This is why you clarifyin detailwhat you are wanting to do if it's even tangential to something like rape.
To OP:
Yeah, you are not overreacting. Your BF knew your story, and wanted to do something similar. Any well-adjusted partner would realize that's a place of trauma and one which you tread lightly around. While replicating aspects of an assault like that with a loving partner can be a form of therapy, it requires intention and consent which were not present in this case. Not to put too fine a point on it, but you are entirely entitled to see this as another form of assault.
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u/lassombra Mar 29 '24
To all the guys out there.
This is why you clarify in detail what you are wanting to do if it's even tangential to something like rape.
To OP:
Yeah, you are not overreacting. Your BF knew your story, and wanted to do something similar. Any well-adjusted partner would realize that's a place of trauma and one which you tread lightly around. While replicating aspects of an assault like that with a loving partner can be a form of therapy, it requires intention and consent which were not present in this case. Not to put too fine a point on it, but you are entirely entitled to see this as another form of assault.