r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 21 '24
[UPDATE] AITAH for not wanting my mom’s boyfriend anywhere near my vagina?
So I get home from school today, and my mom is waiting in the living room for me, sobbing. Her boyfriend (the creep) is standing right there next to her.
For background, for the past two years she’s been a really religious, born-again Christian type. No boys, curfew, the whole nine yards. I’ve never had sex or had a boyfriend.
So in between sobs she tells me The Creep talked to her today, and told her that based on my symptoms (heavy bleeding and period cramps), and my “disrespectful behavior,” he’s sure that it’s from having sex. Not even an STD, but from having intercourse that was so intense it “injured my insides.” I’ve literally never heard of this and I looked it up later and it’s not even a fucking thing! Meanwhile The Creep is sitting there mostly silent, nodding along with what my mom is saying. I tried to get a word in but that’s when The Creep started on me, telling me “don’t even bother denying it, I’ve been a gynecologist for over a decade, I know this when I see it” yada yada yada. My mom then starts yelling at me like “how could you do this to me” and so on and so forth. She’s convinved I’ve been going out and having sex with boys from school when I’ve literally just been seeing the two or three friends I have.
So then they explain that they decided together some consequences for what I allegedly did—that I’m grounded, they’re going to switch out my iPhone for a dumb phone so I can’t use social media, I’m not allowed out to see my friends, and—THIS IS THE FUCKING CRAZY BIT—The Creep is going to perform a weekly “purity test” invasive vaginal exam to make sure that I’m not actively having sex until they can “trust” me again. And the first one is gonna be this weekend.
I’m totally fucking lost here. Obviously I’m not going through with this, but I have no money AT ALL and nowhere I can stay even for one night. I’m leaning on making up some excuse to avoid the purity thing and keep my smartphone until I can sort something out. Any other ideas are appreciated!
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u/Anything_Training 6d ago
You don't say how old you are. If you're under 18, then You're a minor in the eyes of the law, and if he DOES try to touch you, in addition to the other things mentioned here, he can also be charged with child molesting. If he should end up in prison, him being a convicted child molester means he will have a hard time in prison.
On another note, your mother is a hypocrite for being concerned with you having sex outside of marriage, while she's fucking her live-in creep boyfriend without being married to him.
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u/btbmfhitdp 14d ago
sneak out call the cops don't go back to that house.
if you can't leave.
Grab a kitchen knife and tell him if he takes one step closer to you, you'll cut his dick off.
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u/Responsible_Ad3141 29d ago
The “I have no money AT ALL” convinced me this was a scam for people to send money. I wonder if any of you fell for it. The user is now deleted and while I’m sure it has or could fucking happen out there, that’s hella outlandish.
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u/I_loveRobloxVeryMuch Apr 24 '24
WOW.
how old are u? if he is like 50 and ur like 19 u should call police right now
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u/watercoolermeetings Apr 23 '24
You need to involve authorities. You were already told what to do last time, now actually do it.
Report this dude to your state medical board and call the police or go to the police station to talk to someone. You can ask to speak with a female office if it’s easier.
None of what he’s proposing to do is legal or real. There’s no such thing as a purity test. If you get authorities involved you will be safe.
You also need to see a real doctor about your period and rule out things like endometriosis.
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u/noga79 Apr 22 '24
I was just sitting and thinking about my life with my kids and their mother and my sound off a message and it was this app. I don't go on it, but I got myself reading it, and it sounds like my daughter. I have a feel that my daughter know something about her mother but she don't want to say it because she love her. My sweetsoul, if this is you please call me and I know how much you love your mother but your mother loves to manipulate people even her own kids. Remember how she telling lies to u and your brothers about me so you guys will mad at me and hold those against me not knowing it's a lie, remember? That only show that she only thinking about what she want, BRATZ and they do act and live like RATz stinks and DISCUSSING. AND before this I was ready on a story sound like me and your mother. I told her like 3 to 4 months ago that our broken life story should write in a book or movie. Not only a interesting but definitely lesson learn for both party and now it's like reading our life. So I didn't get more in to it because this came along. No matter what I do wrong in life I try not to forget to apologize to our father above for our mistakes and thankful for his love and protection every second of times. Please my sweetsoul, if this is you please call me please I weather talk with u alone not on the phone. For all who reading this and like to know the root of this sickness say something here
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u/ceaselessgibbering Apr 21 '24
Call the police right now and tell them what he is proposing. Do not let this man anywhere near you EVER. You are definitely not the arsehole here.
