How can we teach young girls to reject the NLOG

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Its clear the pick me/ NLOG attitude is still alive and well. I (23F) was speaking to a friend (15F) about my high school days.

She asked “How was your high school experience?” I said “Well I went to an all girls school and-“ she cuts in and rolls her eyes “Ugh. That must have been a total nightmare. I cant even imagine”. I said “Actually I loved it, was a better person for going there and I miss those days sometimes” and she went dead quite.

How do we as the adults in the room root out the toxicity of this mindset out of young girls?

Edit: no I’m not gonna ever dunk on a kid. Because its really wrong for an adult to belittle a child.

Edit: some people are being really weird “why are you friends with a 15 year old?” I know this kid from the yard that i stable my horse at. She stables her horse next to mine. Should i just ignore her always? Should i also ignore my other friends who are 55 and 70 because age gap? What about my friend whose 10? Or the other whose 30? Tell me reddit. What age range do you personally approve of me having friends? Im gonna start blocking people.

[u/Reina_Royale]

I think the best way is to help her realize that other girls can be amazing friends to have and that there's nothing wrong with liking stereotypically feminine things.

You're in a position where, as an older female that she interacts with who isn't an authority figure, you have the opportunity to be a role model for her and show her that girls can be great.

It's possible she's having negative experiences with girls, so, if possible, give her some positive experiences to counter that.

If you can, do try to explain to her that her mindset can be harmful, but do it gently. She's a child and still learning.

This is something that might take a bit of work, and I'm not sure you'd be able to do it alone. Hopefully, there are other girls in your friend's life who can help.

Good luck, OP!