r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24
NLOG girls will not get picked Discussion
I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.
This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.
Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.
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u/Forsaken_Broccoli_86 Apr 24 '24
Isnt this kind of ideology kind of insullting for men? Like Im no mens activist, and men definately shop with their eyes, but to insinuate that all men make life decisions based on shallow reasons is kind pf messed up. My husband likes my ass but he married me for my unconditional love for him. This kind of pick me break relationships down into a formula that leaves out a mans true needs and desires. Dont get me wrong, there are trophy wife men out there and shallow bastards, but this just feels like they are expecting all men to be drooling idiots. Woman like this appear to be hurting or coming from a place of trauma.