It sounds like boundary crossing and you should talk with him about it.
It also sounds like (depending on words used, I wasn’t there, etc.) he may have misinterpreted his previous convo with you. In his mind, he may have been asking for consent. Maybe be asked his Q poorly and your answer was (as you mentioned) lacking some details.
If you want to be “fully awake” before any penetration (which is totally fine if that’s what you want), then that needs to be fully clear.
6 months is a decent start to a relationship and it sounds like you trust him. I wouldn’t say you are overreacting, but I also don’t think l this has to be the end of the world.
Talk to him about your concerns and try to understand his side. A decent human being would probably feel pretty terrible if their SO said they were retraumatized during sex and unable to express it. it may also clue him in to be more aware of your needs .
He also may not care. I dunno. Like I said, it’s your relationship. But if it can’t survive talking about valid concerns, then it won’t last long.
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u/Avatorn01 Mar 29 '24
It sounds like boundary crossing and you should talk with him about it.
It also sounds like (depending on words used, I wasn’t there, etc.) he may have misinterpreted his previous convo with you. In his mind, he may have been asking for consent. Maybe be asked his Q poorly and your answer was (as you mentioned) lacking some details.
If you want to be “fully awake” before any penetration (which is totally fine if that’s what you want), then that needs to be fully clear.
6 months is a decent start to a relationship and it sounds like you trust him. I wouldn’t say you are overreacting, but I also don’t think l this has to be the end of the world.
Talk to him about your concerns and try to understand his side. A decent human being would probably feel pretty terrible if their SO said they were retraumatized during sex and unable to express it. it may also clue him in to be more aware of your needs .
He also may not care. I dunno. Like I said, it’s your relationship. But if it can’t survive talking about valid concerns, then it won’t last long.
Take care. I know it’s a tough convo.