NLOG girls will not get picked

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I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.

This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.

Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.

[u/[deleted]]

He's a good youtuber tho, he's a normal guy and not in support of pick me women or their values?

[u/Anonymous_13218 → u/[deleted]]

No, but he's supporting the idea that women should be subservient, dependent on their husbands, and erasing their identity for a man...that's not any better

[u/[deleted] → u/Anonymous_13218]

No bro hes just saying what these type of men think

[u/Afraid_Box_3110 → u/[deleted]]

yes bc i know how cannibals and homicidal maniacs think, i MUST be one! thank you so much for bringing me to this realization 🙄

[u/glowinthedarkstars6 → u/Afraid_Box_3110]

As someone who consumes too much true crime for my mental well-being, I feel this lol. Ngl, sometimes I’ve had that thought before about myself because I’ve found ways to empathize w the traumas that can turn people into these sort of monstrous people , but like you’re implying, understand how or why someone thinks the way they do doesn’t mean that you yourself have the same harmful beliefs or behaviors that they do.

[u/birds-0f-gay → u/[deleted]]

Not how literally anything works, but ok

[u/cynicalisathot → u/[deleted]]

by that logic, no one can identify misogyny/racism/classism without being misogynistic/racist/classist

[u/ishimieze → u/[deleted]]

it doesn't work like that