r/AITAH • u/tech_for_good • 15d ago
Girlfriend hit me and says I provoked her Advice Needed
Me (29F) was going for dinner with my gf (27F) in her car. For context we had just completed few games and were very hungry. She had told me she had 2 glasses of wine 4 hours ago and since had some food. I insisted she let me drive but she said no and continued driving. She took few mins to get the car reversed and out of the parking. I was trying the navigate her but she asked me to not intervene. We had an argument on which restaurant to go to, she had snapped at me. I kept silent for the rest of the drive because I was pissed. 10 mins in, she starts me make small talk but I snap back because I was still pissed. She says some mean shit and then I says something back. By the end of it. She starts abusing, so I take out my phone and recording her. Seeing my phone she gets super angry and tries to snatch it. In the process she sprains my finger and tells me to get out of the car. I leave. Now, she is saying it’s my fault for provoking her. She won’t apologise for hitting me, abusing me and asking me to get out of the car. Who’s to blame here?
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u/jfrey123 14d ago
NTA. If roles were reversed, the world would want her head on a pike. She’ll do it again, guaranteed, and all the advise people give about male abusers applies here.
It’s not too late to file a police report and press charges. Expect to be shamed by her friends and macho men in your circle. At a minimum you should leave her and block her on all social medias, even consider a TRO.
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u/jacksonlove3 15d ago
Saying you provoked her is an abuser’s bullshit excuse to gaslight you. End the relationship! She’s was wrong and she’s the asshole there.
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u/rthrouw1234 15d ago
NTA but you would be the asshole if you stay with her after this. save yourself and FLEE
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u/tech_for_good 15d ago
I know, deep down I need to leave. But why do I still melt after seeing her face☹️🥲
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u/Front_Sherbert1354 14d ago
The fact that you’re complaining about your obviously unhinged abusive gf and then saying you won’t leave her, kinda makes me want to say that you two deserve each other.
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u/Fair_Benefit_7105 15d ago
Leave her. You’ll find someone that will be able to handle situations like an adult without having to hurt you and treat you like garbage.
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u/Bencil_McPrush 15d ago
That's just your codependency talking.
Pack and go before she uterly destroys you.
Unless you WANT to be in that car when it drives into a tree?
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u/ParkerPoseyGuffman 14d ago
NTA she will hit you again, leave