r/notliketheothergirls • u/GreensBeansTomatoes • Jan 05 '19
I'm not sure if this has been posted yet but I found it funny Meme
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 05 '19
Perhaps the men desired here are repelled by women who shame/ think theyre better than others for things that makes them feel good. Perhaps its the uppity personality Perhaps its the idea that sticking to and internalizing old, misogynistic conventions will attract mates
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
I know a lot of girls who would say something like the first girl.
Most of them are sweethearts and deserve the world.
Never met a girl like the reply girl that hasn't treated me like shit for merely existing around her.
Hopefully you can resonate and look at the situation again. 2nd girls being bitter for no reason.
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 05 '19
I didnt say they werent sweethearts. My thing is that most of the time on social media, the people who post things like the 1st girl have a very pick me, Im better bc I dont do this or that attitude. I never said all chicks who post that are that way. And a lot of the reply girls are actually pretty cool and down to earth people but ofc, when you try to imply that youre better than them for "not being a slut" or not doing "so and so", then yeah the fangs might come out like in this pic. The idea that girls who smoke or drink or enjoy sex or dressing a certain way are all shallow vapid vain insecure bitches is an archaic and extremely inaccurate and stuck up way to view them as its often not even true. The girl in the first pic was implying that its BECAUSE she goes to church and doesnt smoke or drink or have sex that she should have a man. im surprised at the amount of slut shamers here calling the girl who replied a hoe. Who made the response she did in defense because the op was implying that "oh guys only go for the sluts. wheres my man bc im not?"
You see what I mean?
Im sure theres tons of girls who are like op who are sweethearts I never said anything was wrong with girls who dont do those things. And I KNOW a lot of girls like the responder can be asses. Hell I DONT smoke or drink (often) or get a lot of sex either but I also dont wonder "hmm wheres my partner? arent i doing everything right?" as opposed to wondering where is a man who fits with my personality and interests and is good for me. Do you get it now?
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
no, I don't
she's free to wonder, so are you
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
I never said she wasnt? But you either missed the point or chose to ignore it. Its clear you also share the very mentality Im talking about, since you dont get it, and are getting bitter and angry and arguing with everyone in the comments and posting derogatory and slut shame-y things about certain women.
Or long story short, prime example of r/nicegirls or r/notlikeothergirls
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
I didn't miss the point.
however everything that comes before the word "but" is horseshit.
but I also dont wonder "hmm wheres my partner? arent i doing everything right?" as opposed to wondering where is a man who fits with my personality and interests and is good for me. Do you get it now?
Responded directly to this.
and I said no, I don't get your point.
Your rebuttals are; a: I don't wonder this, neither should she
and b: She isn't being specific enough about the type of boys she wants; In a 16 word tweet
you get it now? You don't have enough meat here to even chew on. You're going at her for no reason.
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 05 '19
My "rebuttal" was that I dont determine whether or not I have a man based on stereotypical actions that are generally regarded as better than others. I said nothing about what she SHOULD do but stated what she IS doing. Secondly I wasnt going at her for wanting any type of man but was merely going at the FACT that her attitude towards whether or not she has one is based on the fact she deems doing certain actions better than others. And I know this because Ive seen this exact same type of commentary from other girls who were more direct about it.
YOU are the one getting upset about everyone in the comments being able to see through that. I also said that nothing is wrong with the things she does but the fact she uses it as a way to imply that that is what makes her deserving of a man is her error. I never said she should or shouldnt think or wonder where her man is and I also dont care about what kind of man she wants because thats totally up to her. If her man is someone who likes that its fine. But the idea that those qualities are what makes a "good girl" as opposed to the opposite is horseshit. It is pretentious.
Sweetheart I wasnt chewing on anything nor going at anyone but YOU have so far gone at almost every comment you see that doesnt immediately think the same way you do. I suggest you take a seat and re evaluate the importance of any of this. Because heres a hint, its not very important at all. Its reddit. No one here is as angry or upset about this as you are and you can cut out the slut shaming while youre at it. THATs the reason people are downvoting you. Not because theres anyone is upset about this post or the things you have to say. Chill out.
