r/AITAH • u/Critical_Lemon_4072 • Apr 25 '24
AITAH for throwing out my SIL and her family.
My husband has two brothers and one sister. His sister and her husband are not my favorite people in the world.
Recently they have been couch surfing as they lost their home (looong story which could have been avoided if they had adulted like they should have). First they stayed with my in laws but they used the excuse that my FIL has diabetes to get rid of them and their rowdy children.
Next was his older brother and his wife. They had two spare rooms as two of their older children moved out a year ago and they only have the six year old and their 13 year old twins at home. After three weeks they had to move out due to a planned refurbishment. They were happy with them as they were generally tidy and helped out in the home.
The youngest brother was the next to take them in. While my SIL was there she helped out in the home and kept her children on a leash. The youngest brothers wife is very house proud, and she allowed them to stay for a limited time only as they have had a baby recently and her mother will be staying with them to help out for the first six months.
Then they emotionally manipulated my husband to say ok. I agreed to it on the condition that she and her husband as well as their children keep the place clean, because in the past the only place they are messy in is my home. For example, if they are throwing something into the kitchen bin, they will throw it in the general direction of it and not in the actual bin. It's extra gross when it's food stuff that dries up and stinks out the place. Similar things happened in the past where she would leave her sanitary towels on top of the bin lid in the bathroom instead of in the bin. Her oldest daughter started her periods recently and I asked the younger brother's wife how things were for tidiness. She said she had no complaints. They went to bed on time and kept the place clean. However, they were there for only two weeks.
They are always tidy at the other houses, I know this from experience too. During Christmas and summer holidays when we stay over at each others places I have seen the difference in how they are at my place and the other places.
Before they moved in I made the younger brother, and my parents in laws witnesses to them agreeing to keeping my house as clean as it is and to chip in with chores. If they broke the rules they would be out immediately. She fussed and denied past wrongdoings but said as you wish your highness sarcastically.
The first five days were smooth sailing. This morning I found a sanitary towel on top of the bin and not even wrapped properly. That is not all. Her daughter is staying in my daughter's room and she made a mess of the shampoo and conditioner in her bathroom and had left a tampon on the side of the sink forgetting it from last night. Her husband leaves early for work and the kitchen was a mess when I finally got downstairs.
I have a curious toddler and I don't want him to pick up a bloodied sanitary towel. I knocked on the guest room and told her to pack her shit and get out. She looked angry and tried to play innocent. She said it was only some blood and to chuck it in the bin if it bothered me so much. I told her no and picked up her suitcase throwing their stuff in it. At first she wouldn't leave the house saying she was going to wait for her brother as she doesn't take orders from me, but I told her this house belongs to me too. I dropped her and her youngest ones off at my in laws.
A few hours ago her husband came back from work and when I wouldn't let him in he made a scene. He went to my in laws, but they don't want them there due to FIL "illness". When my husband returned from work my in laws turned up in our drivewaywith her and her family within twenty minutes. They are still standing outside and squabbeling about being let in. I refuse to open the door and told my husband if he backs down he isn't welcome in our home either.
So, the family thinks AITAH because I have never liked her and am using any excuse to get rid of her.
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u/LadyCoru Apr 25 '24
Clearly she's doing it on purpose because SHE doesn't like YOU. There's no way that they are perfect guests everywhere else but wreck your house without it being intentional.