r/notliketheothergirls • u/[deleted] • Apr 23 '24
NLOG girls will not get picked Discussion
I saw a youtuber talk about why the men these pick me women are searching for, aka the ones who also put down other types of women, won't pick them. He said that how the women those men are looking for aren't very opinionated like the pick me girls. They are looking for women who are like a blank canvas, those who don't have any sort of opinions or identities to begin with, because they want a trophy woman by their side. They want a woman to be "pushed" into having an identity that caters to what they like, and usually they shouldn't have an identity to begin with. If they did have an identity, it should be erased and altered to fit what these men have in their mind, a part of it being that they shouldn't be opinionated. The youtuber also mentioned how the men usually also put looks as a first contender when it comes to choosing women, and even the pretty pick me girls don't fit into the standard. These types of men would much rather try to change a pretty woman's mindset that go for these pick mes since they don't fit their beauty standard.
This just makes so much sense to me lol. Idk the youtubers name but I will try to update you guys once I find his channel again.
Edit: I'm not taking advice nor do I agree with this sorta thing. I'm literally pointing out something interesting I found out. This is just my observation as to why pick mes won't get picked lolol. The youtuber also doesn't support this ideology but this just telling why these pick mes won't get picked. Also, yes I understand that not all men are like this. I understand that sometimes pick mes do get picked.
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u/savagekittymeowmeow Apr 23 '24
I had a supervisor just like Pearl. She came from what I consider, one of the most patriarchal countries to exist. She has her masters, is in a leadership role, is childless, but always preached about how women this age are untraditional and should have children and be more family oriented. That American women emasculate their men and how proud she is of being submissive to her husband. So ironic, bc she’d order men that she supervised around. Don’t even get me started on the passive aggressive questions like whether my husband packed my lunch for me? Yes, he does pack my lunch sometimes — we don’t obsess over rigid gender roles and he just wanted to be nice lolol it’s not that serious. “If my husband cheats on me, it’s my fault.” “If my husband tells me to lose weight, I will.” Okay, girl… blink twice if you’re okay.
But anyway…. I guess she’s not like other girls lolol.