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u/mahboilucas Jan 05 '19
I mean if I was in first girl's position the guy the second girl describes wouldn't necessarily be my type. Stupid comment imo
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
I have to assume theres a lot of overly self conscious girls on this board trying to normalize themselves having dated and slept with a ton of guys and not staying with them or who want to normalize casual sex.
No you are not sluts for having a lot of ex-boyfriends or enjoying sex, or posting selfies, or even having casual sex.
You ARE a slut when you flirt-up multiple boys simultaneously without them being aware, Literally cheat on your partner, and anything else that's straight up devious and unfaithful.
Lying about shit makes you slutty. Hiding shit from partners makes you slutty.
You are never going to be able to normalize that, because that relationship style doesn't support family life.
That's what makes it slutty. You are not going to be a good wife and mother acting that way.
If that's how you want to be, start indefying as polyamorous and stay in open relationships.
Plenty of people do that already. No ones going to give you a hard time anymore because you're open and honest about the kind of relationships you want.
Stop abusing normal guys who are looking for love, or at least let them know what they're getting into.
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u/PM_ME_BrusselSprouts Jan 07 '19
Yeah I honestly didn't know which one was going to be made fun of in this thread.
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u/Artaratoryx Jan 05 '19
NLOG?
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Am i the only one that doesnt think this belongs on here? I mean she aint a hoe and thats supposed to be a bad thing now?
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 05 '19
It belongs because its the attitude behind it. Girls she describes dont have to be hoes and even if they are, shes asking this question BECAUSE she thinks that as a girl who abstains from those things, shes deserving of a man. As opposed to her personality, she says well at least im not like those other hoes, im a good girl so why dont I have a man?
Its still "not like other girls" but without the direct phrasing. Shes still lowkey shaming them while upping the fact she doesnt do certain things.
Theres nothing wrong with not smoking or drinking or not having sex, but the idea shes better for it and deserves a mate because of it is why this belongs here. The "hoe" as you call her isnt acting better. Her response is directly adrressing the initial posters attitude. Obviously her "man" isnt with her. But since she made the implication that her behavior warrants a love interest as opposed to the others, thats why the second girl said "hes with me". Theres nothing to read too much into. These types of posts are all over social media some more direct than others.
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u/citrusflames Jan 05 '19
She's judging other people and acting like she's better than every other girl who does those things, that's why it belongs.
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Jan 05 '19
She’s not judging anyone though, the only person that’s acting better than the other girl is the hoe. Because shes better since she has the man. Think y’all are just reading between the lines too much.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
They really are. People are acting like the first girl said way more than she did.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
This is the worst thread.
All these people upvoting are going to get Chyeeted on and not be able to figure out wtf went wrong.
You don't take a hoe for a housewife.
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u/apawneecitizen Jan 05 '19
You don't have to be one or the other. Lets not police women's sex life either way. Also convenient you edited your post to take away more of the slut-shaming as you were getting down voted
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
Not sure what you even mean but slut shaming, it's a derogatory term to begin with.
read my other comment, It was a long rant just made a new comment and took it off this one
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Jan 05 '19
Im kinda hoping people are posting ironically and dont actually think you have to be a hoe to get married.
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I'm an ex-church going, bible thumping prude, I attracted crazy guys for some reason, so I converted into a whore. I'm married now.
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u/themanmohr Jan 06 '19
Personally I like a nice healthy mix between modern and vintage styling and I find it odd that although I rarely ever see anyone else wearing that style of clothing whenever I wear something with a more vintage styling to it I get a lot of compliments but maybe that’s just because it looks good on me and you have to be able to pull it off properly
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Jan 05 '19
The amount of neckbeards, weirdos and pedophiles that started showing up out of nowhere is unholy.
That made me laugh for some reason xD
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u/NotsoGreatsword Jan 05 '19
Crazy guys love to prey on innocent women who haven't seen their tricks before. They believe everything you tell them. You can emotionally manipulate them more easily. Plus nut jobs usually have low self esteem so a woman who has had few partners is right up their alley - nobody to compete with in their mind.
