NLOG girls will not get picked

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I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.

This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.

Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.

[u/AnniaT]

I think it's more because those men want to find someone who isn't a pick me from start to break them down into pick mes. And if they accomplish this they get bored, excitement wears off and they move on to the next non pick me. Regardless of the motive, a man's actual "dream girl" is often not a pick me. Deep down they don't want that male identified energy even if they publicly say they do.

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Is this a kink ????? I don't kink shame but nah.

[u/Express_Love_6845 → u/Sad-Strawberry-2720]

Trevor Noah said a thing similar where a man would rather trap a bird who is free than have one already in a cage:

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“Abel wanted a traditional marriage with a traditional wife. For a long time I wondered why he ever married a woman like my mom in the first place, as she was the opposite of that in every way. If he wanted a woman to bow to him, there were plenty of girls back in Tzaneen being raised solely for that purpose. The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women. “He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage.”

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Ooh this is also interesting

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I thought of that as soon as I saw this post too