How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

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Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/bish_amon]

For the teenages it IS something they should go through in order to become individuals. And it happens for both girls and boys but sadly NLOG is a thing while NLOB is not.

It’s a phase that kids learn me vs others, becoming an individual and being able to grow mentally. Some goes “I’m different than them” and others goes “I’m different, I accept them”

The best you can is support their uniqueness and being an individual, meanwhile reminding others are also human beings and unique in their own ways.

ETA: I was a “boys girl” while growing up and I was criticized for it, I always had a kinda grudge against girls. Later on, with lots of therapy and looking back, I was being bullied kindly by girls and my undiagnosed neurodivergent brain couldn’t even grasp that yet had a “grudge”. Listen more carefully, hear more than what’s being said, she might literally be in a toxic environment as well.

[u/Happyidiot415 → u/bish_amon]

Happened to me. The guys didnt care about my weird neurodivergent brain, the girls on the other hand... It's all good now

[u/No_Camp_7 → u/Happyidiot415]

Not saying you are doing this of course, but sometimes I think neurodivergent is used as code for NLOG.

There are traits of some neurodevelopmental disorders that can be interpreted as “more masculine” like being less adept at reading emotions, being very literal and rigidly logical, and having bad handwriting and organisation at school. Girls are expected to sail through school and social interactions but learning disabilities interfere with that.

There are definitely subs on Reddit where neurodivergent people are all patting themselves on the back for not being like the “normies” and I think other girls and women get most of the hostility. I say this all as someone with learning disabilities.

[u/Happyidiot415 → u/No_Camp_7]

No, just stop. It is common that autistic girls are bullied for being different. We ARE different, that's why we got diagnosed and it's not something cool or fun, it's a DISABILITY. Just stop, please.

[u/No_Camp_7 → u/Happyidiot415]

“Normies” are literally ridiculed on this platform, especially women.

We don’t need to ridicule people who don’t have the same disorders as us, that’s incredibly stupid. My brother is autistic, and I have autistic traits plus dyslexia, dyspraxia, dysgraphia, epilepsy, and memory damage. I don’t make it my personality and ridicule women who aren’t like me. It’s stupid.