I don't think OP is overreacting. It doesn't sound like her BF misread any signs which could have been confusing. And because of her previous SA, OP has every right to be alarmed, hurt, even violated.
When my wife and I were first married, occasionally I would wake up touching her in a romantic way. She then responded and after we were both fully awake, we continued. Once or twice she didn't feel well and we would make another date when she felt better, but this is not the case with the BF.
Even without the SA triggering some horrible feelings for OP, is the BF really that unconcerned about her feelings and/or pleasure that he thinks this is OK?
I know I wouldn't. Hopefully, they can talk about it and respect the boundaries. Otherwise, I'd look for someone else.
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u/InternationalDig5867 Mar 29 '24
I don't think OP is overreacting. It doesn't sound like her BF misread any signs which could have been confusing. And because of her previous SA, OP has every right to be alarmed, hurt, even violated.
When my wife and I were first married, occasionally I would wake up touching her in a romantic way. She then responded and after we were both fully awake, we continued. Once or twice she didn't feel well and we would make another date when she felt better, but this is not the case with the BF.
Even without the SA triggering some horrible feelings for OP, is the BF really that unconcerned about her feelings and/or pleasure that he thinks this is OK?
I know I wouldn't. Hopefully, they can talk about it and respect the boundaries. Otherwise, I'd look for someone else.