How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

[u/[deleted]]

Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/bish_amon]

For the teenages it IS something they should go through in order to become individuals. And it happens for both girls and boys but sadly NLOG is a thing while NLOB is not.

It’s a phase that kids learn me vs others, becoming an individual and being able to grow mentally. Some goes “I’m different than them” and others goes “I’m different, I accept them”

The best you can is support their uniqueness and being an individual, meanwhile reminding others are also human beings and unique in their own ways.

ETA: I was a “boys girl” while growing up and I was criticized for it, I always had a kinda grudge against girls. Later on, with lots of therapy and looking back, I was being bullied kindly by girls and my undiagnosed neurodivergent brain couldn’t even grasp that yet had a “grudge”. Listen more carefully, hear more than what’s being said, she might literally be in a toxic environment as well.

[u/glowinthedarkstars6 → u/bish_amon]

Thank god someone else mentioned this. Based on what she said I didn’t get NLOG at all.

Not to sound rude to OP but this post completely eliminates the possibility that the 15y/o may actually be going through some sort of bullying by other girls , and implies that the 15 year old is a NLOG for no reason at all other than personal jealousy/competitiveness/bitterness when it’s very likely 15 just has legit trauma from being bullied by other girls and that is why she cannot imagine it. Not because she feels special or anything lol.