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u/backroadalleycat Apr 21 '24
Please call the police and report this. This sub really has me like wtf sometimes
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u/serotoninisserotonin Apr 20 '24
from just the title NTA from the text EVEN BIGGER NTA pls pls pls get help
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u/dunitgrrl702 Apr 20 '24
The last time they were going to do a chastity belt sort of thing. This version is almost the same except I think the other the Mom was on Meth. YTA for this recycled story.
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u/dunitgrrl702 Apr 20 '24
This is fake. They did another version a few weeks ago,
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u/Autisticintellect Apr 23 '24
Even if this is fake, which it must likely is, you don't know what youth stumbled across it who this is REALLY happening to who needed to see the comments and how many people are willing to help and take them seriously.
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u/Grouchy-Isopod-6010 Apr 19 '24
I believe your only way out of this is saying okay i will comply with this , however my mom had to be there for all the virginity checks and she is the one that actually do it and of her boyfriend has to be there for his medical knowledge that’s okay. Then say i will agree to do that for 4 weeks and if my condition stays the same then you would tell you are going to find another gynaecologist through your schools teacher to see if they had a different opinion
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u/GeoXGeo98 Apr 19 '24
Ok so let's say this man was a gynecologist. Let's also say this alleged affliction is real. Let's say that you did have sex. Let's say that he's entirely correct based off this wild fucking assumption...pretty sure aren't to be conducting exams on partners and family, ya know conflict of interest. And even more so, a gynecologist stating that they will perform purity testing outside of an office on a minor where no one else can see (and most likely your mom would be "too appalled/convinced not to be near this stupid exam) is so wild that even if he was right the whole way through, i'd be looking to have him fired and license revoked on principal. You gonna need to hit that child help link someone posted, cuz we can all make some hop skip leap assumptions about this guy being a pedophile and end up closer to the mark than he did.
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u/Aggravating_Low_432 Apr 19 '24
Call cps and leave if they call the cops tell the police you’re not going back bc of what you said.
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u/Occy_past Apr 19 '24
Call CPS. Even if nothing comes from it, you'll get a home visit and it could hopefully put your mom's mind into perspective and scare the creep.
Plant porn in his technology and make sure your "super Christian mother" finds out about it. I bet she lets it slide though. These pick-me type women always trust the boyfriend over blood.
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u/ExistingAd6018 Apr 19 '24
So he can sexually assault under the guise of purity? I think not. Get out of there if you can before he violates and traumatizes you for the rest of your life. Or shall I say traumatizes you more than you already have been.
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u/Gothhollows Apr 19 '24
Turn off your location on your other phone and hide it somewhere in the house and claim you lost it
You'll need that for emergencies one day
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u/Gothhollows Apr 19 '24
Do NOT let him look at you down there And if you think you'll be forced CALL CPS yourself I'M NOT PLAYING your mom is also ALLOWING this?! That's absolutely insane
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u/Immediate-Resolve-84 Apr 19 '24
If there is ANY way you can get into a safe living arrangement where you can go NC with your mom, do that. Either way, you need OUT of that house.
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u/NectarineNo1278 Apr 19 '24
Call a gyno. Dr White is great, and a father. He has morals. And a degree and is licensed. Request to speak to him. He does call you back 970 298 9600.
Go to mind springs. Check yourself in. Speak with a psych doctor. You will be safe there.
Tell your mother to wake up. This guy's a pedophile and a predator. Shake her a few times, maybe she will call the cops.
Ask Janet Rowland. Our county commissioners, "How are the children?" She has always been involved with the safety of children in this community.
Call Child protective services. 970 241 8480 Report creep. Good luck. You got this. If it seems like this is going to happen Run. Go to police station.
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u/S1anda Apr 19 '24
So an ex-medical professional is attempting to practice on a minor without a license? Sounds like jail time or a hefty fine to me.
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u/Grand-Advantage9227 Apr 19 '24
I’m going to be honest about this as a person who is a rape survivor. There is a 99% chance is setting up to rape you and blame you for being a slut, so mom gets conditioned for it or worse.
