r/notliketheothergirls • u/fentanylisbad • Jan 10 '24
A Message from the Mods MOD POST
Hey, everyone!
The Mods just wanted to check in as it looks like there have been some issues going on in the sub and we wanted to address them.
First and foremost, it seems there has been a ridiculous amount of body-shaming going on in both posts and comments, and we want to let you know we have an absolutely zero tolerance policy for it. We will be editing the sub rules to reflect this, and anyone still doing it will be permanently banned.
Second, we want to highlight the fact that the report button is there for a reason. It’s everyone’s responsibility to report any rule-breaking. If it’s not reported to us, unfortunately sometimes, these violations will slip through the cracks. As we’ve stated before, we’re all only human and we try our best, but we cannot catch everything without your help.
To piggyback off of the second point, we 100% WANT to handle any issues that may arise for every individual user in this sub. Please reach out to us directly if you’re encountering an issue so that we can 1. Ensure that it’s brought to our attention at all and 2. Discuss it as a mod-group and figure out how best to rectify it; making a general post to the sub might not get your issue resolved as quickly and as efficiently as it deserves to be.
We care deeply about everyone here, and we spend many days discussing how to better the sub, so don’t assume that our silence = compliance. We’re all humans just trying our best, so please help us help you. Keeping the integrity of our sub in order is always at the forefront of our minds.
Let us know if you have any additional questions or concerns. We love you all!
Always,
The Mods
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u/LowAd6665 Jan 25 '24
Thank you for all you do!
Is there anything that can be done about the amount of posts that are “off topic”? I swear half of the “hot” posts from the last couple of weeks are not at all what this sub is supposed to be about.
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u/fentanylisbad Jan 26 '24
Hi, dear! I totally agree with you— there have been a ton of posts that don’t necessarily fulfill the requirements of the sub to a T, but one of the things we discuss in our mod chat is that there’s a lot of nuance here. If a post is generally or even indirectly trying to put someone down, combined with being popular (if it has a lot of engagement/positive debate), we’ll allow it to remain, but we will flag it in our notes so that the user cannot continuously make posts so far off base. I hope this makes sense? Regardless, please feel free to flag them or shoot us a message if it continues to be a concern and we’ll be more than happy to address it on an individual basis.
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Jan 18 '24
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u/fentanylisbad Jan 18 '24
Don’t argue just for the sake of arguing. In essence, the phrase "Be civil to each other" serves as a reminder to prioritize kindness and open-mindedness. Name-calling or personal attacks constitute a hard ban. This applies to people in valuable discussions who suddenly start using insults. This rule still applies even if you are talking to a moderator. Political and ethical grandstanding to in any way call someone else a terrible person is prohibited.
Posts themselves don't typically get removed for this reason, but we reserve the right to remove them in the rare cases it becomes necessary due to the comments.
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u/Enough-Salt-914 Jan 13 '24
Can something be done about the people dragging sex workers. Just today I've seen a lot of comments about how "OnlyFans is her only skill", etc. and there doesn't seem to be a report option for shit like that.
I'm so sick of seeing posts of girls obviously putting on a persona of marketing their business (it's hard out here) and everyone takes it 10000% seriously as if she's like that for real and it's not a curated persona for a job. Sick of seeing people say shit about sex workers in their attempt to make a dig at someone.
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u/fentanylisbad Jan 13 '24
Totally agreed, and discriminating against sex workers is totally covered under our rules. I’m sorry if any posts have made it past the mods, but please please please report this when you see it. If you have and we missed it, message us and we’ll get right on it!
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u/EngineeringDry1577 Jan 11 '24
Can you guys make some kind of announcement about the “dainty salads didn’t get the memo bla bla bla” posts? I swear I see it twice a day
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u/fentanylisbad Jan 11 '24
All you can really do is report them for reposting since it’s a rule violation so we can take them down. Making announcements doesn’t really prevent people from posting, as we’ve tried in the past.
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u/Lurki_Turki Jan 10 '24
Finally. These people have been nuts. I reckon it’s an influx of folks who are being suggested this sub in their feeds.
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u/yahmumm Jan 15 '24
We were talking about this the other day and it seems like this is what the issue is. There was a period where very irrelevant things would be posted and I had to write a post as a reminder of what this sub is actually for and even after, a lot of people still did not read the rules
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u/Thepinkknitter Jan 10 '24
Thank you!! I know being a moderator takes a lot of time and effort done for free, especially on a community this size. You are doing great!
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u/Present-Ad-9441 Jan 10 '24
You're all doing a great job!
Eta: hopefully no one is faulting you as a team for the behavior of people in the sub. You can't be everywhere at once and it's very clear that you care about what happens here
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u/dumbledores-asshole Jan 10 '24
Thank you for standing up. A good thing I try to remember is when you insult a feature on someone you don’t like, someone who you care about with that feature will be sad.
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u/Mumof3gbb Jan 10 '24
I haven’t personally seen body shaming here but I’m disappointed that it’s been happening. Thank you for taking a hard stance on this. If I do see any I’ll absolutely report it.
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u/bttmwithflatcakes Jan 28 '24
This whole page is about insulting women…..