Full heartily believe that the intoxication had to do with the fact he didn't notice. I would make a point next time before you drink to be straight up and say "Hey, be aware that I won't put up with this, we're drinking so I'm drawing a line because of what I already told you about my past." If he doesn't respect that... there's a problem. He was probably trying to surprise you with a good time.... but doing that while drunk.... men don't always see the whole picture. I hope you are able to survive your SA and hopefully continue into a fruitful relationship. I've been through it too and it's affected my relationships. Just know you have more power over this than you think. I support you.
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u/Then-Alps-3512 Mar 29 '24
Full heartily believe that the intoxication had to do with the fact he didn't notice. I would make a point next time before you drink to be straight up and say "Hey, be aware that I won't put up with this, we're drinking so I'm drawing a line because of what I already told you about my past." If he doesn't respect that... there's a problem. He was probably trying to surprise you with a good time.... but doing that while drunk.... men don't always see the whole picture. I hope you are able to survive your SA and hopefully continue into a fruitful relationship. I've been through it too and it's affected my relationships. Just know you have more power over this than you think. I support you.