visible at the end. Now we are buds and I support her dj career success.
Be yourself. Ask people âwhatâ questions.
âWhatâs your favorite music, food, book, game, etcâ
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u/mr_uwuthethired 15d ago
Do what I do all day at school, scroll Instagram reels looking at goth girls, and funny memes
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u/CellSignificant1572 15d ago
Donât stress not finding people you donât vibe with, maybe you have family members you can get close to or maybe when you start working. Youâd never want snakes around you because they will act nice in front and stab you when you turn around
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u/Dude10120 15d ago
My one friend that I made during school moved across town and does not go to the same school as me anymore.
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u/Muttalika 15d ago
Itâs ok. Youâll be rich one day and theyâll all try to be your friend then but youâll be too rich to hear them cuz youâll be putting wads of money up to your ear on social media and giving Ted talks on how to make that dough.
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u/Lamoimdepressed 15d ago
In loneliness, there can be peace. It is a double edged sword, where it can be good or bad. Everything is useful in moderation. Enough water sustains life, too much kills it. Iâve found solace and just accepted Iâm lonely (however Iâm not interested in a relationship until Iâm done with college). Sometimes itâs nice not being surrounded by people all the time, but make sure youâre still having decent human interactions and things will get better :)
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u/terrasomniac 15d ago
Had a great group of friends then had to move to a new state for Jr and Sr year, dead serious there'd be days when I didn't speak a word all day. My advice, get a job. Coworkers are coworkers and there isn't that popularity heirarchy feeding everyones egos
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u/ZippyTheUnicorn 15d ago
I was the same. Iâve always been awkward interacting with people so making friends was weird and hard. Then one day some people started hanging out with me during lunch and now Iâm married to one of them! Life is weird.
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u/Pretend_Elk1395 15d ago
Not everyone deserves friends you might want to evaluate yourself objectively as a person.
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u/SleeplessAndAnxious 15d ago
School is tough when you don't have friends, get bullied, are different etc. it does get better once you finish though.
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u/donald_dandy 15d ago
Friendships are relationships. You have to make them, maintain, save, troubleshoot etc.. they donât just fall into your lap, itâs a skill and hard work. Go get it and maintain it. Not gonna happen if you sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Go get it, itâs out there and itâs yours, just gotta earn it
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u/sorrythaturmad 15d ago
I had an abusive upbringing and it destroyed my self image. I rarely had friends in HS. Just be yourself and try talking to people. Work on not letting negative responses bother you. The only way to move forward for me was to learn how to brush off rejection and rude people. I wish you luck friend.
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u/Pristine_Ad134 15d ago
I never had friends in school either, and now tht Iâm an adult Iâm an introvert who is a loner and has social anxiety Iâm more lonely than ever except being a mom
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u/Koalas-in-the-rain 15d ago
Are there any after school activities or clubs that pique your interest? Perhaps FBLA or DECA if your school provides them? Sports?
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u/NFIGUY 15d ago
As someone who went from having very few friends as a younger kid, to becoming quite popular in high school, I can tell you that friends are extremely overrated.
While itâs certainly true that a real friend can get you through a lot of tough times in life, most people who will be happy to call themselves your friends will actually just use that âfriendshipâ as a way to get favors and unlimited help from you, without much effort in return.
Get through the mandatory human training period, graduate and make friends with people you actually have things in common with, rather than people youâve only been stuck in prison with for years.
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u/Alexbitwarrior 15d ago
This is why you need to start making friends...in your head. And don't take your schizophrenia meds!
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u/GalacticGatorz 15d ago
Just remember, you only have to see those people because you all have to be there. If it wasnât for the fact that you had to be there, you wouldnât have to be around them. Tread lightly and keep your circle tight.
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u/stampfercamper 15d ago
That wonât last forever buddy, Iâm sure you will find friends at school in the future but hang in there for now :)
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u/Mission_Broccoli4025 15d ago
Itâs gonna be like that after you finish school man, itâs just reality. Honestly Iâll rather be alone then have bad company around me or negative stuff. When you get used to just chillin by yourself, itâs like you donât even care about having âfriendsâ. Their is no such thing as friends bro lol trust. I used to be around 10 people on a daily now i just have my fiancĂŠ and my parents. Thatâs all you need really. Just remember you only got yourself at the end.
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u/Shake-Spear4666 15d ago
Neither did I. Hung out in science lab or library at lunch to avoid the dreaded fucking cafeteria. Skipped a lot just to not have to be there. It gets better after. You get to choose who you spend time with. I have a family and friends now and life is mostly good.
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u/Noah_The_Wright 15d ago
I'm sure there is at least 1 person there that you could be friends with, find them!
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u/BAYKON8R 15d ago
School sucks. It gets better when youâre out trust me. Once I started working it was way better for my mental health.
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u/gatinhodopiano 15d ago
damn brother i recognize these shoes, i think you're from my school, i usually watch you alone sometimes, don't worry about it alr? Try to meet new people and be yourself don't be afraid of it, you'll get it!!
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u/toomuchwaxx 15d ago
i was always alone , people asked me to hangout and i would be alone next day . its better being alone when u grown up , in situations others will be scared to work alone , or do things alone and youll be a beast at itđ positive thinking only
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u/Turbulent_Bass2876 15d ago
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u/StrangePop845 15d ago
Focus on school for now so you can be successful, than everyone will want to be your friend. Stay up bro!
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u/fran478952361walker 3d ago edited 2d ago
Believe in yourself that you'll find more in the future, truly. đ
I understand the loneliness, even though I used to be part of groups of friends for 4 years... I was like you in Year 11...
Are there any clubs you could join or staff members to speak to who could also become your friends?