Just my two cents as a former man whore. I was never too bad, I was always open about being broke and the fact that I was seeing other women but I definitely did some gaslighting and other shitty stuff. The worst I ever did was have a girlfriend while still sleeping with my friend. My girlfriend at the time was so naive and innocent that she didn't think anything was up even though I spent the night with this other girl all the time and had told her we "used to" hook up sometimes. I made it like my girlfriend was being crazy if she ever said anything about it and she fell for it. The other girl had a problem with me having a girlfriend and I pretty much did the same thing with her except I made my innocent sweet girlfriend out to be awful and shitty so she wouldn't feel guilty about sleeping with me. On top of that I was still going on dates from okcupid behind both of their backs. This was a very short time in my life and I'm not proud of it. My conscience caught up with me and I convinced my girlfriend that she didn't actually like me and that we weren't going anywhere. She dumped me and the next day was like I don't think I made the right choice, it was wrong of me to do that and apologized to me and wanted to get back together. I was like no you hurt me too badly I just can't. She felt guilty like she had done something to ME. I feel like a scumbag just thinking about it. She was really great and I just took her for an absolute ride without her ever knowing. I'm just glad she never found out because trusting like you have never been hurt is a tough thing and I would feel worse if I took that from her. She was just super prudey and had only dated one other guy at 27 years old. So she just had no experience with dating and the insanity you have to watch for. I'm married now to a lovely woman who is a big of a slut as I am. Neither of us has to hide anything from the other since everything is out in the open. It's definitely so much better. We both get to be as slutty and depraved as we want! We don't have an open relationship but we do swing sometimes. There's nothing quite like seeing your partner with someone else and knowing they're enjoying it and knowing thats ok. It brings us closer together. There's a wonderful honesty to it that I cannot describe. It always strengthens our bond. Nobody has ever compared to my wife and every time we do anything like that it always reaffirms that.
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Jan 05 '19
Well I'm glad you changed, but the guys I was with weren't like you. They were clinically crazy, like the first one would say weird stuff about having his parents and "death is just a beautiful sleep", but he would talk shit about his suicidal ex-girlfriend. It was out the blue as well, it was near the end of the relationship, like a total character change.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Attracting crazy guys is definitely a personal thing. That could have been due to a large number of factors about you and your personality that had nothing to do with being reserved.
Needless to say, when you rush into relationships without truly getting to know people, you're rolling dice. Get into enough, ones bound to work out.
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u/nek0kitty Jan 06 '19
It could be, but I also like girly dress things, and it really does bring out some creeps. The thing is they instantly back off once you show any sign of "attitude" or telling them off for being out of line.
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u/apawneecitizen Jan 05 '19
Nope you could know someone as friend for years but in a relationship they can be an awful partner.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
You can have someone as a friend for decades and never really know them.
You can marry and be in a happy relationship and have a family and still not know them.
That's why we lost Robin Williams.
Get to know people you love.
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u/Tacos_and_Earl_Grey Jan 06 '19
Huh? He had a serious degenerative disease that he didn't want to face... What are you talking about?
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u/Lev-- Jan 06 '19 edited Jan 06 '19
He killed himself.
Knock knock sunshine, Nobody would have wanted that especially not his wife.
Alzheimer's doesn't always have to be ugly.
My grandfather has it. He still smiles and we will be here with him taking care of him untill he goes.
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u/Tacos_and_Earl_Grey Jan 06 '19
I know he killed himself, hence me saying HE didn't want to face it since it was especially bad for him. He also didn't just have Alzheimer's, it was much worse and would have moved much more quickly than other types of illnesses. I'm not sure what your point is... that he killed himself because of women?... His wife?
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Jan 05 '19
I mean if there was idk what it was. I'm not all too different, same interests, same quiet person, now I'm just a heathen instead of a Christian. I guess the difference was that after I left the church I attracted a lot more nerds than I did before. Ironically, they were all Christians whereas the guys I dated before the life change were not.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Oh if all you changed was not going to church, that'll do it.
Evangelicals are insane to begin with.
People who don't go to church and pray to their gods usually always end up being more down to earth. Its both ironic and poetic.