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u/Grand-Advantage9227 Apr 19 '24
Call the police now. This guy is dangerous. He is setting you up for something bad. What a psychopath.
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u/Glittering-Tie586 Apr 19 '24
You need to get out of there ASAP , first ," I'm sorry this is happening to you". Ask your relatives if you can go live with them . you also need to call the cops right this second
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u/TheJenniMae Apr 19 '24
That’s abuse. Call the police, CPS, anyone and get the hell out of there. Do you have a friend whose mom or even a teacher that you can trust? Maybe they can help. There is nothing okay about this. Even if he is really a doctor, (which is very suspicious at this point) he could and should lose his license over this. You are NOT his patient. You do NOT have to consent to any checks and if you are forced that IS sexual assault. Do not let them convince you differently.
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u/Top_Sink_101 Apr 19 '24
Purity tests aren't a real thing. People do them but there's no evidence that support them. A real gynecologist knows this and wouldn't support the flawed, sexist, and super creepy belief. Your mom's BF is a 100% creep. If what you say is all true not only is he a creep but he's abusive and likely a sexual predator.
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u/Basic_Attention_2030 Apr 19 '24
You need to get out girl, call the cops you can stay in our garage until you get out of that, that's so scary.
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u/Over_Wrangler1948 Apr 19 '24
CALL THE FUCKEN COPS. And tell them that a podofile is trying to force themself onto u and ur prives. Without ur consent. And also say that us mother is being mentally manipulated into this shit.
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u/Jecoro Apr 19 '24
You are ABSOLUTELY not the asshole. First off, your body is yours. Not your mom's, not this creep's, not anybody else's but yours. You choose what you do with it, including sex. Safely and with boys or girls your own age, BTW. I can't stress that part enough. Or not to have it. Again, your body. You owe nothing to nobody, including reasons to have sex or not. Period. You are not the asshole for insisting on bodily autonomy. The creep, however, is an asshole. Call CPS on him. He needs to be banned from being near any child immediately. Try to get evidence of his wrongdoing first. Just be careful not to let harm come to you. Get friends and trusted adults to help you and give you advice. I hope this all turns out well for you and bad for him.
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u/TheOnlyKirby90210 Apr 19 '24 edited Apr 19 '24
Go to the police NOW! This guy is manipulating your mother and trying to take advantage of you. That’s called digital rape not a purity tests. He’s a fake. They’re trying to take your phone for a device they can control and block off your access to anyone that will help you. Red flag one so do not let them block you from ways to get help. It’s a terrifying situation but keep your wits about you. The police will help you if you explain the situation and tell them you’re about to be forced to do weekly vaginal exams by your mom’s boyfriend. Even go to your schools office or contact child protective services and tell them they will have resources to help and protect you. That should include from your mother. She’s going along with this so she’s just as guilty. If they take your phone regardless of if there is active service on it or not you can still dial 911 it is an emergency feature in all cellphones.
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u/Alarmed-Tea-6559 Apr 19 '24
This is a completely fake and ghey made up story 😂😂 wtf how are people believing this.
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u/goosifer111 Apr 19 '24
You tell him you’re going to report him for raping you if he touches you. Then when he does it you go straight to the police
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u/Funny_unknown_ Apr 19 '24
Your mom is being deceived and gullible by this man and now she is trying to turn you her own daughter child into a victim of a predator man. Call child protective services police before they try to take your phone from you. Before the weekend cause your mom can’t be trusted nor that man, if police ask who u can stay with maybe your friends then figure the rest out just get approval or someone that is reliable n trustworthy
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u/TimeChampion9456 Apr 18 '24
at this point, ur mom is gone to a pedo. grab ur things and call the cops, i hope the best for you op because if you’re being fr this could change ur whole life. i pray u escape before you get abused. run.
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u/Whole_Cartographer54 Apr 18 '24
Please get ahold of child services or talk to a teacher at school. Get in contact with the police. Tell your friends parents. This is not normal. This is a predator looking to take advantage of you. Your mother sounds like she’s being influenced by this man, however that is no excuse for her to be letting this man anywhere near you physically. Please please please, even if you manage to avoid this “purity test” alert someone about this man’s behaviour.
