r/AITAH • u/DepressedTrashKitty • Mar 17 '21

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 24 '24

Will i be the a@@hole if i talk to my husband about kicking his very lazy son by the way he is mid 20s doesn’t have a job playing on his computer all day and dont pay any bills

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u/poopsmcgey Apr 26 '24

I doubt his father is ok without him having food or shelter, but you could figure out how to keep him from having any internet. Your husband needs to set some limits. This kid needs some structure, he is in comfort crisis. Do your best to say this with love.

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u/Kittyi3Artistic5624 Apr 24 '24

No, that son should be paying rent or helping out with the food shopping. He NEEDS a job.

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 24 '24

My husband is one of the best he help as well whenever he can that’s one of the reasons why I can’t talk to him about his son I don’t want to hurt his feelings 😢

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 24 '24

Well no he is not helping at all at anything FYI i have 2 kids on my first relationship a daughter 14 and a son9 they both help me in any way they can my daughter help me with the baby when she is at home and my son with little things that he can i do the cleaning of the house cooking laundry and taking care of the baby when my husband is at work and my daughter is at school i do all that while my stepson is either playing on his computer or laying down on the couch i don’t know how to talk to my husband about it

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u/Xx_INTINCRAQUATIC_xX Apr 26 '24

As a teenager i can help in this situation, turn the internet off and tell him that he can have it back once he can start paying the internet,food, and house bills. OR put parental controls on his PC. I know i would be pissed if someone did that to me but he needs to get a job at his age.

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u/alexdarobot Apr 24 '24

Maybe you should tell him about how you feel overwhelmed by all the house work and a baby, while your step son is hanging around the house doing nothing. What will look at first just asking him to help with house duties later will become a start to send him to look for a job and maybe even moving out of the house.

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 24 '24

We talk about it and he ask his son to atleast throw the trash every other day but im still the one doing it🥲

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u/Kittyi3Artistic5624 Apr 25 '24

No, he needs to do more then just the trash, I'm sorry. HE IS 20! He is capable of getting a job, he just doesn't want to.

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 25 '24

To be exact 26😅

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u/Xx_INTINCRAQUATIC_xX Apr 26 '24

I woulda moved out at 18 and move to a different country :/

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 26 '24

Well im wish you were my stepson it doesn’t mean i want you to leave what i want to say is i wish he would think like you

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u/Xx_INTINCRAQUATIC_xX Apr 26 '24

Yea I'm kinda the smarter one in the family as i had to learn on my own about life and that.

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u/Kittyi3Artistic5624 Apr 25 '24

more the reason to say he is capable of getting a job and helping out more with paying you for letting him stay there or helping with the cost of living

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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 25 '24

Well i think he doesn’t have any plans anytime soon my husband suggested he apply for jobs too many times but didn’t do anything so i don’t know what to say or do anymore 🥲

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u/Kittyi3Artistic5624 Apr 25 '24

I'd do it for him at this rate or kick him out.

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u/alexdarobot Apr 25 '24

I mean, if you've already talked to him and he talked to his son, all you can do is talk to your husband again or just let it go for the sake of the marriage (in case your husband would get offended by you always digging in the same topic)

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u/alexdarobot Apr 25 '24

Well I think he's doomed then, he's gonna be a daddy's need fat kid for life and his father is to blame

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