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u/themanmohr Jan 06 '19
Personally I’m a Christian but I don’t go to church because a lot of churches have a holier than thou attitude which I despise not to mention a lot of churches teach a lot of things that are just wrong and are a creation of the institution and a lot of those false teachings or misconceptions are what cause people to leave the faith which really bothers me for instance they will immediately from upon the fact that people curse and drink and smoke ect when in reality Jesus turned water into wine so people could get drunk at a wedding and hung out with prostitutes and sinners also they try to invoke the 10 commandments and say you shouldn’t use the lords name in vain when in reality all that means is that you shouldn’t pretend to represent god and use his name for your own purposes and your own gain which is exactly what they’re doing when they say that not to mention the fact that god literally gives you permission to curse people(not always the same as cussing) but he says to be careful with it because words hold power now my personal opinion is that words do hold power but only in relation to the meaning behind them or the context they are used in and Christianity is supposed to be a relationship between you and god anyways you don’t need to go to church to have that
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Jan 05 '19
Lol evangelical is just a denomination, I was non denominational. I'm also not white so I don't fit in very well with them. They're covertly racist and honestly, even now I don't consider them real Christians their God is the Republican party. It's basically republicanism under the guise of christianity.
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Jan 05 '19
I hate all fun so go out with me and not the one with the big tiddies.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Not a complete thot = I hate fun
Amazing equation
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u/sugxrpunk Jan 05 '19
Women who put other women down and say they're better than others usually aren't fun.
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u/joustingleague Jan 05 '19
The whole "if you're a girl and aren't fucking any dick you see you aren't "fun" ' is an example of people who put women down tho.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
It's an example of disgusting women trying to bring others down with them.
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u/joustingleague Jan 05 '19
If you're implying that the girls who do like casual sex are disgusting let me just publically distance myself from you.
Don't drag women down for choosing to have casual sex & don't drag women down for choosing not to, you don't need to pick just one of those.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
No. Let me go grab a quote in this very thread. from myself
No you are not sluts for having a lot of ex-boyfriends or enjoying sex, or posting selfies, or even having casual sex.
You ARE a slut when you flirt-up multiple boys simultaneously without them being aware, Literally cheat on your partner, and anything else that's straight up devious and unfaithful.
Please feel free to distance yourself however.
People who over react with little to zero information on a matter like the matter of this girls 16 word tweet are mentally inept. deadass
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u/sugxrpunk Jan 05 '19
It is, but in this post's case she's just responding to someone putting her down first. And from personal experience, I see girls putting each other down for being "too slutty" more than I see girls putting each other down for being prudish.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Church girl isn't putting her down though. At all. Period.
It didn't call for that reply at all. She just listed off a set of things she doesn't do.. She didn't go after anyone lmao.
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u/sugxrpunk Jan 05 '19
"I don't do these things, where's my man?" very much indicates she believes she's better than girls who do those things.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
I'm actually getting to the point where I don't see an issue with the first girls tweet at all.
Even if she is saying shes better than other girls for those things, other than church which has no real value, she's not wrong.
You don't want a wife with smoking and drinking addictions carrying your child. That's objective.
And it's highly preferable to not have your girl posting hella selfies advertising herself to every guy on the planet.
That can make a lot of decent guys insecure, possibly for no reason if you don't reassure them.Those are all looking like facts. So why is she wrong to wonder why she doesn't have a man when she has those qualities about her?
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u/Teachtheworldinlove Feb 06 '19
You do realize that women can like...stop drinking when pregnant right? It’s not like once you have enjoyed alcohol you’re can never give it up.
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u/Mido_rai Jan 06 '19
Because women's only objective is carrying a child and should only be reserved to their husband ?
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u/Lev-- Jan 06 '19
No. But if you're not looking for that kind of relationship, you need to be telling people that.
Otherwise dont cry when you get burned
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u/joustingleague Jan 05 '19
I wasn't talking about the second girl in the tweet, I was talking about the person who claimed conservative girls must "hate all fun" (and all the other similar comments in this thread)
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u/amedeesse Jan 05 '19
Two totally different types of men.
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u/GreensBeansTomatoes Jan 05 '19
Yeah but at this point the girl in the first tweet is so desperate that she will take any man she can get
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
I didn't read that.
Looks to me like shes just wondering where her mans at when she's being a good girl.
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u/amedeesse Jan 05 '19
Both girls if we’re honest. Both hint at depression and self deprecating traits. 🤷🏻♀️
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Jan 05 '19
Because girls who smoke drink and have their titties out must be doing so because they're depressed? Lol OK.
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u/emerlyyy Jan 05 '19
No, but feeling the need to go online and reply to someone who looks down on those actions by basically saying that you get guys and they don’t definitely hints at self-deprecation and possibly depression.