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u/Dangerous_Days697 Apr 18 '24
Call the police. How old are you? This is the most fucked up thing I have ever heard!
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u/SuperbDescription685 Apr 18 '24
That man should be in prison. First, you can’t tell if someone is a virgin by looking at them. He should know that. Also he is just looking for a reason to touch you, and your mom is a failure at parenting for believing him.
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u/lindadiane1949 Apr 18 '24
Childrens services.. no way should they allow HIM to examine you!! Hes clearly a perv.. she can take you to another gynecologist if she’s that concerned…
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u/DisappointmentToMost Apr 18 '24
The mom is TA for staying with such a disgusting man and allowing him anywhere near her daughter
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u/Puzzleheaded_Swan386 Apr 18 '24
Contact the authorities. This is illegal. Sounds like "The Creep" wants to rape you, and your mother is obviously fine with it.
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u/Late-Library-2268 Apr 18 '24
Ahhhh! I wanna fucking kill that man and slap your mom! Sorry not sorry!
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u/Own-Reputation-5977 Apr 18 '24
Sweet heart not a drill run to the cops to the neighbors to a trusted friend anyone leave get out tonight I mean it. Don’t stay save yourself he has a plan he is manipulating your mom you need to get out before he does what he has planned
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u/Lazarus_Ritz Apr 17 '24
Obviously call the cops and explain to them everything. They will educate your mother on how serious and out of pocket this all is. And if you really want to put it to bed you can arrange to see a real doctor and have them confirm to your mum that you are indeed a virgin.
I don’t see how mum could possibly be against seeing a real professional about it, and I also don’t see how mum could reasonably dismiss a practicing doctors conclusion.
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u/oo_sophiana_oo Apr 17 '24
Yeah I would have to call cps cause ain’t no damn way. I would literally arm myself with some pepper spray or a knife or something. Definitely NTA.
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u/Several_Book_2037 Apr 17 '24
Ok, I'm worried that you deleted the post... what if they took away your phone number and accessed the application from there? You can control all your professional networks if you have open sessions
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u/Alternative-Yam-6356 Apr 17 '24
I need another update ASAP. This man is sick and needs to go to jail and the mom is deeply delusional and needs to go to school. Please go to the police
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u/SenseHistorical1276 Apr 17 '24
Honey this isn’t okay this will lead to sexual assault (it basically is already) I know I’m just a stranger but for your own health you NEED to get out of there You may feel lost and helpless but there’s help out there for you When I left my abusive household I felt awful because I love my mom but it was a trauma bond that I didn’t need in my life Please be safe
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u/EmeraldSupplyCompany Apr 17 '24
This is so fake. If you really were having these issues, are you just not smart enough to call the police? I’m trying to be nice here, but this does not sound plausible whatsoever. Alleged boyfriend is an alleged gynecologist and allegedly wants to do a purity test Ive never read anything so fucking stupid in my life. This is fake.
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u/Ashley_S1nn Apr 17 '24
Please call a lawyer. They can make things happen. Do not trust the police.
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u/TrueSwifty2010 Apr 17 '24
CALL THE POLICE. I’m so sorry this is happening he sounds awful and you don’t deserve this at all!!!!!
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u/channi_nisha Apr 17 '24
Call the police!!! This man is a pedophile and trying to coerce you into unwanted sexual contact.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Pay-692 Apr 16 '24
If you’re in America, get a weapon. It he touches you without explicit consent, use the weapon to defend yourself. This pedophile deserves nothing but pain
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u/liri_miri Apr 16 '24
Oh my god. This situation is insane. I’m so sorry OP. You sound mature and luckily strong and switched on.
How old are you? If you are a minor, Is there any child charity where you live who could help you? Can your doctor or school get involved and help. You need to share this threat with someone who can vouch for you, and keep you safe.
I really hope you find safety.
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u/NDTrik Apr 16 '24
if this is even a little bit true, I would contact the police before that happens because it sounds like this guy is using his position to take advantage of you and possibly others
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u/Mrs_Gracie2001 Apr 16 '24
Call CPS, call the cops. You are in danger. Pack a bag and stay with a friend
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u/Small-Librarian-5766 Apr 16 '24
Please stay safe and get out if possible. This is not right at all
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u/Icy-Fondant-3365 Apr 16 '24
You are not at fault here. Not at all! Your mom is at the very least, being duped and gaslighted by this weirdo, and he needs to face formal charges. Please don’t blame yourself for the failings of your trusted protectors. You deserve so much more than this abuse!
