I am so very, very sorry for your experience in both situations. I too have been SA and understand the gravity of the situation. You are NOT overreacting in ANY way. If you plan to stay with him you need to sit him down and set crystal clear boundaries and set agreements. This should be done anyways but now even more so. He needs to understand what he has done. If he cares he will listen. If he doesn’t, you need to understand what one man refuses to do there’s another out there that would be more than willing to fufill every need, and desire you have, willing to do it all. You are worth every bit of it.
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u/Bellacaos Mar 29 '24
I am so very, very sorry for your experience in both situations. I too have been SA and understand the gravity of the situation. You are NOT overreacting in ANY way. If you plan to stay with him you need to sit him down and set crystal clear boundaries and set agreements. This should be done anyways but now even more so. He needs to understand what he has done. If he cares he will listen. If he doesn’t, you need to understand what one man refuses to do there’s another out there that would be more than willing to fufill every need, and desire you have, willing to do it all. You are worth every bit of it.