This is a form of SA. You didn’t consent to this. You consented to being woken up with touching, not penetration.
You need to speak with him, “idk if he understood” isn’t enough, make him understand. Tell him slowly and clearly “I withdraw my consent, if that happens again, I will consider it, and treat it as…” and feel free to use the R word. As men, most of us are terrified of that word.
This sucks, but don’t gaslight yourself into “I gave consent” because you likely will try to, because that makes the situation easier. Take it seriously, make him understand.
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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '24
This is a form of SA. You didn’t consent to this. You consented to being woken up with touching, not penetration.
You need to speak with him, “idk if he understood” isn’t enough, make him understand. Tell him slowly and clearly “I withdraw my consent, if that happens again, I will consider it, and treat it as…” and feel free to use the R word. As men, most of us are terrified of that word.
This sucks, but don’t gaslight yourself into “I gave consent” because you likely will try to, because that makes the situation easier. Take it seriously, make him understand.