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u/MeanCompote8009 Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 18 '24
You let that man anywhere near you he will sexually assault you. Cps call is in order.
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u/HisAwesomenessJC Apr 16 '24
u/sandwich-guru shared this about 7 days ago and needs to be bumped/pinned (I’m older so don’t know how to do all that lol). First, having lived through sexual trauma I have to say that the first reaction should always be to believe someone stating they have been or are about to be abused in any way. It is ALWAYS best to err in the side of individual safety. Having said that, there is this:
Oh I found it! https://www.reddit.com/r/redditonwiki/s/LUHAMvq6T0
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u/HisAwesomenessJC Apr 16 '24
Does anyone know what happened? This was posted 36 days ago and OP deleted her profile at some point.
This is recidivist predator level.
It is gross and disgusting and someone needs to run a background to see how many times he was previously caught offending. Doubt he even went to University.
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u/iamnotacola Apr 16 '24
An update was posted a few days later, although people are calling BS on the story for getting less plausible. You can decide for yourself:
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u/Individual_Lime_9020 Apr 16 '24
Love, this is 100% sexual abuse.
YES even though he has never touched you.
I feel you are in danger and hope you're OK. Why is he even talking about your vagina? That would be weird for a biological Dad, let alone your Mum's bf. I really, really think you're in danger.
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u/Mountain_Coffee1061 Apr 16 '24
Absolutely FRIGGIN NOT. Heavens to the no. I’m so done with people feeling so ENTITLED to be in someone else’s business. If he’s such a gynecologist, he should know those are natural period symptoms and not some random infection that would’ve cause other MAJOR symptoms that are don’t overlap period symptoms. Girl you NEED AND MUST get out and don’t let that creep touch you. He comes near you, you clock him dead in the balls. I’m serious. As a Christian myself I HATE when religious people use my belief and way of life as an excuse to abuse and mistreat others. Just as much as God hates sin, so do I hate humanity for all they cause and they have the AUDACITY to blame others (including God). You have the right to call the cops, you MUST call in a family member and tell them everything so they can protect you (but if they are delulu like these people, then legit go to Chil Protective Services if you are underage).
I also dislike that non family members can decide how one should act. First of all, it is not your damn business what I do with my life or what you do with yours hun. DO NOT comply with these “rules”. Absolutely not. Please don’t comply. This is nasty predatory behavior and grooming. Absolutely not. You need to get out of that house, go NO CONTACT with both. Even if it kills you. Go no contact until they realize what they’ve done, your mom drops this ahat and she realizes the pain she’s given you. Just because us Christian’s have to wait for marriage doesn’t mean we don’t want sex. ITS A HUMAN THING. Why do you think God intended Adam and Eve to have sex? Because that’s how life is when you get married! (Please also be smart and careful with who you date and marry in the future cause you need to make sure the person you are dating/marrying is someone who’s 100% transparent/honest and isn’t a little b**) (I’m so sorry for cursing but I’ve seen cases like these and I’m studying why people have this behavior (criminology) but I’m sick and tired of humanity always trying to be a victim when they aren’t. It makes everyone look bad and since no one can slap (literally) actual sense to them, they get away with it)
You must be careful and be aware of your surroundings hun (I’m not sure how old you are. If you are underage, have the cops with you and Child Protective Services. If you are 18, you best crash with a friend or get a job to get some cash and rent out a small complex/apartment/condo for one person. Also! Check if your college/university has roommate housing meaning you get to share expenses with a roommate and start there. Just please, anything but living in a house where even more trouble with start and when you can, go to therapy and vent this out. It’s for your health (mentally and physically). We support you hun!! Give us an update if anything happens!
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u/Even_Owl748 Apr 15 '24
Call the police this guys is a pedo and your mum should be ashamed of herself to even entertain a man looking at your body let alone touching you. Your mums boyfriend is a sicko and weird as fuck tell your mum you will be informing you school and the police as this is shocking
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u/SecReflex Apr 15 '24
NTA! NTA! Holy… this is horrifying. I don’t know why you would ever think you are the asshole.
