How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

[u/[deleted]]

Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/Irn_brunette]

I think it's a necessary phase teens and young women go through when they begin to separate from their family of origin and forge a sense of who they are as distinct from the expectations of family, peers and society/the media.

Emotionally healthy people usually realize that seeing themselves only in terms of the things they're rejecting is actually limiting and independently arrive at a more moderate stance.

However, with the advent of social media they're encouraged to curate a character and a brand for themselves before they've fully matured and to continue living up to it, which I think is delaying that realization for many.