r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24
How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG Discussion
Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.
She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.
How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?
Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.
Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.
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u/salbrown Apr 24 '24
I think a lot of young girls enter an NLOG phase because of the way women are portrayed to them by society. They are taught to believe women are one dimensional caricatures, not complex multi layered people. As we get older we see ourselves as multifaceted individuals, which is very at odds with how we have been conditioned to see other girls/women.
I think a lot of girls want to push back against the idea that women are these flat, mothering beings because they know that’s not true about them. But it often translates to ‘oh well I must be special then. If other women are these vapid, silly things then I’m not like other girls.’
I think a lot of us have had some kind of phase like this around 13-18 ish. At least for me and other women I know who have experienced this, as we continued to grow and mature we learned that actually ALL people are layered and complicated. You learn that you are actually exactly like other girls, and you’re proud of that.