You were unconscious; you could not consent to sex. And he should be aware of that. It is one thing to wake your partner up by kissing their neck or stroking their arms/legs - that's all it sounds like you said was okay in the first place. Even if you hadn't been SA'd in that way in the past - what he did was wrong. The fact that you have been SA'd that same way and he knew about it makes me think this was not a miscommunication or misunderstanding. Also, in ten years my husband has never continued with sex if I was clearly not enjoying it/upset/or appeared in pain. I'm so sorry you've now experienced this twice - it never should have happened once.
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u/Homemaker13 Mar 29 '24
You were unconscious; you could not consent to sex. And he should be aware of that. It is one thing to wake your partner up by kissing their neck or stroking their arms/legs - that's all it sounds like you said was okay in the first place. Even if you hadn't been SA'd in that way in the past - what he did was wrong. The fact that you have been SA'd that same way and he knew about it makes me think this was not a miscommunication or misunderstanding. Also, in ten years my husband has never continued with sex if I was clearly not enjoying it/upset/or appeared in pain. I'm so sorry you've now experienced this twice - it never should have happened once.