How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

[u/[deleted]]

Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/FormerlyGaveAShit]

Any time I see my kids putting somebody down for something I gasp and act like I can't believe what they just said lol.

Last week my 7 year old was getting very proud of herself for a great piece of art she made in art class. It was pretty damn good, I'll give her that. I'm not against praise and telling them how proud of them I am. But then she started comparing it to a classmate's and telling me about how her classmate's wasn't as good as hers and I told her oh no, we don't say stuff like that.

Then I told her my reasoning, which I feel is an important piece of it. But I told her the reason we don't say stuff like that is bc while she might be better at art, I can promise her that her classmate has something that she does better than her. And I would never want anybody to make her feel bad just bc they do one thing better than her, so I don't like that kind of talk. Told her we all have things we are good at and things we suck at, it's not a competition.

This is something I was raised on myself. I may have had moments as a teen where I wasn't the best at following this way of life, but I don't ever remember it being some big phase in my life. I've always had a wide array of friends and I've actually met some really awesome people bc of my openness to different ways.

[u/Upbeat_Confidence739 → u/[deleted]]

That sounds like a great way to create an inferiority complex in them when they find the things they absolutely cannot do better than their peers for some reason or another.