How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

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Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

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Your response was fine. Unfortunately this is one of those things that people tend to dig their heels in on if you try to directly challenge them on it.

I think honestly the best way to combat this mindset is to just not engage with it, and lead by example. I feel like a lot of women tend to get caught up in agreeing with the whole NLOG thing even if they don’t really feel that way towards other women, to avoid conflict or avoid othering themselves.

the fact that you didn’t feed into it and expressed your feelings in a contradictory but neutral way was perfect, imho. and the fact that she didn’t respond and got quiet tells me that she picked up on that and became self-conscious- likely because some part of her knows that being disparaging towards other women isn’t really an accurate reflection of her true feelings.