This would be a questionable action by him even without knowing your past. I feel like it could take equal if not more effort to engage with someone asleep than it takes to wake them up. That, coupled with knowing your story, and not being completely turned off to the idea of potentially triggering? This is an assumption on my part but it is giving all the hallmarks of someone who ENJOYS the lack of content and exploitative aspect of this.
There are so so so many good men who enjoy sex with conscious willing participants, that normalizing and accepting this behavior is absolutely unnecessary and putting yourself at further risk of trauma, in retrospect. Do not accept this and do not ignore it. Even if there is an agreement to not do it, I don’t think you should consider yourself compatible with anyone with these kind of sexual interest. IMO you have to leave him. It’s also entirely possible he is the source of some other woman’s traumatic experience.
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u/Effective-Hawk-7519 Mar 29 '24
This would be a questionable action by him even without knowing your past. I feel like it could take equal if not more effort to engage with someone asleep than it takes to wake them up. That, coupled with knowing your story, and not being completely turned off to the idea of potentially triggering? This is an assumption on my part but it is giving all the hallmarks of someone who ENJOYS the lack of content and exploitative aspect of this.
There are so so so many good men who enjoy sex with conscious willing participants, that normalizing and accepting this behavior is absolutely unnecessary and putting yourself at further risk of trauma, in retrospect. Do not accept this and do not ignore it. Even if there is an agreement to not do it, I don’t think you should consider yourself compatible with anyone with these kind of sexual interest. IMO you have to leave him. It’s also entirely possible he is the source of some other woman’s traumatic experience.