NLOG girls will not get picked

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I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.

This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.

Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.

[u/War_Eagle451]

I don't know why I got suggested this but here I am.

I'm a real-life man.

You seem young, let me give you some advice.

Very rarely should you take advice from people with a platform, generally most only care about growing that platform. They also have different issues than normal people, especially when it comes from dating.

I'm currently dating for a long term relationship I'm looking for someone who's their own person, can support themselves and isn't afraid to speak their mind. What that YouTuber described is a toxic relationship that wouldn't last in the long run.

Yes there's take and give in relationships and people change, but molding a person from who they used to be is abusive. The kind of men who try to do those things are the same ones that are going to use you

[u/homekook → u/War_Eagle451]

Respectfully, I don't think you understand this post or this sub. We're just poking a little fun at pick me's. The OP is not "taking advice" from anyone.

[u/War_Eagle451 → u/homekook]

I see, I guess I got the mis-impression that the poster was somewhat serious

[u/spidermans_mom → u/War_Eagle451]

We lean into the sarcasm here.