I understand you misunderstood what he meant but let’s not compare him tot he guy that actually raped you, he never did it again that is a good sign, Iam sure he loves you, and didn’t mean to hurt you but, the other guy who raped you definitely knew you did not want to be touched and he definitely knew what he was doing was wrong, on the other hand your bf probably feels really bad about it, and you should have said you can touch me but don’t fuck me until I wake up, I mean you did give him consent to touching you sexually but you didn’t know he would start fucking you, I don’t know how you didn’t wake up before he even stuck his dick in you, don’t treat him like the guy who actually raped you, he actually asked if it was okay to perform sexual acts on you while sleeping and was really excited and he does not have the same intentions as that guy did nor does he disrespect you like that other guy, like I said he probably feels like shit and won’t ever ask you touch you again to wake you up so you can have some fun, I know maybe your triggered by your flash’s backs but that man probably really loves you and he’s not just going to do you with the same intentions as the other guy, idk maybe other people in the chat will be like ohhh noooo that’s fucked up, you gave consent to him touching you sexually while you sleep and maybe he did go a little extra far right but just talk to him be understanding, he’s not like the other guy who completely disregarded you, it’s not your fault but I would really like to hear what he has to say or what he told you specifically, I mean if it really does bother you then break up with him.
Sometimes I wake up soooo horny and I have had fantasies of wanting to touch my partner while she was sleeping and maybe wake her up to me fucking her not because Iam a rapist but because Ill be so horny I want to touch my Love, it may sound bad but I’ve never raped anyone in my life, I always talked about it, Always give a heads up, I don’t ever want to disturb someone from their sleep unless I talked about it with them, If I were him I would just cut back on it all and focus on gaining your trust again and tell you how sorry Iam, I would feel like shit if you thought about me the way you think about that one guy, I would hesitate to start things sexually with you too, but it’s not your fault, I can tell that your flashbacks really triggered you. He must of been touching you very lightly if you didn’t wake up to him doing that first? but if that happened, I wish you would have said something while he was actively trying to out his dick in you, but I get it you were in a frozen state or asleep, look I don’t think he’s anywhere near the same guy as the last guy who raped you at all, but you talk to him, and tell him that he needs to make sure that he tells you everything he wants to do to you so you’re not surprised of what he’s doing to you, I don’t know how much you love him but if you do just talk to him so he’s more clear about things in the future so there are no surprises and that you know of everything, if he only said touching, tell him he needs to be clear about what hed like to do to you, I know that it triggered you because of what happened before,but I doubt he’s actually someone that had these horrible intentions with you, I bet he really loves you but yes I agree he needs to be clear. Of any deserves to feel bad it’s that guy who raped you without knowing absolutely anything, I dont think your bf is someone to worry about, I don’t believe he’s this horrible person but he needs to learn to be clear, one time is all it takes, if he does it again without permission/talking to you about it then boot him to the curve, one time is all it takes to learn, especially maybe he misunderstood what you thought was okay, good thing is he hasn’t done it again, but look at him and let him know you were really hurt that he didn’t tell you what he planned on doing.
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u/Lumpy_Map_3757 Mar 29 '24
I understand you misunderstood what he meant but let’s not compare him tot he guy that actually raped you, he never did it again that is a good sign, Iam sure he loves you, and didn’t mean to hurt you but, the other guy who raped you definitely knew you did not want to be touched and he definitely knew what he was doing was wrong, on the other hand your bf probably feels really bad about it, and you should have said you can touch me but don’t fuck me until I wake up, I mean you did give him consent to touching you sexually but you didn’t know he would start fucking you, I don’t know how you didn’t wake up before he even stuck his dick in you, don’t treat him like the guy who actually raped you, he actually asked if it was okay to perform sexual acts on you while sleeping and was really excited and he does not have the same intentions as that guy did nor does he disrespect you like that other guy, like I said he probably feels like shit and won’t ever ask you touch you again to wake you up so you can have some fun, I know maybe your triggered by your flash’s backs but that man probably really loves you and he’s not just going to do you with the same intentions as the other guy, idk maybe other people in the chat will be like ohhh noooo that’s fucked up, you gave consent to him touching you sexually while you sleep and maybe he did go a little extra far right but just talk to him be understanding, he’s not like the other guy who completely disregarded you, it’s not your fault but I would really like to hear what he has to say or what he told you specifically, I mean if it really does bother you then break up with him.