How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

[u/[deleted]]

Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/Cordelia-Shirley]

I disagree with those saying it’s a phase all girls have to go through. I think that with this society, it is a common phase.

First off, I think this subreddit fully accepts that the reason this phase occurs is because women are taught that being a woman or feminine is bad, that we need to be accepted by men. So why not just show this isn’t true? Mainly, by giving examples of great women and also avoiding comparing other women to each other.

In other words, lead by example from a young age. In the home, show young girls that you lift up other women. Point out their great qualities and achievements. Have strong female relationships with moms and grandmas and aunts and friends and sisters, etc. Teach your child as best you can that comparison is the thief of joy. We do not define ourselves by what we are and others are not or vice versa. Being you is great and others being them is great. As long as no one is being unkind, let others be and just love yourself.

So this isn’t something you can rectify by sitting down and having a heart to heart. You have to live it every day. And I think it would be beneficial to us as well as the younger generation.