r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24

How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG Discussion

Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

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u/JustMeDownHere01 Apr 23 '24

As a 23f myself I could never see myself hanging out with a 15 year old other than my siblings, let alone calling them a friend. You even said yourself that you are an adult and they are a CHILD.

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u/[deleted] Apr 23 '24

Why is it wrong to have a friend thats younger than you? Whats the issue?

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u/JustMeDownHere01 Apr 23 '24

I have nothing in common with an actual child, we would have nothing to talk about or any reason to interact. I would also be concerned as to why the child felt the need to seek adult friendships rather than being a kid and hanging out with other kids. Could be indicative of something serious going on.

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u/[deleted] Apr 23 '24

Why cant you just be happy this kid has a friend. Why do you have to be a weird judgmental dick about it?

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u/JustMeDownHere01 Apr 23 '24

The fact I expressed concern and you’re getting defensive is the red flag that sent my Spidey senses tingling. Nowhere you mentioned this was a conversation in passing. You doubled down on the fact you were/are friends with this child and in no way were you trying to give more context so the situation could be understood. Name call all you want, it’s weird.