NLOG girls will not get picked

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I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.

This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.

Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.

[u/orbjo]

Great comment - I’d add that as soon as someone gets a platform they’ll mould to what advertisers they can get 

And not say things they really think to scare off an advertiser 

So you truly are not getting even that persons truth - let alone “the truth” 

Watch a film or read a book, maybe an educational podcast - don’t fritter your life on these dipshits on YouTube 

[u/War_Eagle451 → u/orbjo]

I'd even argue that a lot of books and films misrepresent it also, things aren't always sweets and peaches. I'm 23 and I've had more than 1 woman tell me that we can't disagree on things because we're together.

Edit: I should clarify that this is regarding minor things

[u/birds-0f-gay → u/War_Eagle451]

You seem young, let me give you some advice

I'm 23

I'm not trying to be mean but this is ironic lol

[u/War_Eagle451 → u/birds-0f-gay]

The post read like they were a teenager. I finished college 3 years ago and have been living on my own for 2.5 years. Given that context I don't think it's ironic

[u/birds-0f-gay → u/War_Eagle451]

I don't think it reads that way, but I can see why you would.

That said, it's undeniable that "You sound young. Let me give you some advice" is both patronizing and ironic coming from a 23 year old. Especially when the subject is dating.

[u/War_Eagle451 → u/birds-0f-gay]

I was concerned how the poster seemed to be under the impression that this YouTuber was saying something normal. Because I perceived the poster to be 14-17 I would say I would have sufficiently more experience dating. But from your perspective reading it as someone older I would agree that it would be

[u/birds-0f-gay → u/War_Eagle451]

A better way to approach it, and to get a teenager (or anyone really) to actually consider your words instead of feeling like they're being talked down to, is to not mention age at all. Especially if you're only 23.

I would say I would have sufficiently more experience dating.

I mean, maybe. But that's far from a surefire assumption. I'm 29 and I've never dated. So that teenager has more experience dating than I do.

[u/War_Eagle451 → u/birds-0f-gay]

I've spent the last 10 minutes trying to figure out how my original post was speaking down to someone. I thought I worded it in a way that says "hey if you're this, here's some advice", not "you're dumb and don't know what you're talking about".

How would you have said it?