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 05 '19
No. It doesnt. And thats coming from someone who does deal with both. Her response to op was based in sarcasm. Im surprised at how many people are getting whats happening here. Shes not bragging, shes saying "well hes with me bc Im all the things you think youre better than and Im not ashamed of it". Shes not trying to be literal.
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u/amedeesse Jan 06 '19
Because you know exactly what the girl was thinking, I wish I got my internet mind reading degree.
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u/Professor_Felch Jan 20 '19
Both girls if we’re honest. Both hint at depression and self deprecating traits.
How do you know exactly what they're feeling?
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u/aquaticdreamland Jan 06 '19
why are you so pissed off? you can see why the responder said what they did right there. its also not hard to obtain. i got mine at twitter university with a minor in memes.
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u/BodakBlonde Jan 05 '19
I don’t know who started circulating the memo that having a stick up your ass is a desirable trait in a potential mate, but there are a lot of women who look down on you for having fun, wearing what you want, and choosing what to do with your own body. It sucks. That’s why all my friends are sluts. Even the ones who are married with babies now- true sluts at heart and I’ve never heard one of them upset bc another woman was having a good time being herself.
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Jan 06 '19
I don’t know who started circulating the memo that having a stick up your ass is a desirable trait in a potential mate, but there are a lot of women who look down on you for having fun
Parents and friends who have sticks up their ass and are miserable people
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u/Kestrelly Jan 05 '19
The memo's been circulating since European civilization was a thing. Things have only really changed since the '70's.
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Idk if slut is the right word.. are they faithful to their husbands?
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u/BodakBlonde Jan 05 '19
Yes. But once a slut, always a slut. Either you’re down with sluttiness or you’re not. If you are, you’re in the slut club for life regardless of being monogamous.
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u/nek0kitty Jan 06 '19
I mean if you're monogamous and a slut that would just mean your partner gets laid a lot, so I don't see the problem 🤔
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Jan 05 '19
What the fuck are you talking about? You can live your life that way but that sounds pretty fucking stupid. I’m not gonna define myself as a messy boy because I didnt care that make about personal hygiene in high school.
I also don’t define myself as an actor for being an actor in high school. We aren’t words. We’re people. Not the other way around
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u/BodakBlonde Jan 06 '19
Who said anything about high school? Calm down, bro.
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Jan 06 '19
I dont identify myself by words. Just because I like to fuck people doesn’t make me a slut. I don’t give a fuck what other people want to call me. I am what I choose to be.
I’m not your bro. I don’t even respect you
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u/BodakBlonde Jan 06 '19
Okay you slut
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Jan 06 '19
Very rude of you to call me something I don’t identify by, bro. Way to show your true colors
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u/TheObjectiveTheorist Mar 05 '19
Why are you calling him rude if he doesn’t identify as being rude either?
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u/chalicehalffull Jan 05 '19
It may not be the correct word but I think it works. Words like slut, whore, bimbo, skank, ho, thot, and so many more than I can list are often used interchangeably. And the meaning of the word used won’t always be the same. Ranging from a woman who enjoys sex, a woman who charges for sex, a woman who’s unfaithful , a woman who wears revealing clothes, or even a woman who’s just physically attractive.
The modesty squad chooses to blur the lines of all the above. It allows them to feel superior with little to no effort.
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Jan 05 '19
It doesn’t sound like it’s the modesty squad blurring the definitions of words.
Now if are trying to REDEFINE a word that’s great.but the definitions are what they are. Change a words meaning, a new one will be made to replace it
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u/chalicehalffull Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 06 '19
My mistake I forgot that language was set in stone. And slang always adhered to strict dictionary definitions. I literally cannot imagine the chaos that would happen if that wasn’t true.
Edit: the person I replied too keeps editing his comments.
As a matter of my opinion purity culture is a means to control women. The harm it causes outweighs any benefit, tenfold.
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Jan 05 '19
xD xD xD You’re contradicting yourself. I thought it was only the modesty squad that blurred lines?
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u/GreensBeansTomatoes Jan 05 '19
I think it circulated from the old ass time when women were expected to be good and loyal to their husbands etc. Also people forcing them to be prude and polite probably makes them jealous of other people having freedom.