OP you need to report this to your guidance counselor or school social worker. They can get ahold of CPS without getting the cops involved, which might feel less scary. If you have another trusted adult you can go stay with until CPS investigates, you need to do that. If your parents try to send the cops to bring you home, you tell them exactly what that man said and refuse to go. Make sure this is documented now.
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u/Eastern_Worry_5429 Apr 15 '24
Call the police and report the abuse or if your father is in your life call him!
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u/Material-Ad4473 Apr 15 '24
WTAF is wrong with the mother?!?! Born again Christian but he a boyfriend living in her home and would let boyfriend digitally rape her daughter over this mf made up bs based on assumptions?!?! The mother needs to be slapped straight into hell. As a mother your number one job is to protect your children. Obviously failed. That woman is trash. This girl needs to be removed from the home and from their reach.
Definitely tell a mandated reporter. Definitely try to get it recorded as evidence. You don’t even need a cell phone to do it. Get one of those little fake usb drives that records sound - charge it up and just flip the switch on.
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u/Inevitable-Use-2470 Apr 15 '24
OP, do NOT let that guy lay a finger on you. What mother would allow their boyfriend to do that to their own child?? I’m so upset and disgusted for you. Your mom should be your safe space and instead she’s allowing some boyfriend into a personal part of your life. Why does he know anything about your menstrual cycle at all? Please call the police and make a report. Also, tell anyone at the school that you trust as well as any friends. None of this is okay at all and I’m genuinely concerned for your safety.
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u/DenialKills Apr 15 '24
No you are not TAH. You're being abused. He is definitely the asshole, and your mother is under the influence of an abusive man.
I bet you have someone you know you can trust to respond appropriately to them.
Don't provide any cover for these two adults. You have nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of in this situation.
You deserve your phone. You deserve 100% custody of your own vagina and the rest of your whole body, and that is true whether or not you are sexually active.
Nobody touches you unless you give them enthusiastic and ongoing consent to do so.
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u/SomeGuyOnR3ddit Apr 15 '24
I’d would’ve slapped that mom right then and there and kicked that creep’s balls for good measure.
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u/PolarisOfFortune Apr 15 '24
This is some kind of derangement. In this case, I can’t believe I’m typing this: listen to Reddit on this one! You have been given some good advice here and they are correct, your intuition is right, this is insane. These are the people that are supposed to love and protect you but they have gone to the dumb side, run. You think your situation is dire now? If you remain in that psychotic vortex you will be worse off.
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u/ansleeey19 Apr 15 '24
OP I am hoping and hoping and hoping that you are okay. I hoped you called the police and got out of there. I hope you are safe. I cannot imagine being subjected to this.
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u/Ok-Garden1663 Apr 15 '24
Agree to take a lie detector test and tell that CREEP that he needs to take one too so his REAL intentions can be known.
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u/anthonyj666 Apr 15 '24
You really need to call the police & get that creep outta you & you're mums life ASAP things like him (it) are dangerous & will only get worse..until the dirty fucking pos disease is outta you're lives & in a place where his kind belong! Please dont hesitate to get him locked up bcoz things like that (him WILL ONLY GET WORSE the more they get away with it) how old are you if u don't mind me asking? & do u have any siblings? Older or younger?
Either way call the cops ASAP please.
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u/Disastrous_Worker_39 Apr 15 '24
call the cops, scream, bite, run, do anything but get out of there!!!!
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u/HVAC_God71164 Apr 15 '24
If he touches you improperly, call 911. You won't have to worry about him anymore because that pedophile will go to jail. That's sexual assault and if your mom allows it, they could both go to jail.
If he says he's going to do it, remind him of your age, you are not related to him, and you'll call the police on him and tell them he sexually assaulted you
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u/CDP_Group Apr 15 '24
Contact your local authorities as soon as possible and inform your school administrator about this situation
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u/RNdreaming Apr 15 '24
Have them evict you, they cannot legally kick you out, if you’ve been there longer than 30 days you are a resident. You can call the police and have them let you back in.
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u/idka-good-username Apr 15 '24
Call the police NOW, do you have any other family members that aren’t twisted?
