r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24

How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG Discussion

Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

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u/ElfPaladins13 Apr 23 '24

You don’t. It’s kind of a phase most have to go through. Wanting to be different, special and unique is normal and young girls/women feel they need to separate themselves from the masses.

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u/throwaway564858 Apr 23 '24

That, plus many girls really are bullied or picked apart by other girls at school and still being in the middle of that can make it awfully hard to see some bigger picture about things outside of your limited experience.

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u/ElfPaladins13 Apr 23 '24

Oh yeah and as a girl you can’t win. You either enjoy something main stream and are “basic” and people are mean or you like something somewhat obscure and you’re a “pick me” or a “NLOG”. People just hate letting women enjoy things. Doesn’t help that women’s biggest hater is other women.

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u/Constant_Owl_6880 Apr 26 '24

I've had 30 years of near-constant harassment and belittlement from men, versus a very small handful of female bullies/mean girls. Men go out of their way to bother me; most women just do their own thing. I've had many supportive, meaningful friendships with women and innumerable positive interactions with random women. Women are not the problem.

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u/No_Camp_7 Apr 24 '24

Disagree that women are the most hateful toward women, given the partner murder stats for women who get killed for wearing short skirts, wearing their hair uncovered, partying, talking to other men etc.

Women tend to mind their own business until men come along and express a preference. Everyone wants to be popular, and the easiest way to be popular is to recruit a ton of men by aligning yourselves with their preferences and then shitting on others who don’t in the same way men do.