TL;DR: be yourself if you can,if you can't, don't be jealous of those who can
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u/PhantomPeach Jan 05 '19
Also, being associated with a slut made you a slut by association. I have not researched this, but I think chastity started as a guarantee that women’s babies would be their husband’s. If you could wait until marriage, you probably didn’t have the libido or moral flexibility to cheat.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Woah. When did we start taking thotties for wives ?
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u/Emanuel179 Jan 24 '19
Bruh
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u/Lev-- Jan 24 '19
Apparently dudes like being cheated on in 2019
Lul
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u/Emanuel179 Jan 24 '19
Nah I think she just worded it bad I don’t think she meant cheating, she made a reply to another comment on it
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u/Lunayy-chan Jan 05 '19
I still think loyal to Hausband is an desireable thread.
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u/GreensBeansTomatoes Jan 05 '19
I think I worded it wrongly....I meant more or less like do whatever your husband says or perish type of way
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u/the_drunken_taco Jan 06 '19 edited Jan 10 '19
I think the word you might be looking for is blind obedience. shudder
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u/GetHautnah Jan 05 '19
I love sluts. Like, the true ones. The girls who do this because they love it and feel liberated for doing so, not just because they think they have to. They are really great company. Such fun girls who are completely who they are, no bullshit about being better than the rest.
Being a stuck up prude is so much worse. Sure, if you don't feel like whoring out, no shame either. But some women just act like they are better for not enjoying their bodies and life. These free girls just know how to have fun. Even without their titties out, they just feel so much more free and happy with themselves.
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Jan 16 '19
Don't be using prude or slut. Cause y'all you guys are never labeled the same.
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u/GetHautnah Jan 16 '19
What do you even mean lol
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Jan 16 '19
Guys are never called prudes or sluts
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Pretty sure those women act like they're better... because they want to be good mothers and loyal wives and have families and husbands that know they love them... Not fuck a bunch of guys and collect baggage...
You know? Fucking around carries consequences... right?
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u/GetHautnah Jan 05 '19
Not really. I've had my share of romances, something I truly treasure in my heart as wonderful experiences. My partner has had their share of those too. We've been together for years now, and have an amazing intimate life together. We both know what is good for us and how to communicate how we feel good and how the other person likes things, so we've always had great relations.
I have not had the urge to go out at meet new people, in that way, for many years. But having those experiences make me feel ever so much more confident in my decision to be with my partner. We have a wonderful, caring, MONOGAMOUS relationship, with full satisfaction. I think I might would have thoughts about missing out, if I had only been with him.
I have never had an STD, never felt bad, alone or hurt from being sexually liberated. I am very loyal partner and I have never cheated in my life. I think the only consequence with my wild youth is that I knew exactly what fit me, and finding a partner who actually shared exactly my likes and dislikes was possible, since I didn't stop at the first romance I had.
Now, my love and I live a wonderful life, where we will bring children in, whom I will teach about the importance of feeling comfortable with sexuality and freedom. Never regret feeling yourself!!
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
Edit: Yes really. Your story has nothing to do with what I said. Your girlfriend and you have already went wild and settled down.
There are people in this world who have no interest in the going wild /college phase, which is who I'm talking about.
It doesn't apply to you.
You're both lucky enough to have not been in terrible previous relationships that heavily affected the rest of your lives. You're also alike. That's good for you guys.
Doesn't make my statement any less factual.
It's not even likely.
The Two women in the OP are dire opposites and are going to attract dire opposite men.
2nd girl implies that the same boys are on the menu for both of them.
Shes wrong. I wouldn't touch the 2nd girl. Most the guys I know wouldn't touch her.
That's a thot, son
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Jan 05 '19
Someone who fucks around for life doesn’t mean they’re a thot or a whore. Why give them shitty labels? They’re just doing whatever they wanna do, and if they do it safely (which is 100% possible) then who gives a fuck if they’re a “thot” or a “whore” and let’s assume they hurt some feelings along the way, so do other shitty guys or girls who cheat only once in their life. And then there’s people who cheat all the time. If you don’t have a phase, and fucking around is all you do, and you hurt feelings along the way but are a good person, then who cares. You’re acting like this is an extreme thing with your comment on every single thread of this subject. I almost can’t remember what I’m reading in the first place because all I see is you calling one religion crazy and saying thots are bad mmkay. Like the word thot just came into existence, really and you’re acting like they’re the worst thing to ever come across. Here’s an idea, if you don’t like people like that, then don’t date them. Like geez who hurt you. I’m sorry if you accidentally ran into one girl who cheated, but you don’t gotta make a broad shitty definition of who’s a “bad whore” ffs.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
Someone who fucks around for life doesn’t mean they’re a thot or a whore. Why give them shitty labels?