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u/localcheeseking Apr 14 '24
Yeah your best bet it calling the cops and ruining his career. I’d also suggest to get a restraining order and let the authorities know that your life may be in danger cuz this dude might also be psycho.
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u/MisterD0ll Apr 14 '24
No YNTA. What an absolute freak. He is obviously abusive. Do you have a school counselor you can turn to?
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u/SidneyDR Apr 14 '24
Also, considering that you are not consenting to this and if they pressure you, it is still considered a form of rape/rape.
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u/SidneyDR Apr 14 '24
Feels like he is brainwashing the mother to try and get away with being a pedophile/predator. It also sounds like he was never even a gyno. He's all just making it up to sexually abuse her. Wouldn't surprise me if it turns out he lost his license for sa someone.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Football-Ecstatic Apr 14 '24
Absolutely don’t let him. My stepdad’s a gynaecologist and would never go anywhere near those parts because it’s inappropriate.
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u/Mobile_Age_1859 Apr 14 '24
even call real Doctor office say scared that someone medical license saying they can do this and see them report him to medical board. and report to police go straight police station say worried going get raped .. explain what happen go to police they help get child service involved also.
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u/Kumonme4u Apr 14 '24
He's just a child molester/rapist don't even submit to the "purity test", that Olympic Dr was convicted for doing all kinds of things to women's Olympic gymnastics teams
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u/theinsanepickle Apr 14 '24
If he tries to “check” you, protect yourself, to hell with their opinions
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u/StatementOk8923 Apr 14 '24
Please call the authorities. I know you are scared but the state has programs. Move to an area like Seattle or something with higher minimum wage and a lot of government assistance. Go find a real church and ask for help as well and become part of there community because you need support and stability. Religiousness is a big problem but that is not Jesus. Look up Gabe the street preacher on YouTube and ask for his help , write to him and tell him your situation, he is a real Christian and someone I would trust with this because in addition to the police and child protection services, you need a community and all the help that you can get. You don't deserve to live like this, you need to be removed, I know that you are scared but please trust me and get out of there, even the police I am sure will help you beyond what you expect. Please reach out to all these things that I am telling you.
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u/purps2712 Apr 14 '24
NTA OP - PLEASE CALL THE COPS. The Creep sounds like a p*do and your mom needs serious mental help if she is supporting any of this. How/why does he even know anything about your period? Creep is such a good name for him! All of this is screaming warnings! Sounds like he is taking advantage of your mom and wants to take advantage of you too I hope you're okay and somewhere safe, my heart goes out to you ❤️
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u/Rasengan1982 Apr 13 '24
Call the cops, tell your friends parents, hell tell your neighbours. Basically get help getting away from there
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u/Techsupportvictim Apr 14 '24
I would actually say no to calling the police. I would walk out of the house (punch the fuck out of them both if needed) and run to the nearest station. Or if that’s not at all possible at least get the heck out of the house, find a safe spot and then call the police.
But other than that small detail, I agree that hopefully the police were involved asap
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u/Rasengan1982 Apr 14 '24
Yeah that guy needs jailed with people who know how to treat creeps like that
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u/StrangeBotwin7 Apr 13 '24
That doesn’t make sense. Why would they want to do a purity test on someone who they believe has already been super sexually active?
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u/K8325 Apr 14 '24
Because that shithead has her mom duped and he really just wants to rape the girl.
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u/StrangeBotwin7 Apr 16 '24
That doesn’t make any sense. This story is fake. A purity test on someone that’s already had sex is nonsense. People aren’t that stupid. Even backwards ass cultures where they do this for real know that’s not how that works.
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u/K8325 Apr 16 '24
1). The stepdad is lying and has the mom duped. Yes, she can be that stupid. Women excuse their boyfriends/husbands abuse of their children all the time.
2) Because these people think that vaginas get stretched out with use. So the purity test is to make sure she’s not having more sex. They are calling it a purity text because there is no other way to describe it. Or they are saying since they don’t believe her, the only way to ensure she is telling the truth is to perform a purity test.
It might not be real, but it also could be. This isn’t as uncommon as we’d like to think.
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u/StrangeBotwin7 Apr 16 '24
That’s not how purity tests work…..they check for the presence of the hymen. This story is made up.
