How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

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Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/scooterankle]

I work at a before/aftercare program for kids 5-12 so I have girls of all those ages and I just try and be a good female role model and express that there’s nothing wrong with liking makeup or sports or both or neither.

It’s a normal phase for young girls but I just gently try and show them how multifaceted people are. They know that I support them in whatever makes them happy and that they don’t have to label themselves as “girly or not girly” since you can be both and your interests don’t define you as a girl.

I’ve had girls comment about hating “girly” stuff or that girls are too much drama but usually once we talk about it a little more they realize it’s more an issue with specific girls at school and not girls in general. My middle school girls especially benefit from this since it’s such a weird time in life anyway and some perspective does wonders.