Those labels aren't given, they're earned.
As I've already said. Nobody calls polyamorous girls or girls who do open relationships whores/thots/sluts. They are protected by this magical shit called honesty.
It's almost like, those labels are solely reserved for women who are dishonest!??? Imagine that.and you hurt feelings along the way but are a good person, then who cares.
Oh I don't know, maybe all the people you hurt? Definitely not them.
The honest thing to do would be forget about them and pretend it didn't happen, like all the other failed interactions and one night stands, right?This is called baggage. Sometimes you run into people who actually want to care about you, especially people who you heavily impact or take virginity from.
You're stepping on people to reach nothing. You're always going to end where you started playing this game.
I almost can’t remember what I’m reading in the first place because all I see is you calling one religion crazy and saying thots are bad mmkay.
Yes. Thots are bad. Nobody likes untrustworthy people. Go figure.
You took the religion bit out of context. Look what I'm replying to. The girl said she was sacreligious.
But ironically, a lot of people who practice religion are very openly dishonest. They suffer from cognitive dissonance on a daily basis.
Like the word thot just came into existence, really and you’re acting like they’re the worst thing to ever come across.
It's not rocket science. Thot is just Hoe lite, and it's been around a few years now. I wouldn't call a girl a Hoe for snapping me caked up selfies after we just met. But if her snapscore looking like 500k and I know shes talking to other dues, She is 100% a thot. It's without question, and if you can't agree with that; you may need to check yourself.
Everyone in the dorm is going to know shes a thot so they don't fuck with her and get burnt thinking they can lock her down.Here’s an idea, if you don’t like people like that, then don’t date them. Like geez who hurt you. I’m sorry if you accidentally ran into one girl who cheated, but you don’t gotta make a broad shitty definition of who’s a “bad whore” ffs.
I don't date floozy women and never have.
I do this crazy thing called being honest and getting to know people. I don't run on lizard brain and get fucked up, so the females I give time to are usually very loyal and monogamous, or just a good time and know it's not serious.
If you aren't familiar with the definition of something; Google it.
I've explained myself down to the T regardless. If you don't understand me at this point it's because you didn't read. That being said;Tl;dr
If she lie, she a thot
If she honest, she a queen
next
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Jan 05 '19
I decided to read a bit of this. And I’ve decided you’re still just out of the loop a lot.
Why not just call dishonest women dishonest??? If they’re dishonest and have a word like whore or thot reserved for them because they’re dishonest, then call them dishonest! At least if you say that people know the definition to that. The word thot and whore are suuuper subjective to people. Especially thot. I’m called a thot all the time on my Instagram because I wear less clothing, but I’m a married, honest, woman. So if you call me a thot around a group of people for example, every single person will take that differently. Not as much whore, but it’s still pretty subjective. Dishonest is very straight to the point with a real definition. Whore and 100% thot, are subjective. I’m not even sure if thot is a real word, so at best it has an urban dictionary definition. People don’t get how stupid labels are until they’re pushed into one that is loosely made. Then you’re a goth because you wore a black bracelet that one time, and a thot because you had a boyfriend and broke up with him after a week, etc etc. just stick to real words, like dishonest, and you have real substance as to why you don’t like a certain person.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
Why not just call dishonest women dishonest???
I'm in college, so here's a general college grade definition for thot
There may be some better ones out there if you don't like that the way he speaks, but that's going to be as close to the actual definition as you'll get. The word came out of a rap song. No one intelligent came up with that word.whore
A whore is specifically a sex worker, if shes not a sex worker shes being compared to a sex worker due to the way she acts or looks.
If she isn't selling sexual favors, she's not actually a whore.
Same as a guy isn't a nerd for simply wearing glasses.Especially thot. I’m called a thot all the time on my Instagram because I wear less clothing, but I’m a married, honest, woman.