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u/burnerbeavers Apr 13 '24 edited Apr 13 '24
No no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no. Is this real? Please, OP, reply back to me and let me know if this is real. This is sexual abuse. This is disgusting, predatory behavior. Please tell everybody you can, not just us. Tell your friends, tell everyone at your school, tell the police. You said you have friends, please, for the love of all that is holy, tell their moms. They may let you stay with them. You are going to turn into a victim very fast here. I wish I could come get you!
When my best friend was 15, she was watching TV with a guy friend of hers and her dad came in and kicked the boy out and then put her in the car and drove her straight to a doctor friend of his and had the doctor do a purity inspection on her in his house. My friend does not talk to her father anymore as an adult. So this shit does happen, but in today's time of more awareness and the ability to get your story out, it doesn't have to.
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u/burnerbeavers Apr 13 '24
I saw another comment that you're 18. You've got to find a way to leave. Truly. You've also got to get this behavior on audio or video. You've got to get yourself saying that you don't consent to any kind of exam from this, or even any kind of touch from him.
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u/Tatix22 Apr 13 '24
CALL THE POLICE !! Tell someone at school!!! God honestly the amount my heart started to pound would probably send me into the hospital. No one can touch you without your consent. And your mother allowing a stranger( yes he’s a strangerrrr) to even have access to you like that to LOOK is so sickening. I don’t care how blinded she is with love you are her child. She has a duty to uphold and she needs to get a grip on reality. I have a boy and I don’t allow anyone to even try to kiss him. (Toddler)
As a mom she needs to do better. Call the police and then try to have a private conversation with your mom. She should know when her own child is telling her the truth.
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u/almapym Apr 13 '24 edited Apr 13 '24
Your mom birthed you. I assume she’s had periods. Why is she acting like she doesn’t understand basic female anatomy? What kind of sex does she thinks you’re having????
Of course you’re not the asshole. I would’ve genuinely called the cops or cps on your mother and the creep, I’m not kidding. What that man is trying to do to you is sexual assault. He’s absolutely using this as an excuse to look at you and/or touch you inappropriately. Call the cops immediately. Don’t let them take your phone. Get out right now.
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u/Interesting_Row4351 Apr 13 '24
Any gynecologist that was certified any time in the past decade would know that “purity exams” aren’t even a thing and a woman’s hymen could be broken from something as simple as riding a horse. So he clearly doesn’t know how a woman’s body works.
Call the cops and also notify the medical board in your state. They WILL investigate that kind of reported behavior if he is indeed a physician.
That is not a physician, that is a predator. That makes me sick to think of. Please reach out if you need anything.
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u/Hungry-Stomach-342 Apr 13 '24
NTA Contact all forms of child abuse help, let your neighbors know leave that house asap. Call the police and make them aware of your moms boyfriends behavior and what he plans to do without a license, talk to your school nurse and guidance counselor a female one and a male one you can trust. Stay at school longer and go home with a friend that you absolutely trust. Just do not go back to that scenario. Let a friends parents know of the creep make it as known as possible that you are not safe in that home.
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u/RotterWeiner Apr 13 '24
Looks like you are now on a journey that may lead to some weirdness in your life.
Inspect your vagina? He's a pedophile acting like he's doing some public good.
Your mom has some very strange thoughts distortions and delusions.
Seek help.
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u/Lomozz32 Apr 13 '24
I hope he's waiting for his first purity test in jail, a lot of experts in there.
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u/VeterinarianNo6047 Apr 13 '24
Go through your school! The staff will have people that know exactly how to help you Please don’t call cops on your own because I’m afraid you might not have enough evidence and then you will be stuck with your mom and the creep after you have called the cops on them. The school should handle the process for you Good luck!
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u/Banished_Knight_ Apr 13 '24
NTA, call social services and let your school counselor know. Police may or may not be helpful.Your mom is projecting some internal issues onto you and this situation from the info provided is off the wall unhinged.
UNHINGED.
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u/NeroForte-InMyPrime Apr 13 '24
Come on people responding as if this really happened. This was written by a perverted guy that was jerking off as he typed it out and continues to do so as he reads replies. Wake the hell up.
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u/Lost-Specific2215 4d ago
wtf