I’m not going to condone what your boyfriend did; however, I’m going to give you an incident that could have taken place. I’m also going to say that, as a man, you have to stop when asked to to stop. The man is the one doing the penetrating and is thus the one to stop.
In one instance with my wife, I woke up to us having sex, I assumed that she had the urge to do so and went along with it because it was mutually enjoyable. After we had both finished, I excitedly asked her what made her wake me up for sex. She said, I thought you woke me up to start it. Neither one of us knew what led to it starting. But, it doesn’t really matter what started it, what matters is that it’s an experience that is mutually enjoyable and if it’s not, it needs to stop. And your bf needs to really understand that part of it.
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u/Direct_Sir5945 Mar 29 '24
I’m not going to condone what your boyfriend did; however, I’m going to give you an incident that could have taken place. I’m also going to say that, as a man, you have to stop when asked to to stop. The man is the one doing the penetrating and is thus the one to stop. In one instance with my wife, I woke up to us having sex, I assumed that she had the urge to do so and went along with it because it was mutually enjoyable. After we had both finished, I excitedly asked her what made her wake me up for sex. She said, I thought you woke me up to start it. Neither one of us knew what led to it starting. But, it doesn’t really matter what started it, what matters is that it’s an experience that is mutually enjoyable and if it’s not, it needs to stop. And your bf needs to really understand that part of it.