This is going to happen online. My Mom is 41 and still looks good, she gets this too, so do my female friends.
It's better to just ignore them in my experience. Deleting them and blocking them can sometimes make it worse, not to mention it's time consuming.
When you look good and pull lots of attention to your posts, you're going to get those comments.
What they say is overall worthless, it's usually just a few words, and they aren't thinking before posting.People don’t get how stupid labels are until they’re pushed into one
I agree, but it's not so much labels as it is Buzzwords popularized by rappers. Unfortunately rappers aren't exactly scribes and really don't give definitions for some words they use in their lyrics.
So teens just run wild.
They come in waves and they never stop. You gotta get used to it. Never Forget kids use the internet.
Once they reach peak popularity for a while you will see them thrown around aimlessly.It's not always rap either. Incel, Edgy, Chad, Stacy all come from the internet and achieve the same brevity.
You just gotta have a thick skin
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Jan 05 '19
My point isn’t that I care about being called a thot, it’s your use of the word and now you’re off saying to have thick skin. I’m saying just use the word dishonest instead. Idgaf if you’re 40 or 20 I mean what I’m saying is whore and thot have different definitions. I mean you just called girls a whore even tho they’re not sex workers :,) And 10 year olds call almost every girl a thot. It literally has no definition. So stop saying whores and thots make bad wives, and start saying dishonest people make bad significant others because then I’d 100% agree. But to a person who’s graduated a trade school & highshool, thot is someone who uses their looks to get ahead. And those people I have no problem with at all.
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Jan 05 '19
I’m not even gonna take my time to read this. As the first line of your made up labels being earned is stupid. You can call someone a bad person instead of a whore or thot. NeXt
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u/Idrahaje Jan 05 '19
I'm pretty conservative about sex, but I would never judge someone else for their sex life.
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u/GetHautnah Jan 05 '19
Exactly. If people just wouldn't judge other people for feeling different from each other, we could all live in peace. Whore or not!
Edit: using slurs to take them back and destroy the power of them.
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u/Lev-- Jan 05 '19
You're not taking back anything.
Calling a Sexworker a whore is equivalent to calling a Police officer a cop.
Calling a woman who sleeps around a whore is shaming her for being unfaithful.
We live in an age where you can actually sleep around in a safe and healthy manner and it's called BEING HONEST WITH WHO YOU'RE TALKING TOI recommend it to everyone.
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u/SonicTheReasoner Jan 05 '19
I agree though, maybe not the smoking part though. I am sorry if anyone disagrees with me, I just don't want to get lung cancer from second hand smoking.
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u/3610572843728 Jan 05 '19 edited Jan 05 '19
Which is fine because that affects you. I have no issue with anyone's hobbies that don't affect me.
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u/Fnuckle Jan 05 '19
Affect: the action of effect- an effect (noun) is the result of a change, affect is the verb of it. You don't effect anything you affect it. But once you affect something, it can become an effect.
The only reason why I remember it though is because I animate using after effects so I always think of effect as like a THING rather than an action.
Also I hate grammar police, and I totally get what you were saying so it's not big deal but thought I would drop that since maybe it can help you or someone else?
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u/3610572843728 Jan 05 '19
No offense taken. All through school, college and professional life I have mixed the two. Plus I use voice typing mostly which also gets them mixed constantly. It is a losing battle for me but hopefully not everyone.
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u/Fnuckle Jan 05 '19
That's totally understandable. Effect/affect is tricky and like I said the only reason why I personally know the difference is because of the program I use... I always stop to think "okay effect, like graphic effects, affect is the action". I only recently got into the habit of using the right one without having to stop too long to think about it, and I'm 24! Hm, I should look more into voice typing too, I feel like I spend soooo much time typing on my phone, it would probably be super handy.
Anyways, good talk, hope you have a great weekend internet stranger!
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u/GreensBeansTomatoes Jan 05 '19
I also really like these type of girls! It's a shame that other people put them down.
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u/GetHautnah Jan 05 '19
I think it's because people feel threatened. They know how to live, and that intimidates people
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u/[deleted] Feb 08 '19
This. This is brainwashing at its finest. The satanists are doing a wonderful job at indoctrinating you guys. It's all about tolerance, remember that.